Daycare troubles

Tanya - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter who just turned 11 months old, has had trouble at day care, all she does is cry cry and cry when I leave, and the 2 day cares that we have been too have asked not to bring her back because of it, its disruptive to other kids and just plain hard to cope with. I just don't know what to do to make it better at day care for her....I can have relatives that have only seen once or twice watch her..friends that she has only met once watch her and she doesn't do that. I did just go back to work when she was 8 months...any suggestions in making it better???

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It takes a few weeks for them to fully adjust to the new schedule, new teachers, new babies who sometimes don't like to share the toys, and having mommy (comfort!) gone on top of it. If the daycare asked you to leave, then it is NOT a good day care!!! I work at a daycare/preschool, and I brought my son to work with me when he was 8 months. I teach the 3's and he stays in the infant room. The first few weeks he cried CONSTANTLY, and the first few days, he even refused to eat. It broke my heart to see him not adjusting right away, but he did. Now he loves his teachers, and he doesn't freak out every time I walk by the room and don't go get him anymore. He knows I'll be back. :) Does your child have any comforting items from home that you can send with her such as a binkie, a favorite blanket or toy? Sometimes having something that smells like home to snuggle up with is super comforting to a child who is adjusting to the change. Also, remember to never sneak off when she's distracted. That will only scare her more, and get her more upset. Make sure you keep drop offs short and sweet. Always tell her good-bye, and that you will see her later. At home, play peek-a-boo games with her often. It sounds silly, but this will reinforce that idea that when mommy leaves, she comes back. Leave the room, and pop back in with a silly face, a silly sound, or a silly dance! It's all in good fun, and its bonding time with your little angel.
I also agree with previous post...try switching to a smaller daycare, rather than a corporate one. Corporate ratio is 1 to 5 babies, and 1 to 6 toddlers. Try someone who only has a few infants, to ensure your daughter will get that extra attention she needs. I hope some of this helps. :)

Chelsea - posted on 08/12/2009

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I also switched daycares because of this issue. I found a home daycare provider who thought it funny that another daycare would even think about sending an infant away for crying. She keeps the child to provider ratio low 2 or 3: 1 at all times. That ratio has made a world of difference as well as her attitude. You could also give your daughter a transition object such as a soft blanket or animal. Sleep with it so it smells like you and then bring it with her to and from daycare. Let her sleep with it and send it back to daycare with her. Hand it to her when you leave.

Chelsea - posted on 08/12/2009

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She may feel unsafe being put down with all the other kids. My daughter was the same way and although I had never used a pack 'n play with her and her daycare provider hated to use it that's what she wanted to play in. She felt secure up off of the floor so that she couldn't get stepped on, whacked etc. She also liked sitting in a stroller inside. I think it's important to find a daycare that is willing to stick it out. She is too young to reason with and its the job of the daycare to overcome these common obstacles in childcare. My daughter is now fine in daycare but it took a lot of hard work on her daycare providers part to earn her trust. It takes time to build trust.

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