people who love to compare and brag about their kids

Heather - posted on 04/18/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a close family member who is constantly comparing and just cant stop bragging about her daughter and sometimes it hurts my feelings when she constantly compares her child to mine. I feel like shes trying to say that her daughter is so advanced when she seems to me like shes doing everything at the right time like shes supposed to. Her daughter may be chubbier than mine but I don't see anyhing else really different between them. Everytime I see her she's constantly telling me how her daughter is only so and so age and that she's wearing a bigger size than my daughter did at that age and its REALLY getting on my nerves how do I tell her to keep her bragging to herself without hurting her feelings

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Wendy - posted on 05/06/2010

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Come on! They are just children...what is she going to brag about in 10 years time when your child brings home an "A" on their paper, when they've got a "B"?
I would just be safe in the knowledge that all children develop differently, at their own pace, and there is time for them to learn about their surrounding environment/s!!!
I went through the same sort of situation with my hairdresser; whose son is 2 months older than mine - it was a constant cry for attention, as his son did this and that, yadda yadda. So I shut my mouth and let him sing out his son's praises. But I mean, does it matter so much what stage/age his child is at?
I think the big aim in life is to RAISE the child, not try to compete so much with other parents!!!
I'm assuming that this child is your family members first? Perhaps point out her weight and watch her reaction. Good luck!

Tassia - posted on 04/19/2010

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I would just tell her that I am not concerned about my childs development and that according to her doctor she is hitting all the developmental milestones on time and that I am satisfied with that. If she continues I would tell her that every child is an individual and they are all different so it is not necessary to compair them.

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Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2010

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As long as you know each individual child is unique and comes into their own milestones at their own time, don't let her suck you into to that, once she start bragging just make some sort of comment like isnt it great that at their age they don't have to worry about when they do certain a b c items, it all comes to them when is is supposed to and leave it at that.

Samantha - posted on 05/04/2010

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My son is really advanced for his age, and I'm proud of it but I don't compare him to my friends kids like that. Every kid develops different. I guess some mommys don't know the difference in being proud and bragging. Truthfully I don't see why your family member brags about her daughter being bigger that's not something I would be proud of. I would just tell her that your daughter is doing just fine and that its okay to be proud of her daughter but they don't need to be compared to each other!

Telida - posted on 05/03/2010

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its really not CALLED BRAGGIN ITS JUST BEIN VERY PROUD OF THE NEW ACCOMPLISHMENTS THAT UR CHILD ENDURES...BUT AS FAR AS THE DIAPER SIZES THAT REALLY DOESNT MEAN A THING...KIDS GROWN DIFFERENTLY, DONT LET THAT BOTHER U

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Don't engage the conversation. When she starts talking about sizes and abilities and such just don't respond in kind. Maybe make a comment about how every child is an unique individual and move the conversation on to something else. Change the topic, maybe bring up something that you and the close relative did as kids that you hope your girls will do.

I don't know why some parents have to be competitive, but they exist and we have to deal with them.

Good luck!

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