Jeanine - posted on 12/18/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )
Being a first time mom i am learning every day!! Its difficult with all the new developements vs your mother and grandparents giving you all the advice that now seems so wrong!
A couple of day ago Daniel (my 3 month old) started fighting the breast!! Crying uncontrollable and just not happy. Thing is, i knew he was hungry, so i tried and tried again... swaying and singing... boob in mouth and baby screaming. Eventually he'd get tired and start drinking like he had never been fed before! he'd drink for what seemed forever, with the odd jerk off the boob, only to start the whole process over.
Not to mention that by the time i had him fed and sleeping i was in a state... feeling inadaquate, crying and stressed out!!! Not sure if i was force feeding, but i was so sure he was hungry! He does not take a dummy or bottle, so i was so scared that he's starve (not likely)
All the old folk said he is hungry and i should start feeding him the number1 porridge... which concerned me because all i have heard is that they should't have any solids until ATLEAST 4 months!!
Finally... my doula advised that it might be what they call a NURSING STRIKE. It occurs when something traumatic happens while breastfeeding! The baby then associates the breast with the trauma... Either being poked in the eye by another child, or you screaming if he bites you while feeding...
And the bells went off.... Monday, while breatsfeeding(naked) the house alarm went off (very loud) I jerked the boob out his mouth and scurried for my gown... By now he was screaming, along with the alarm and the security company calling on the cell. I picked him up.. ran out the house, him still crying, cellphone on ear to security company and disarming the alarm!!!
You can imagine how traumatic it was for him!
So please know, if it does happen to you, use some rescue drops, on both of you!! Take special care to make him feel secure when you breastfeed. Try a different room or position! talk to him and reassure him!!
And be assured, your milk is not "OFF", he has not turned on you... and more than that... you are a good enough mother!!!!!