Is anyone dealing with postpartum issues? I've been doing fine since a Sept. birth, but have in the last 2 weeks dealt with bouts of anxiety... is it just me or is it postpartum? I have tendencies towards anxiety anyway, but I don't know how long the hormonal stuff from the birth lasts. I am breastfeeding, is that a part of it too? What are other moms dealing with?
Chivell - posted on 01/14/2009
Are there different types of postpartum issues.. I never got the baby blues but even now 4mths l8r im a mess with crying, i cry of the small things like i did when i was very preggers.. Not to mention i have a serious temper still. I find the small things make it worse. Are these a different type of postpartum?
Julie - posted on 01/13/2009
I haven't struggled too much with any postpartum issues myself, but would like to share som suggestions (I was a behavioral science major in college and studied a little bit about this stuff). I would definitely suggest changing some things about your environment before trying any medications. There is nothing wrong with taking medications, but it is not a cycle you want to start if you don't need to. How much sleep are you getting? Lack of sleep can cause moodiness, depression, or anxiety. Also check your diet and make sure you are getting all the nutrients you need, especially since you are breastfeeding. I often found that I was so focused on my baby, that I just forgot to eat. Finally, make sure you talk to the people around you about how you are feeling. They need to be there for you to listen and support you and watch the baby so you can get out of the house every now and then. If there is someone you feel really comfortable leaving the baby with, leave the baby overnight and take a good break with lots of sleep. The first week after I brought my baby home, he had jaundice really bad, and I was so exhausted by the end of the week, I was crying about everything and just couldn't control myself. My mom showed up one evening with a toothbrush and a book; she sent me and my husband to bed and stayed up with the baby all night. I felt like a completely different person the next morning. I hope some of this helps; just make sure you get the help you need and don't just hope it will go away on its own.
Rhonda - posted on 01/13/2009
I am feeling the same way lately. My son was born Sept. 21st. I was home with him for 8 weeks and I hated coming back to work. I am fortunate that my sister watches my kids for me. I'm breastfeeding and a month ago I noticed my milk supply was just not there like it used to be. I ended up getting the flu/cold and a month later I'm still trying to get over this sickness. I am continuing to pump during the day at work and where I was getting about 16 oz pumped during the day, I am now only getting 4 to 6 oz. I started drinking the Mother's Milk Tea (which I have not found to be helpful) and I am taking the Lactate Support capsules. I find myself so emotional and then I just feel angry a lot. Like every little thing just drives me crazy. In addition to the baby I have a 4 1/2 year old. My husband is only home on weekends due to his job so I just feel so tired, stressed and so emotional that I cry for no reason. I'm sure the stress is a reason for the diminshed breastmilk. I breastfed my daughter until she was 18 months so I am really struggling and glad to see that it's not just me! I welcome any suggestions.
Tasha - posted on 01/12/2009
I'm kind of feeling anxious now that the time has come for me to go back to work. I don't want to leave my son with anyone else. I'm not sure what to do and how to deal with it. I have an upcoming appointment with my Dr. to see what she suggests. I hope that this gets easier to deal with.
Erica - posted on 01/12/2009
I've always felt a little abnormal because of the anxiety I have felt. After Shelby was born I developed this unrealistic fear of death and have become obsessed with SIDS. I'm much more of a home body because I'm staying home with her so that doesn't help the situation. I think my anxieties are better now than they were but like you I have been prone to anxiety anyway.
Elizabeth - posted on 01/12/2009
Just yesterday I was crying and asking my husband why it was so much harder for me than for other people who have kids. He replied very realistically that it's hard for everyone, that most people have these feelings too, and just don't talk about it. My son is almost 4 months and very temperamental (which doesn't help), and it's getting better, but I still have crying days (obviously). I think breastfeeding is a part of it, but what works best for me when I get really anxious or freaked out is to go out by myself for a while. We live in a foreign country and I don't really know anybody else, so I just go for a walk or have a coffee in a shop by myself after my husband gets home. it helps me relax and be better able to deal with the next day.
Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2009
I tend to look at the nutritional aspect of things since working with a certified holistic health coach, (who is now my best friend). She told me that babies towards the end of the pregnancy suck out massive amounts of omega fatty acids that are used for brain and eye developement. A deficiency for mom leads to postpartum depression. I had it with my 1st son, didn't have this info at the time. Now, with my 2nd, I haven't had any postpartum depression issues. This pregnancy I was taking 6 fish oils a day. That in addition to prayer kept my emotions under control. I would suggest finding a good fish oil that has been tested for mercury.
Amanda - posted on 01/11/2009
To me I think breastfeeding has a lot to do with it. I didn't breastfeed but still sometimes get down on myself. I think the winter aswell. Not being able to go out for walks so sit outside or anything, so you just get really bored and cabin fever. I think if we had baby's in the summer it would of been different.
Jessica - posted on 01/10/2009
honey I delt with it both times I had children. the first time it had to do with the fact that I was 18, tryign to breastfeed, moving across the country and scared to death! The second time was becuase I felt like my first child would feel jealous and again I was tring to breastfeed (turns out it jsut isn't for me!) i was a basket case to everyone. It took me a month to really fall in love with my second one. before that I felt like i wanted to protect him, nurture him, ect but I wasn't enthralled with him. I would see your OB or family practitioner and talk to them about it. I take lexapro and it really helps. I love my children but sometimes you need a little help! it wil pass but don't be afraid to ask for help.
I have a history of Depession and Anxiety. I had been on antidepressants for years but about 5 years ago I wanted to go off of them to try to find other methods to deal with things. My best suggestions are sunlight, as much as possible, even if you cannot get out of the house open all the windows so you do not feel closed in. Exercise is huge because it stimulates the happy chemicals in your brain that antidressants target. And I also read that if breastfeeding mothers are not getting enough Omega-3 oils in their diet (it helps the brain function) then your baby will take all of it from your body for his brain development, which leaves your brain feeling unbalanced.
But I also am a believer in antidepressants if you are beyound the point of helping yourself. Sometimes you need to take something to get you to the point where you can help yourself naturally.
Heather - posted on 01/06/2009
I started dealing with post partum issues mainly anxiety when my daughter turned a month old. It got progressively worse as they say post partum does, and at my six weeks check-up I asked my doctor for something to help me cope - my fears at that point had become almost paralyzing and they were things that were one in a million chance of even happening. I too am breastfeeding and I didn't want to quit breastfeeding. My dr prescribed Zoloft because it is passed through the breast milk the least, and I researched it online and everything I found said that the baby gets only trace amounts and if you take it right after a feeding they usually dont get any at all. I have been on it for about two months now and I feel a million times better. At my last checkup my doctor said most moms only have to stay on it about six months and then they can wean off of it. I hope this helps. Best of luck. :)
Julie - posted on 01/06/2009
My boy is 23 months old and my daughter was born September 12th. I didn't think that I would have PpD but needless to say it hit me really hard. A couple I thought my husband was going to call the shrink on me. It didn't make it any easier that my daughter was and still is a cryer. Which came as quite a shock since my son was very much the most contented baby I'd ever been around.
Anyhow, I started making my emotions very clear to my husband and to my family. Whether they liked to hear it or not, it helped to talk about it and make it known. I also made a list of things that i really wanted to do, whether it be, "Hang out with friends, go shopping, go to a movie or whatever" (nothing relating to babies) and then I started asking my husband, mom or friend if they had the time to occasionally watch my children, and with that I started putting things down on my calendar that I could look forward to. Having things to look forward to made all the difference. I hope this helps you. It totally worked for me.
Aftin - posted on 01/06/2009
I definitely dealt with it and my baby was also born in September. I also have some tendencies towards anxiety/depression so I don't think that helped much! I struggled for the first 13 weeks and then finally sort of demanded that my doctor give me a prescription. They kept giving me referrals for people to talk to, but that is not what I needed! I went on Prozac about 3 weeks ago and I cannot even begin to describe how much better I feel!
Mary - posted on 01/06/2009
I had ppd with my daughter in 05, but didnt know it--or didn't want to accept it (for about 4 mos). This time around with my son in 9/08 I was more prepared, and actually take medicine for it, and also breastfeed (on a med that is compatible w/ bf). I still deal with anxiety, and moodiness--and then guilt for feeling this way when I have everything I could ask for. I think it's a normal part of post pregnancy life, hormones and added responsibilities. Doctor's say that it takes about a year for your body and your hormones to recover, and longer if you're breastfeeding since those preg hormones go down but don't dissappear until after weaning. I went through a milder second bout of ppd with my daughter after she was weaned as the hormones adjusted again, but then finally got my energy back afterwards!
Laura - posted on 01/06/2009
I think it can be pretty normal to be anxious or have funny periods where things just don't seem right. I had a baby in September too, and every once in a while I just have days where I can cry so easily. I am breastfeeding too, but I think it is just that there is more on our plates.
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