My daughter is throwing temper tantrums all the time

Leslie - posted on 08/21/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I know my daughter is at that terrible 2s age so I expect temper tantrums, the problem is she's doing it constantly.Sometimes for no reason, which I just ignore those. But there are times where she gets upset & throws these tantrums when all she wants to do is help me clean up or cook dinner & I can't or won't let her. I don't know how to handle those kinds of fits. I don't want to discourage her because she is just trying to help out & be kind.

Any suggestions as to how I should handle it?

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Leanne - posted on 09/05/2010

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my son is starting the tantrum thing when I try to get him dressed and get a diaper on.. not sure the deal.. as for the helping in the kitchen one thing I found works for us.. as long as your ok with a little mess.. if you dont want them to help..maybe give your little one a couple bowls or pots and some flour and a spoon.. my sons will spend a long time.. even my oldest at 5 just pretending to cook and move the flour from dish to dish etc.. they think they are helping and having fun at the same time... that or give them little tasks to do.. like give them a sponge or rag and let them wipe the table.. or play with the broom..etc.. just some stuff that may help.. but still not sure what I am going to do about the tantrums with the dressings or diaper changes haha.

Brittany - posted on 09/01/2010

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My son is going to be 2 in 4 days. He throws them all the time. I usually just try to ignore them b/c the more I try the more he gets upset. He usually wanders off and eventually finds a toy in his room to play with.

Sherry - posted on 08/31/2010

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My daughter "helps" me by handing me our grocery items so that I can put them away. She also helps by handing me dishes from the dishwasher to put away. Those are the only things she insists on helping me with. Sometimes I let her sit on the counter next to me while I'm cooking so that she can watch. She likes doing that also.

Cassie - posted on 08/31/2010

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My son is going through that also. He likes to help, so I let him whenever there is something that he can do. He likes to take the papers out of the printer when they pop out and help me put the clothes into the dryer. He also really likes to make decisions for himself such as what he wants to drink or eat and which toy he wants to bring in the car. Every little thing seems to count right now, so whenever there is anything, I let him do it. He at times, though, will literally throw himself on the floor and just lay there. He has given up on screaming, but he will still lay down. It's funny because he knows that if he gets too rough, he will hut himself, so he sits down on the floor and lays back :p I have been just letting him throw his fits. At times, I will find something for him to do instead, like taking him outside to check the mail with me. Don't suggest getting up and playing, that could be taken as a reward for the fit, but suggesting something that helps you is different. I hope this helps :)

Chymerem - posted on 08/31/2010

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try to in a loving way that the she might get hurt, u might hve to do that explanation a lot but please try and be patient. U cld also get her a small table with toy cooking utensils and give her veggies to prepare a meal for u guys while u do urs. Girls will always be girls.

Leslie - posted on 08/29/2010

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The redirecting her attention ideas sound good. I think I'll try that next time. Thanks.

Janine - posted on 08/28/2010

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my other daughter ayla was a complete nightmare till she was 3 years old she used to scream for no reason at all and throw paddys which so embarresing i stopped taking her anywhere.. she did grow out of it the only advise i can offer isbe patient things will get bettter but also be firm and stick to what you say you will do punishment wise xx

Sunet Smit - posted on 08/26/2010

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They do don't they but sometimes christopher just throws tantrums for things that he can't play with like sharp tools etc. I always try to find out whats wrong first.I just don't know why he started again coz he stopped for a very long time throwing tantrums and just all of a sudden started again.

Johnna - posted on 08/26/2010

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My daughter is doing the exact same thing! When she has trantrums for no reason, I try to find out why first, but if she doesn't calm down, I just ignore her and she stops in a few (seems like forever!) minutes. I try to let her help clean tho...i give her a rag and let her dust or "wash" the doors...I also let her try to sweep the floor with the broom. They just want to be like us!

Sunet Smit - posted on 08/26/2010

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Im struggling with the same thing. My son use to throw tantrums and then he stopped but now all of a sudden he started again and its worse than the first time he did it and i don't know how to stop him from doing it
Any advise would help

Angie - posted on 08/26/2010

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This is VERY hard, mine is doing the same thing. I got a tantrum in the store last week in the check out line. He has never done that. I know that part of it is that he is working on that second set of molars. But the only suggestion that I have to try to redirect her, I leave a HUGE pad of paper out on the table (one of those dexk calanders) and 2 crayons. I put some snacks in the pantry and the fridge at his level so he could reach them. As far as dishes go. I just get a towel and a chair and pull it up AFTER you get the sharp things out of the way. It is just water and it cleans up and washes thier hands with out a fight.

Amanda - posted on 08/25/2010

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We are going through the same thing. My son gets so mad if he is trying to help you do something and you won't let him or if he is trying to do something and you try to help him. He wants to do everything on his own and seems to have random fits for no reason. I try to let him help me do easy things around the house like wiping off the coffee table, putting the dryer sheet in the dryer, putting the soap tablet in the dishwasher and he has learned (over time) that there are some things that Mommy just has to do without him (cooking, loading dishwasher, etc.) He is at the stage where he likes to mimic what I'm doing around the house, so if I'm vaccuuming he will get his toy vaccuum and "help". I try to offset the fits by letting him do one of "his" chores or letting him play with one of his toys/books. Sometimes that doesn't work, in which case, he goes to his room for a time-out until he is calmed down.

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