How old is TOO old to share a bath?

Amy - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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So I have a 18 month old BOY and a 3.5 year old GIRL. The issue is this: when is it inappropiate to have them in the same bath? It is SO-O convienent for me, but I don't want to ruin them for life, you know? I have no clue about this subject, not even a guess, so if anyone has any insite please help. Oh, my daughter does take showers with some assitance and her brother is not in there but she really prefers a bath w/ or w/out her brother. I am just curious when I should say bath alone time.

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Jessica - posted on 03/28/2010

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I'm the oldest of 4 kids 3 girls and the baby is a boy (and there quite an age gap between me and my next sister). Bathing the little ones was my chore for years. My little brother bathed with my younger sisters until he was about 4 and the issue was my sisters had both reached the age where the were becoming more shy about their bodies. I think its completely ok for siblings to bathe together, as someone else said your son will have a very accurate idea of the differences between boys and girls. I think you really need to take your cues from your daughter, she will be the one to let you know she needs a little more privacy.

Dana- I don't think this is inappropriate at all. Kids love to play in the bath and the more the merrier. I grew up in a house where often times on a rainy day or too cold to play outside winter day my mom would fill up the tub with bubbles and let us play! Often times she would have to come back every once and awhile to add some hot water.

I think your nieces must just really enjoy the bath and wanna have some fun with your little one.

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I wouldn't worry about it until your daughter is maybe around 5? Children have no issues about nakedness and such. Unfortunately we teach them that.
I would say as long as they enjoy playing together in the tub, to let them bath together.
Basically go with your own gut. Seriously children do not do inappropriate things to each other. They may look at each others parts, but that is natural curiosity (a kin to playing doctor). And that's just a matter of teaching them respect for each other's body and personal space.
I say let them bath together!

Norma - posted on 07/05/2014

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dt is wise to understand the roots of the social psychology that dictates that we humans are just these sex-crazed animals,that go mad when we behold a naked human body.....their are milliions of folks in the entire world that are naturists,and the family members do not have sex all with each-other just because they happen to be nude.Many pf the rapists and other devients ,come from a back ground of an un healthy teaching and atmosphere,which repressed and demonized the body,,such as the Victorian Era in old England,.....and also religious societies way before that '''It use to be in ancient times in certain area of what now is called the " holy land'',that a family member who by accident saw another naked ,was put to death.iI was a psychology that beheld any body parts that were capable of good feeling,as being evil....thus any body part that had this potential,was believed to be ,in it's very nature evil.But the beauty,( or ugliness, )is truly in the eye of the beholder...many so called ," grown-ups " might wish to take a broom,and sweep out tthes dark programmings hidden in the dark recesses of the mind..One may be intelligent and honest to admit,that it is not the body part that can commit an offence,but it is the un balanced,self centered,and sick mind that does so.

Norma - posted on 07/03/2014

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i do not quite understand what you are really getting at. WHY would you put a bathing suit on a child in the tub...I cannot for the life of me ,come up with a reason for that.....please explain,thanks mom.

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Norma - posted on 07/05/2014

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Pear - posted on 07/03/2014

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This sound extreme but its true.
Restraining your older (say 7 or 8 yrs)children from exposing their nudity to each other is not teaching them to be ashamed of each other bodies, its helping them draw the lines of bounderies.Lets face the cold hard facts, sexual curiosity and desire knows little bounds, Some children experience puberty onset at 8 years old. Before the hormones kicks in, you better talk the talk with your children.
Its too early for me to relate the situation to my child, but its common for children as young as 7 to be caught trying to exercise sex. TV is not helping either.
So if i think "let them decide", is not a good answer for a mom to give.

Faiza - posted on 07/03/2014

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I don't feel comfortable when my kids are bathing naked, or see each other naked, these are private parts of their bodies that I think should hide, this is my opinion and I think, we should respect each other opinions.

Norma - posted on 07/03/2014

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,mom,actually a mom has a better chance of "ruining them for life" if the mom teaches the children that they must be ashamed ,and hide their bodies from each other at a certain age. Probably you were raised this way....but try to see the human body as a natural thing,in fact,beautiful. If you teach your children that,they will grow up with a wholesome and healthy attituide about their bodies.We happen to have some springs on our land,and all family members ,of all ages many times,bathe to-gathein-including the grand-parents.

Norma - posted on 07/03/2014

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i totally agree,i have never understood families that hide their bodies from each other,how un wholesome is that? to children,there is nothing 'WRONG 'with the human body,but many parents drive it into them that there is something wrong...that the Creater rally messed up.Kind of perverted thinking wouldn't you say?

Norma - posted on 07/03/2014

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i do not understand what you are trying to say,in any case ,both little boys and girls have curiosity about the body,if they are not seeing it on a regular bases.....I hope that you can relate what it is that you are tring to say......thanks

Faiza - posted on 07/03/2014

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My son,7 year old, likes to bath with his sister 2 years old, I let them put on their swim suits. When it's time to wash I do first my daughter and let my son wash himself.

Pear - posted on 07/03/2014

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The curiosity of little boys sometimes instill demons in children that you may want to deal with later in life. And to who said let them decide, seriously!!!??
You don't want to end up with a pervert for a son.

Stephanie - posted on 04/05/2010

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They say that 5 is about the age that you should stop bathing different sex children, but my daughter is 6 and my sons are just about 4 and 1.5 they still bath together they dont seem to have a problem with it. As soon as they start having a problem with it I'll stop bathing them together. Thats the was I look at it.

Renee - posted on 04/04/2010

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i bath my kids together an they all at one time pointed at the boys pienis an i said no dont touch thats .(name of kid) ok so leave it aloone now where is that duck (toys) an they have never thought about it again age 9boy girls(niece 7) 6 an 1 ..... i think u r ruining it for them to bath seperate an think there bodys are something to hide an be ashammed off u should give it another go an see how u go go on they love sharing bath time with someone else its so much more fun with two or more heehee

Renee - posted on 04/04/2010

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aalso i letmy kids bath with there mates an even with there cousins i check in on them an spy here an there to make sure nothing approtiate is happening so if it does i would be able to nip it in the butt straight away but so far so good

Renee - posted on 04/04/2010

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well my son is 9 an my daughters are 6 an 1 an they all still share i shared till i was 11with my two sisters an two brothers i guess its ok till one of them pipes up an says they dont want the other to c there bits so yeah we never cared an my kids dont care an my mates four kids 12 10 5 2 all still share an another 8 6 4 an 1 stillhare all boys an girls its all about the adults an how you react to it all i think it is absolutly fine an save me water lol my kids c me naked an sometimes shower with me if we r in a hurry

DawnaRae - posted on 04/03/2010

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when me, my brother and two sisters were little we all took baths together it felt normal and like it was play time. it didnt feel weird. we was 6, 5, 4 and 2 years old. after 6 we look showers seperate. my mom told us about the body parts very young so we already understood.

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

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the only experience i have in this is my own when i was a child, my mum stopped giving me and my brothers baths together when i finally hit the "whats that and why dont i have one?" stage! lol. ur kids will let u know, if ur comfitable with them still sharing a bath then do so. you'll notice when its time to stop it....xxxx

Gennifer - posted on 03/30/2010

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when they start to discover each others body parts then it's time to separate them. I give my son and my niece (1 & 2) a bath together, but now my niece is starting to wonder what that is on my son so I don't think I'll be giving them a bath together anymore, even though it is so convenient!

Amy - posted on 03/29/2010

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Thank-you to ALL! I feel so much better now. I was for sure that they would be ruined for life and never want to see each other as they grew up. Like it would be awkward for the REST of the lives. Over exhagerating maybe? LOL You all have excellent advice.

Sarah - posted on 03/29/2010

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my son is 18 months and my daughter is 5 and they still have a bath together, they both enjoy playing together so for the time being they will still share a bath

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I'm curious too! What about all girls in the tub? I have 2 nieces ( 3 & 6 ) that always wanna have a bath with my daughter ( 18 months ) when they're over or we're at my parents! Normal, not normal?

Kimberly - posted on 03/28/2010

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This can be a touchy subject with a lot of moms....although i don't have to worry about this because i only have one child, i think it's okay until the children start to ask about or grab at the private parts of the other child. I, personally, took baths with my brother until he was about 6 and I was 3. I don't see any harm in it as long as they aren't touching each other inappropriately. Obviously your son will be a lot less curious about your daughter's girly parts at his age than your daughter will be about your son's penis. I think you are pretty safe until your daughter is about 5.

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