One day good the next day not at all???

Cynthia - posted on 02/21/2011

Well, there was a success after I wrote last; My grandson announced that he had gone to the bathroom--ALL ON HIS OWN!! What a surprise and a treat for me. I know it's only a small step, but yet a start. I must have a poor memory because I can't remember my own kids when they went thru this, altho my son was just 3 and was trained just in time for nursery school. That was 33 years ago and I'm working on this again. He's only here a few days, but figured I'd give it a try. But he doesn't care about going to school at all, so he lacks that motivation you were successful with. I don't want to push it, but he is almost 4!!!! My daughter is a single mom and diapers are expensive, as well as the pull ups I've been using. My niece said that having big boy pants would work, because they HATE being wet. I can only hope that Diego and the other characters on the pants do the trick. 'Any other suggestions--Thanks, Lauren.

Lauren - posted on 02/21/2011

My boy was 3 1/2 before he was potty trained, and it was like you describe, up til pre-school round up. I pointed out our neighbor girl getting on her bus, and told him he could ride the bus when he didn't use diapers anymore. That kind of motivation was all it took, and it clicked bigtime.

Cynthia - posted on 02/21/2011

I'm going thru this too with my grandson, who is FOUR!!! I find my best luck is putting him on his little toilet while the bath water is drawing. Today he went--and a LOT. Then upon subsequent asking if he had to go, absolutely refused. Now I understand what my daughter goes thru! I told him he needed to go to the bathroom so he could go to school, but it doesn't work-"I don't want to go!!" So I'm just at a loss as you young moms. HELP!!!!

Birgit - posted on 02/21/2011

I feel your pain and I am so happy I am not the only mom going through this! When my son was about 17/18 months he loved going on the potty. He would go when I put him on and didn't need any coaxing. It is my own fault but we kind of laxed on the potty training because he was still so young and with summer, we were on the go a lot. Well he turned 2 in October and we started training again in January because we wanted to wait until the holidays were over and we weren't traveling all the time. One day he wants to go the next day he won't go at all. We tried the regular underwear as well and I even got cloth trainers. Didn't help. He would just pee and keep on playing or doing whatever he was doing. He only says he has to pee after the fact. He physically refuses to go to the potty for me. And most frustrating- I found out this weekend, he will go if my husband takes him. That would be great if he were home with him all day but he's not. I don't like to keep stopping and starting because it isn't good for him but I don't know what to do. He either protests the potty and everything to do with it and goes so far as to grab diapers himself or he wants to camp out on the potty and there is no inbetween. And I can't get him on the big potty because it's "too big" according to him even though we have a special seat. I am trying hard not to stress because he's young and I know he will get it eventually but this is probably the biggest test of motherhood I have had yet.

Delani - posted on 02/20/2011

This maybe a control thing... it was with my daughter... my son I used to ask all the time if he needed to go potty and one day he put his hands on his hips and told me "no not yet!" So I backed off and waited till his third birthday... by 3yrs 1 week he was fully potty trained with no tears and no fuss... boys tend to be later than girls. I have 5 children and found after my first one when you don't make it and issue when they are ready they are ready... There is a book on potty training in 1 day you might want to check that out...