Katrina - posted on 07/02/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Hi my name is Kat. My daughter will be 3 this September and is my only child. Her dad and I have different approaches when it comes to disciplining our daughter. I sometimes think being a stay at home I have had seen the effectiveness of things I have tried and the response of those that were not so effective. I am not particularly fond of spanking as any form of discipline and has seen it result in the fear it causes between parent and child. Before I being a mother I attended college and had a wonderful psychology professor would spoke of discipline of a child and describe the effect of spanking and the gentlest pat of the hand can result in such a reaction. Also the effect it not only has on the child but on the parent. I know those of you reading this if you have every used spanking has likely experience of the motherly guilt that is associated with it. I have found with my daughter that keeping calm and responding to the negative behaviors with a compassion is more effective than of anything else I tried. I can always tell the differences between when I respond rather than react. I would like for all to share their experience here and advice here.