Well, I am a babywise mother. I did read the article, but from my experience, my first baby was "demand fed" and was thinner and generally more unhappy. My next two (my recent being 10 weeks) are happy and both roly-poly!
The problem I have with the article is takes everything out of context, which I suppose could be a danger if a new mother reading the book also did the same thing. The very first thing I noticed was it said that the book says that newborns should be on a 3-3 1/2 hour routine. The book says 2 1/2 to 3 if you calculate from the beginning of one feeding to the beginning of the next. It says to extend to 3 1/2 by 4 months (which I don't consider newborn).
Babywise says to feed your baby when they show signs of hunger. It even warns against "hyperscheduling" The problem is if your baby is not on a schedule at all, how do you learn what the signs of hunger look like? My baby is on a schedule, even though I have sometimes fed her at 2 hours and often at 2 1/2. I never needed to at 1 1/2 hours b/c she's always asleep at that time! Only somebody very cruel and ignorant would make the baby go a full three hours to the dot if the baby is hungry earlier. It's just common sense! Also, the danger of feeding TOO SOON is that your milk supply hasn't had a chance to rebuild from the last feeding! Try pumping every 1 1/2 hours and see how much you get!
The most amazing part of the article to me was under the list of Babywise's "unsubstantiated" information was that Babywise says that putting your baby on his/her back to sleep reduces crib death. This is unsubstantiated??? I read that everywhere! That's what the medical community says!
Anyway, if you do want to get a little out of Babywise w/out actually following it, listen to what Jill says- follow the feed time, wake time, nap time pattern. It REALLY works! My baby now sleeps 8 hours a night - and no, I never had to let her cry it out either. It just happened, exactly at 8 weeks- just like Babywise says!
Wendy - posted on 11/26/2008
I've read the book and i dont' follow it the schedual strictly i found that my son does do better with the eat/wake/sleep cycle. I do let him feed at night times and i actually didnt' start trying to get him on a "schedual" until he was 7 weeks old. Now if he's hungry before "it's time" to eat i feed him. But i read the book because a lot of people were talking about it, so i wanted to see what it was about and i can say that i didnt' agree with a lot of it's points. It's a good idea in theory but in practice i dont' see it working out so well in the end. Every baby is different and you cant' write a book that will work for every baby.
Jill - posted on 11/26/2008
I agree that the book is just a guide but you have to also listen to your baby. We have been following Babywise and have had great results. Our 11 week old is sleeping well and thriving. The main points that I took away from the book are to have 3 distinct phases between each feeding - feed time, awake time and sleep time, as well as never keeping our baby up for more than 1-2 hours before putting him down for a nap. He wakes up on his own every 3 hours on the dot to eat during the day, and sleeps from 7-10 hours at night. When he hit a growth spurt (around 6 weeks), he wanted to eat every 2 - 2.5 hours, and I fed him. As long as you still listen and respond to your baby's cues, your baby should be fine.
Cindy - posted on 11/23/2008
Good points, but just like any other books on the market, I don't think we should take any of the advice 100%. Our pediatrician is opposed to "scheduling", which Babywise promotes, but it works for us. My baby is 11 weeks, 12 lbs and thriving just fine. I use the book as a guideline and am completely willing to change if reading my baby's cues and following my gut tell me to do something differently.
Mary - posted on 11/23/2008
I am so glad you posted this. My husbands aunt swears by babywise. She gave me the book, and I read, but I just didn't have a good feeling about it. It didn't seem right to me. My husband thought that I was being weird about it, but after reading that he was glad that I didn't try it.
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