How long did you wait to have another child?

Amy - posted on 08/05/2011 ( 79 moms have responded )

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I was just curious how long others waitied before having another baby or if they are just going to have one?
I woudl like to know what youthink of the age gaps or the closeness of the children. I just thought it would be a good conversation to have with other moms.

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Momof1 - posted on 03/05/2012

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My husband and I are going to wait until next May (2013) to start trying for baby 2. If I get pregnant right away, our son will be 4 years 3 months when baby 2 is born. I'm happy with that age gap. I want my son out of diapers first and hopefully in preschool like 2 days a week. My husband was kind of saying he wanted to try this May, but I just don't think I can handle two at the moment. Also, I want my son to be old enough that when I have to nurse the baby (especially at the newborn stage) that he will understand and will be old enough to play by himself or be able to get his own water from the fridge... We don't have family to help and our friends are about a half hour plus away, so we don't have help.



Did I ever think my kids would be 4 years apart? No. However that is what works best for the situation now. And on another note, I'm still hoping to lose the baby weight from my son (still have 25 lbs to go :/) because at the weight I'm at now, my blood pressure is high and I want to make sure I'm in good physical shape before getting pregnant again. Doctors also advise that a woman should wait 2 years after giving birth to get pregnant again.

Hannah - posted on 09/03/2011

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I had my first son sep 2008, second son dec 2009, and daughter may 2011. the boys are best friends, but having the third is pretty hectic, but the boys dont have any jealousy.

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Megan - posted on 10/05/2012

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All three of my kiddos are three years apart, and it great. They are close enough to play together but still far apart enough to help me with their younger sibling. 7yr old helps with 4yr old and 4yr old helps me with the 1yr old.

BryAnne - posted on 09/24/2012

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I had my don in September 2008, we've been trying for #2 for almost a year now.

V - posted on 09/12/2012

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ive only got one she is 9 but last 2 years ive really questioned about having(wanting )another im single right now ,would it be weird to ask the origional father to donate some swimmers so that i can have a second

Kristen - posted on 09/07/2012

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I waited almost 4 years to have my second child, which was a bit much because the 2 had nothing in common. Then for my last, he was a surprise, the best one I ever recieved btw, my middle boy was 8 mths when I was 1 month pregnant!!!! This was way too close for me. They are now 29 mths & 11 mths but they are the same size. Its a struggle but I thank God I have been able to stay home with them. Two years seems perfect for my friends though! :)

Robyn - posted on 09/04/2012

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My brother and I were 18months apart, it was nice because I always had someone to play with and walk home with from school, and on the play ground I had someone to stick up for me. I still think my mom was insane though I have a soon to be 3 year old in about a week and my husband and I just decided to turn it over to God on whether we had another one or not. I don't think I could ever handle them that close but then again I work 52 hours a week (I could slow down if I had too though just trying to pay off student loans) Good luck to you all!

Christie - posted on 08/12/2012

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I have a 16 year old, 10 year old, 7 year old, 4 year old, and 2 year old! I was young for first one so we waited the 5 years to try for the second making 6 year gap! It's a bit much, I like the 3 year gap the older one is potty trained and much more understanding of a new sibling, 2 year gap was not bad but last child is severly handicapped and alot of work so there won't be anymore children :)

Amanda - posted on 08/11/2012

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I just had my second child in November. The age gap works out, for the diapers, as my son is now potty trained. He understands more and is willing to help out.

Monica - posted on 07/27/2012

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My daughter was born in 2008 and we're trying for our 2nd one now. So if everything goes as planned, they will be about 4.5 years apart.

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2012

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I waited 8 months after my first was born to start trying for our second. My two boys are now 17 months apart, at ages 3 and 2. We are also 20 weeks pregnant with our 3rd. So they will all be less than two years apart.

User - posted on 07/17/2012

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i have 2 kids and there is only 10months between them. a 16month old and a 6month old and iam only 24. Iwouldnt have done it anyother way now as they are like best friends x

Kathy - posted on 07/15/2012

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Mine are almost exactly 3 years apart. First was Sept 2008 and second was August 2011. I think the gap is perfect and I hope they will be really close but far enough apart that they will be able to have their own space.

Jguido214 - posted on 07/10/2012

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4 years btwn kids. Wanted to make sure 1st was totally potty trained. Didn't want 2 in diapers.

Sarah - posted on 07/09/2012

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My two children are 20 months apart. Originally, I wanted them a little further apart, but happy accidents happen. I think it was a blessing in disguise because they play well together, take great care of each other, and show a great love for each other. :-)

Jessi - posted on 07/09/2012

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My daughters are 364 days apart (Alice was born one day before Emma's first birthday)... It's great that they have someone so close in age to play with, but when they were both in diapers, it was a challenge. Emma is potty trained now, and since she has her sister to emulate, Alice is starting too! Its great that Emma loves to teach the little one about the "ways of the world!"

Amy - posted on 07/07/2012

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when our first son was one we found out we were expecting another...so ours is just under 2 year gap,they get on really well and play with each other a lot now :)

Julie - posted on 07/04/2012

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When my first son turned one I said, "let's pull the goalie" I had become pregnant immediately with my first, so assumed it could happen at any moment. However, it took 9 months to conceive my second. My boys are two weeks shy of being 3 years apart

Nez - posted on 06/30/2012

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It was funny because as soon as my son was exactly 13 months, we found out I was pregnant again!!! dun dun dun! My daughter and my son are about 22 months apart...So imagine they wore diapers together, when I finally potty trained him, it wasn't long after I had to potty train her as well lol. But my husband & I have lots of fun with them, now my son Alex just turned 5 and Khai just turned 3 and man they love to bicker lol but as soon as I put one of them in time out, the other one loves to sit with the one in time out to keep them company until time out is over.. I love my kids those two are something else!

Martha - posted on 06/29/2012

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I basically didn't wait that long to have the second child, my son was 7 months when i got pregnant with my daughter, so they are 17months and 3 weeks apart. They get along pretty well, but my daughter is a little bit of the jealous type and wants the attention to herself! LOL! By the way, i did 3 hpt's and they are positive, so i guess # 3 is on its way! I will find out how far along i am in the next week and half or two! Wish me luck, i am nervous because of my daughter, so it should be interesting!

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2012

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Our first and second are 8 years apart lol, fun times. We had our son very young and then went to college started businesses etc before we had a second child. Even with the gap they have fun together and it worked well because he was a HUGE help. The second and third are 26 months apart and that has been a bit more interesting. Its a little hectic and chaotic because they feed off of eachother but they love eachother and play together great,I think they will be close as they get older. This time I am waiting until the baby now 2 and a half is about 4 before we have another one just to save my sanity because things do get a bit crazy around here.

Martha - posted on 06/28/2012

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After i had my son, i had my daughter, and they are 17months and 3 weeks apart. I just found out i am pregnant again and by the time this baby is born, my son will be 4 and my daughter will be 3. Eventually we want 4 in total.

Madeline - posted on 06/28/2012

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My second child was born exactly 4 years after my first child, which I think it was a good gap because there is no jealousy between then my son who was born first like to watch over his little sister.

Amanda - posted on 06/28/2012

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I'm having my second end of Aug, and my son will be 4 in Sept. For me personally this is best, i like the fact that i will only have one in diapers, my sons starting pre k, and he is now old enough to somewhat understand what i mean when i tell him hes going to have a baby sister. Plus he can now communicate to me if/when/why hes upset, especially about the big changes happening in all our lives.

Lizbeth - posted on 06/28/2012

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I have a 3 year old boy and expecting another baby boy due on November, so the Gap is 3 years 7 months, Can someone tell me if you think they will get along? I mean is the gap between them a large one? thank you!

Kimberly - posted on 06/26/2012

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I had my first in Oct. 2002, my second in may 2007 and my third Oct. 2008. I wish I never would of waited so long between the first and second. I also wish I would of waited a little longer between the second and third..... 5 years to big of gap but 17 months to small of a gap but I wish they were all closer because I have ALL boys

Andrea - posted on 06/26/2012

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I had my 1st one December 2009 and got pregnant w. my second one July 2010.My second one was born April 2011

Charlotte - posted on 06/25/2012

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Hi. My daughter is now 3yrs + 1 mnth old. We waited til this New Year for me to come off contraception, and am now 17wks pregnant, baby No.2 is due at the end of November.

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2012

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Surprisingly, all of mine were 2 and a half when the next was born :) 2003- 2006- 2009

Shalyn - posted on 06/18/2012

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I'm 6 months pregnant with my second, another little girl. My first will be almost 3 when she gets here. I think your little ones reach a stage when they are more willing to help out with things and I thought it would be good for her to have a little sister, although I am going to have my hands full! I think they will bond better being close in age. Can't wait to finally meet her! :)

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2012

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Hi, my first two children are 4.5 years apart and the other 3 are 2 years apart. I prefer waiting longer, because it's harder I think to have them so close together!

Tarah - posted on 06/16/2012

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our daughter was 27months when our son was born, our son was 18months when our second daughter was born, our second daughter was 23months old when our twins were born :D

Andrea - posted on 06/14/2012

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I'm 25 and my son is 4 years old but I do not plan on having another baby any time soon since I am no longer in a serious relationship. I am a single mom and would have loved to have another one when my son was 3; however, due to the circumstances, I rather wait until the right guy comes along.

Lisa_overman - posted on 06/10/2012

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My son is 11 months and 1 week younger than my September 08 daughter. He was definitely a surprise! It's been very difficult at times, but if I had it to do over again, I would do it exactly the same way! They are so close and we don't have much jealousy or sibling rivalry at all. I am currently kicking around the idea of going for a 3rd, but I kind of think we are done. I'm not sure what I would do with so much of a bigger age gap.

India - posted on 06/07/2012

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My siblings and I are really close. My sister and I are only 16 months apart and my brother is only 13 months younger than her. We're all really close and it was always nice to have a friend so close in age growing up. I, however, will be waiting quite a while before having another kid if I decide to have another kid at all.

Sondra - posted on 06/04/2012

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It really depends on how much you can handle. I have 2 boys that are 16 months apart. When I found out I was pregnant with my second so soon after my 1st, I was worried. But, it all worked out okay and I love it! They are like best friends now. They are so good together and it always puts a smile on my face.

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I know this is an old convo, but I'm new, so here goes...I have 3 kids and they are all 3 yrs apart. Literally 3 yrs down to the birthday. This was not planned, at least not by us, lol. I personally think that the 3 yr gap is perfect...it gives me enough time to enjoy one and by the time the other baby arrives, plus they are at an age where they don't need me the way the new baby does. By the time I had number 3 it was really nice because number 1 & 2 could play while I had the new baby. Also, they aren't too far to play together and be good friends,but just far enough in age so they can be at their own place and grow individually. At the end of the month my kids will be 10, 7, and 4.

Laceyashton - posted on 06/02/2012

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we have benn trying for 2nd baby since october 2011 but having a few problems, my son was born june 2008 i dont want to much of an age gap there is 9 years between me and my brother and we didnt really get on when we were younger, we get on alot better now but i dont want that sort of age gap between any children i have

Karen - posted on 05/29/2012

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I think it all depends on you. Everybody handles things differently, and the gender combo can work for one and maybe not for another. I had my first (daughter) when I was 32 years old. I had 4 miscarriages before I had her (long story short...turned out to be a progesterone issue). My husband and I wanted at least two children and because all the heartache we had gone through...we were afraid something may change with my body again that we decided wing it and see what happened. 13 months later...daughter #2 was born (with the help of progesterone shots). Now being close, you would figure that they would be great friends...the only time my girls aren't fighting and beating on each other and when they are sleeping. The two are now 9 and 8 and are still going strong (I'm actually bringing them to counceling now because I can't stand it anymore). Also, I have a 3-1/2 year old son in this mix. We decided after the girls and their constant behavior, we didn't want anymore and then Surprise! I was pregnant again (A little slip up there on my part). My son is so much different then my girls...and with the ages, it's chaos in my house everyday! I do have to tell you though, he is the Best mistake I ever made in my life! My son does add to the craziness but not that much more than what we were already dealing with...so I guess you can ask what others have done...but again, what worked for them, may not work for you. You don't want to be pregnant while trying to potty train your toddler, and chasing a toddler around all day can be pretty exhausting...being pregnant can be exhausting all it's own or getting up in the night for that newborn. Base your decision on what you feel capable of, what you believe you would be able to physically handle. Good Luck on your decision.

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2012

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my son was about 2 when we started to talk about it so he was two moths from being three when the new one arrived.

Alicia - posted on 05/25/2012

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I have been wondering the same thing. My son was just 2 in February and my fiance wants another baby. I dunno if we are ready yet. I dont think I want more than a few years between my kids. Me and my little sister are 19 years apart so I want all my kids to be around the same age.

Jessica - posted on 05/22/2012

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I have a 16 yr old, an 11 yr old a 5 yr old and a 4yr old. So there was quite a gap in the first 3 and not even year between the youngest! The gaps between each of them were perfect for me at the time of each! With the little ones being so much younger I feel it is good they are so close in age. However we are done!

Crystal - posted on 05/22/2012

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I waited 6 years before I had my 3 year old. I wanted to wait until we had a little more money and we could give them a better life. Even though we waited we still fell on hard times but things are turning around. Plus my 9 year old can got help with the baby. He was six when I had my youngest one.

Dawn - posted on 05/16/2012

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Honestly I think it depends when you think you are ready to handle another one. There is 4 years between my two oldest(I have four and pregnant with my 5th) A boy and a girl. Then my 3 girls are 5.5,4 a,and 2.5. There is 17 months between all of them. Now there is will be just over 3 years between my last two. Some days are harder then others for me with my girls being that close in age, but at the same time they are friends and I did go through alot of the same things at the same time and so it was an easier transction for me

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2012

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My husband and I started trying last year. His work kept him away from home so it took us a good 9 months (lol i know) to get preggo. I will be 23 weeks pregnant on wed, we found out we are having a girl. I think this is the prefect age gap, my son is out of diapers, going into pre school, and can understand and cope a bit better with becoming a big brother.

Cy'Asia - posted on 05/12/2012

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I believe 4 years is the perfect gap for another baby. My daughter just turned 2. I work two job and I just recently obtain my degree. I couldnt imagine having another baby at the moment but I am very open to the idea of it. I say 4 years is perfect because I would love to help each child once they leave to college, and that would give me plenty of time to replenish the account. lol. Happy Mothers Day Ladies!

Shannon - posted on 05/10/2012

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i had my daughter in sept 2008. it is now may 2012 and i still have not had another baby yet. some days i think that i don't think i could handle another baby, other's i want another baby really bad, an the rest of the days i think i just need to wait a little longer til my daughter is older. right now i'm just going 5 years at a time until we decide to have another baby. if we decide to have a baby in 3 years all i gotta do is make a trip to my OB/GYN. Right now I'm tryin to convince my better half to let me have a puppy to get over my baby fever for now lol. but right now neither of us are ready for a human addition right now. But we know eventually we do want to add one more angel to our little family. The age difference between siblings is all up to if the parent can handle a newborn and a toddler at the same time. Some parents (such as my brother and sister in law) can handle having children that vary in ages. My brother and sister in law have four children that range from 8 months to 8 years. the two oldest are about a year apart maybe a year and a half, and the two youngest are a year and a half apart. the two youngest were ctually accidental babies. the youngest baby was conceived when she had a .02% chance of getting pregnant and the 2nd to youngest was conceived also while whe was using some form of birth control. they needed fertility treatments for their first and they kept coming after that. She has had more than 4pregnancies, but she has had 3 miscarriages. but o think that they needed fertility treatments to conceive the first baby, and now conceive with the lowest chance of pregnancy without having tubes tied or a historectomy. but the age difference just depends on the parents and their patience level.

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