4 Months Old Baby - Attachemnt issue, My little one is usualy a happy content baby but of the late he wants to be in my arms 24/7 i cannot even go to the batroom for 2 min. I have tried the going in and out of the room, talking and yes its hard to admit, let him cry, problem is he gets so worked up he starts to cough and i cannot leave him like that.....any help please.

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Amy - posted on 01/26/2009

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I feel your pain, my husband and I have the EXACT same problem. I couldn't believe that at four months old my son could already be throwing temper tantrums but he does. I recently read in one of my nursing books that infants don't get "object permanence" unitl around 7-8 months, meaning at that time when you leave they know you will be back. My best friend said her son was worse than her daughters and that he stopped that around six months. She said enjoy it know because at six months he did not want to be held.

Jill - posted on 01/26/2009

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Daniela I feel your pain. My little girl is the same way right now, she will be 5 months next week. It is really hard to get anything done and even going the bathroom is tough. I can even put on a full face of makeup with her in my arms :) I'm not sure how to break this either. I have been going out more lately to visit people; having them hold and play with her so hoping maybe this will help her bond with others. It is hard when you are with them all day though to not have attachment issues. She went through a stage about a month ago that she wanted nothing to do with her dad, which killed him and me. Even though he was home after work, she refused to go to him by crying and screaming when I tried to have him hold her. NOT FUN!

Rachel~ I think I'm going to try your advice and by putting her down in her crib and feeding her there. She sleeps in a bassinet right now because she is so little (premie) I worry about her being in the crib. She isn't a big fan of her crib because she is use to feeling the sides of the crib. Maybe taking naps in the crib will help her feel better and give me sometime during the day to get things done without her in my arms.

Any other advice would be appreciated.

Rachel - posted on 01/26/2009

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My little guy went through that at 3months and only cried when I put him down and work himself up 2 - he'd be in a dead sleep in my arms go to put him down and wide awake.....what I did was take him to his crib when he showed signs of being sleepy, I'd give him his bottle  while he was in his crib and he'd fall asleep there, if he woke up which he would in less than 10 mins I would rub his belly, pat his side etc til he fell asleep. Sometimes during the day I would put him in his crib and play with him with some of his fav. toys and do stuff in his room laundry etc and keep talking to him, some tears but as the days went by he got more comfortable with just hearing my voice and he outgrew this in less than 2wks - he now at 4 1/2 months puts himself to sleep and actually prefers to do this then fall asleep in my arms ..... whatever you choose to do do in small increments and increase the time gradually so they don't notice, it actually comes down to a "trust" issue. Good luck.

Renee - posted on 01/26/2009

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I've been having the same problem with mine lately too, wanting to be held ALL the time. I figured it was b/c I just went back to work part time about 3 weeks ago. I was thinking that maybe the days I work he misses me, so when I am home he doesn't let me out of his sight. Are you away from him more then usual lately?

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2009

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My baby used to do that to, but he wasnt really cuddly at all, just when he cried, he'd cry so hard, hes start coughing, and choking. So pretty much, all you can do is run to them when they do that because you know EXACTLY what their gonna do! I remember when he's do it when he didnt want to sleep, and id just pick him right back up from the crib because i knew hed just cry and cough....its almost like a fake cough so they can get your attention! Sorry tho, i dont really have any advice, but mine did stop doing it as much, now he'll just talk to himself really really loudly and beat his feet until id come. I just thought it was crazy that someone else had the same problem as me! I thought my baby was just weird!! lol

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Daniela - posted on 01/26/2009

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Quoting Renee:

I've been having the same problem with mine lately too, wanting to be held ALL the time. I figured it was b/c I just went back to work part time about 3 weeks ago. I was thinking that maybe the days I work he misses me, so when I am home he doesn't let me out of his sight. Are you away from him more then usual lately?



No i am with him 24/7 and give him attention all the time x

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