Potty Training 20 month old boy

Annemaria - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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Hi Ladies,

i am new at all this since it's my first child. I am looking for any stories or tips on potty training. I want to start early with my son who is now 20 months. Do you have any success stories of potty training early with your son? Tell me your stories and tips. Also, what training pants did you use. Thank you so much.

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Brittany - posted on 05/16/2010

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My son is 20 months old as well, & has been using the potty for a few months now. What we did was make sure he came with my husband or I to the bathroom every time we went so he could see how it worked....then we introduced him to the potty. He didn't like going on our potty at all (with or without the toddler seat on)...it wasn't until we got him his own potty that he would go. Fisher Price makes a potty that your child can pretend flush, he loves it.

Another thing, at first we'd take turns leading him into the bathroom every 15 minutes to sit on the potty. After a few days of this he began to tell us when he had to go.....& he even threw in a few pretend pees hahaha. I found that making sure you act ridiculously proud every time they go helps too. We clap, holler HURRAY & all sorts of things....seems to really help. Kids like praise!

As far as the training pants....we've never used them. We just let our little boy run naked or wear big boy undies. We let him choose them, they have his favorite character on them which really motivates him to stay dry. He's also started wearing them now when we leave the house & no accidents yet! (Also staying dry through the night.....he woke up at 5am the other day (usually doesn't get up until 9) to go to the bathroom. We were so proud!)

Hope this helps!! Good Luck!

Wendy - posted on 05/19/2010

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My doctor gave me a great tip with my oldest boy who is now 8. I also have a 6 year old boy and this tip worked for both of them. I have a 20 month old who I am waiting to see these signs in so I can get him started on potty training. The tip is this... once your child statrs lining their toys up or organizing their toys in lines like hotwheel cars or whatever the they are ready to potty train. I know this sounds strange but the day after I saw my older boys doing this I threw away all diapers. It was warm outside and I let them run around the house naked(no bottoms at least) and any time I saw them starting to pee I ran them to the potty. I never bought a potty chair because kids really seem at first to not like potty chairs so I just let them stand on a stool in front of the toilet and pee in it. If they had a number #2 I would hold them and stay there on the big potty with them. Throwing a few cheerios in the toilet always made it fun, but not necessary. I would also reward them with praise and clapping and a fun little dance to celebrate. In my opinion kids should be potty trained before 3 years old. If you miss this window of opportunity the child will have a much harder time with potty training. Both my older boys were about 29 months old and it was so easy and done in about 1 week with no problems. So look for how they are playing with their toys and when they start lining their hotwheel cars up in lines then BAM they are ready to go. Set that bucket of hotwheels cars out and se what happens..hehe.

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And be prepared for your child to be stubborn, girl or boy about going even though they have indicated they need to.

My son will tell me he needs to go, go sit on the potty do nothing and 2 minutes later go stand in the corner where he think I can't see him and pee.
Also realize that some kids, as I have started to notice with my son, want a little privacy to go pee. We've found more success with getting him to pee when he asks by standing outside the door just out of his line of sight.

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Okay so I have unexpected potty training going on right now.
I do home child care. The autistic almost 3 year old in my care is preparing for potty training. Our first step was to start having her sit on the potty seat at each diaper change time. No expectations of doing anything, just getting her comfortable with it because they have a potty at home and I have no where to put a potty where my son and the 15 month old I look after won't get into it.

My son who is 19 months old wanted to do what the almost 3 year old was doing. I saw no reason why not to so I started putting him on the seat at each diaper change to.
Then he started peeing in the toilet a week later much to my surprise.
We have started full out potty training since then. We have pull ups for when we go outside (I have to go pick up school kids every day) and he just wears regular underwear with no pants while we are inside. The reason for wearing the underwear is that the natural curiosity of the 15 month old has been a bit troublesome in that he wants to grab a hold of my son's penis to examine and see what it is.
I expect many accidents because he is still not telling me when he needs to go, but for the most part when I ask him if he has to go, if he does he will come and go pee and go back to playing.
My hope is that we will have him day trained by mid summer or his second birthday at worst. Night training will come once we get a better idea of whether or not he has the control or the ability to wake up in time to get to the bathroom.
We got our underwear from Bonnie Togs because it was the only place that sold underwear that would fit my skinny, but very tall toddler.

We are also doing sticker reward (my son LOVES stickers). He gets a sticker for being dry and a sticker for going pee in the potty.
He is still not comfortable enough to do a BM in the potty and generally waits till he gets a pull up on to go. That is also normal.

Be prepared for some days to be better then others and to be frustrated. Try not to show your frustration, lots of counting to 10 and back again has happened here from time to time.

Good luck!

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Teneille - posted on 06/06/2010

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ive herd when they go toilet n not potty put a ping pong ball in it so they can aim at that

Crissy - posted on 06/03/2010

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with mine he is 21 months old i find when i take him to the potty toss a few cheerio's or fruit loops in the potty and make him aim at them..... its a fun way cuz he will get to "shoot" the "targets" mine loves it and it helps. or find a way to make bubbles when he potty's like some kind of soap or something

Teneille - posted on 06/03/2010

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hi my son is also 20months i was wondering if you find any ideas and it works i would love if you could please pass it on as i have tryed these little nappie pull ups for his age and size but they have not worked thank you

Kristen - posted on 06/02/2010

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Hello. My son is asking to potty. He will be 2 in sept and he will sit on the potty and pee. We have done this for the past week and he has done wonderful. He is waring big boy pant; pull ups and thinks he is the king of the world. We bought a baby potty but he wants nothing to do with that. So what we did was bought the child insert for the toilet; we paid like $10 for it at walmart and sit him on it and off he goes; pee peeing. This makes him very proud of himself b/c he can hear the pee hitting the toilet. When he is finished he gets a little piece of tissue and wipes it; I guess he sees me in the bathroom to much. I cant believe how wonderful he is doing. I was always told; you can force a child to potty train; they will do it when they are good and ready. Zaydin has told us he is very ready. Good luck :)

Carolyn - posted on 05/27/2010

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My son is 20 months old and we started potty training a few months ago. I let him sit on the little potty with his diaper on and after a month started putting him on the potty when I changed his diaper. This week we started putting him in underwear. He has the most successes when he watches Daddy use the potty first. When he misses he says "ewww, potty." I tell him pee pee goes in the potty and put him on the potty. He has much more control over when he goes now, but we still have more misses than hits.

Kimberly - posted on 05/26/2010

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My boy is doing soooo well at going in the potty! He does have a 3yr old sister who is learning from though. I got a training potty that he loves, comes up high enough that he can't pee out of it! I keep him out of diapers as much as possible and watch he's face and reconize when he needs to go-he says poo poo! I just keep putting him on the potty! But don't force it or it will back fire!

Candice - posted on 05/25/2010

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Hey girl,
I have 3 boys and let me tell ya, they are not gonna do it until they are good and ready to do it. He will let you know when he is ready. If you try to start and he isnt ready, you and your son will be frustrated and it will just take longer. Be patient. When he is ready, he will do it!! good luck. My son is 20mths also, and he is no where near ready. I havent even tried to do the potty thing because I feel he is still pretty immature.

Kim - posted on 05/24/2010

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Well I can tell u its different for all kids my first was using her potty at 16 months, and my now 20 month old can not be bothered, but trust me when I say when there ready u will know once u see them trying to take off the diaper its time to start training.. As for training pants I find the material ones are good cause once the baby gets fed up of feeling wet everytime he or she goes to the bathroom he or she will be telling u he or she needs to peepee.. Good luck

Whitney - posted on 05/24/2010

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I have to put this out there for all of the moms who are upset with boys @ a young age being potty trained. My son has been potty trained for months because he was ready, he went all on his own for the first 2 months, I was not ready yet, but he was. As I have stated before every child is different and having another child so close to his age is what got him going on his own. And my son is now 20 months old, fully potty trained, zero accidents. HE WAS READY, not me!

Pamela - posted on 05/24/2010

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All I can say is goodluck! My two boys were really hard to potty train.. especially my second son. My first son was potty trained right after he turned 3 but still had some accidents till he was 5 most of those accidents were pooing in the bed at night. My youngest son flat out refused to use the potty.. he did not get potty trained until he was almost 4!

Amy - posted on 05/23/2010

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Seems every stepping stone we go through with our little ones- is very exciting! I'd like if our son was potty trained, but maybe it's not the time right now. Drew is (21 months), we let him run around naked, during that time, I'll watch him hold it in. At the point, I run him to the bathroom when his seat is. NOTHING will happen. He's not yet used to the idea of sitting on a toilet, it's scary for him. Drew crawled at 5 months, walked at 9 months, talking at 1 year, so if potty training doesn't happen until he's 2, then no biggie. I'm not going to push anything. He'll do it on his own.

Amy - posted on 05/23/2010

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I am also a first-time mom. My son is 20 months old and I have had the potty seat in the bathroom for about 6-8 weeks or so. He will tell you when he has gone pee-pee or poo-poo but not before he does it. He also is a little skittish with sitting on the seat. My doctor told me not to push and wait until he is ready. He can flush the adult toilet and has sat on his seat a few times with his clothes on. He doesn't like it if you sit him on it without them. Right now he uses it as a place to stash his stuff when he is in the bathroom. I got him the Elmo potty and there is also an Elmo potty-time book because he likes Elmo. I think the child high-fives Elmo after going potty, and encourages him to go.

Best of luck to you!

Anna - posted on 05/22/2010

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Don't stress it. He'll be ready later. He will be fine it it takes another year before he is ready. Trust me. I am a reformed early-potty-training-a-holic. See my post below, but my boy just wasn't ready and then one day he was. Your son sounds like he just needs more time.

Anna - posted on 05/22/2010

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I did the exact same thing. It actually went okay except for I had a baby when he was 25 months and then he went back to diapers. I started when he was about 22 months. We would spend an hour in the bathroom, reading books etc. waiting for him to go. Then I started hauling the potty seat with me (I LOVE Baby Bjorn's toilet seat cover- worth every penny) and would have him go as soon as we went somewhere- Target, the park, a friend's house, church. I carried it in a special bag... Most of my friend's told me to wait until 3 years old with a boy, but I was determined to not have 2 in diapers. He did start getting the hang of it by the end of summer (though we had many an accident in the house, pee...and poop). But then 2 weeks after our baby girl was born he started having accidents every day and they weren't going away. We threw in the towel and went back to diapers. It was hard at first. Then the following summer- his verbal and reasoning skills were better and one day we developed a sticker chart for every time he went potty. When the chart was full he would get to go pick out a toy. It took a week. He picked a super-soaker. He has been very independent since then. I rarely remind him to go, and he rarely has accidents. If I had to do it all over, I would be more relaxed about it and just go with the flow more. I will say- the one thing that tipped him over the edge the following summer is that I had put both my kids in fleece reusable diapers. He got the biofeedback of being wet more than in disposables. Within a month of wearing those he was motivated to potty train. My take home tips are 1. Wait until they seem ready (without stressing yourself out too much) 2. Summer is a GREAT time to potty train 3. Consider cotton or something where they can feel wet consistently to learn from. 4. Don't stress it if you're having a baby soon! GOOD LUCK!!!

Jacinta - posted on 05/22/2010

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I think that the best thing to do is wait until he is ready. He will let you know... I tried to potty train my daughter and she wasnt ready at all so we have left it.. There are many tell-tale signs that let you know when they are ready apparently so thats what im on the look out for!! Good luck :)

Jeanette - posted on 05/22/2010

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we are trying to traine, Im not sure my 20 month is ready for the potty, he doesnt even know he is peeing when he is in the bath tub, and just recently had a BM accident in the bath tub. but he knows he doesnt like a wet daiper because he pulls on it and wants it off.
He always goes in the bathroom when we go, and will sit on his lil potty, but does nothing. so, im not sure if he is quite ready. but we'll keep working on it.

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And my son pees sitting down. I was told tech him to pee in the potty first. Standing up will come later. Good luck!

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I introduced my son to the potty when he was 14 months old. He didnt have to use it every time, but if he wanted to sit on it for a while, it was ok. He's now 20 months and as long as he's home and we pay attention to him, he can make it the whole day without peeing in his pull ups. He still doesnt go #2 on the potty consistently, but he does pee all the time. He can even tell me when he has to go, I bought my last pack of diapers 2 weeks ago, and i dont regret taking them off of him at all. I think just introduce him to it. Let him sit on it in the morning and before bed to start off. And encourage him, my son now claps and tells us "yay" when he's peeing. As long as he sees that you're excited, he will be excited too.

Wanda - posted on 05/21/2010

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I have a question.....when potty training boys do I need to show him how to pee standing up? I'm the one with him for the majority of the day, and I figured since i can't show him how to hold a penis to pee (by watching me) I would teach him sitting down, tucking in his into the potty. He watches my husband standing up, so i think it may confuse him to see both of us do it differently. What would be the best way for ME to show him?
He already has been sitting on his potty, both clothed and with pants down, and he LOVES flushing the toilet when we go (he waves and says bye bye to the water) and even puts the lid down. But he won't sit on his potty for more than 10 seconds at a time.
I want (need) him to be potty trained before his 2nd birthday in Sep since we are having a baby in late Aug and it would help immensly!!

Thanks for your ideas and suggestions btw!

Tammy - posted on 05/21/2010

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I have a teenage boy and a 19 mth old- I personally don't think a child is ready for potty training until at least 2 yrs old. That said, my 19 mth old expresses interest in using the toilet like daddy. Before bath, he stands and will go. After diaper changes he will also go. It is a gentle introduction to using the toilet, before long he will be completely ready. Children under 2 don't always understand the sensation, and can't "hold" their bladder for any length of time. So don't push- gently introductions will ensure tiolet is a poitive experience. Never scold them for "mistakes" This will only create fear in the child.

Whitney - posted on 05/19/2010

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My son has been potty trained since 15 months, biggest help was his 3 yr old sister and with her was her cousin. If you have another child in the family that he can observe it would help alot plus a dad. And the best thing to do as far as pants and boxers, when they go they know right away and learn quickly that they do not want that to happen. Once you start don't stop you will have good days and there will be bad days but there will be day that you wake up and realize that he has not had any accidents in a while. treats (m&ms) help when they do go as well as stickers or dum dums. Most importantly make sure HE is ready though some can potty train early some can not (they just aren't fully developed in that area) every kid is different.

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2010

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I'm just getting ready to start myself. My daughter is also 20 months old, and I know she's ready. She asks us everyday to go potty, and she tells me when I need to change her diaper.

Naomi - posted on 05/19/2010

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Thought I would get in early and toilet train my frist son before his ittle brother arrived. He was 22 mths at the time we tried and tried and tried! He is now 3 3/4 and we are finally toilet trained! The moral to my story? Mummy was ready for toilet training but Thom wasn't We gave up for a while and waited for Thom to initiate he was ready. He did and it took all of a week to get from nappies to undies dry and clean no accidents! If you wish to try early I recommend a program by Margaret Saunders. www.BedtimeAndToiletTrainingSolutions.com.au she has a pretty good sucess rate! Have fun!

Jenny - posted on 05/19/2010

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my son is 19 months old and started to follow us to the potty and wanting to play with our potty so i went and got him a potty chair and within hours he peed in it with no pressure form us, we didnt expect it at all! its been a week and 1/2 now, he is going 1-3 times a day on his own. We just allow him to run naked or in a diaper (he has no problem taking them off) and just remind him every 20 mins to go potty and it has been pretty smooth with the exception of a few accidents. Over all I'd say you cant force it early just wait for him to show signs of interest, let him follow you or daddy to the bathroom and explain what your doing. Treats for rewards work wonders and never punish for an accident. Good luck!

Sadaf - posted on 05/18/2010

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hi ,
well i bought a potty pot and kept it out side the bathroom and i told my son that this is for u but u wont use it until u r big , i kept on saying that for three or four days and my son was very exited and eager to use it and then when i felt he cant wait anymore i told him the method and really it was amazing that cooperated well and within two weeks he was trained. thats all u can try that aswell. good luck ,bye

Sharnel - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son is 20 months old as well, and we've started "potty training" by using cloth diapers (bumgenius w/o the insert) during the day, and regular diapers at night. He still shows no interest in sitting on the potty ... Instead he stands on a little stool in front of the toilet, holds his part, and says "pee" as if to intimate that he was actually going like his Dad. Then, (this is key for you ladies) I've taught him to close the lid and flush. He thinks its fun, but the results are slow. I figure as long as he sees potty-time as being a fun thing, he will be more successful. Good luck! :)

Luna - posted on 05/18/2010

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I don't think my 20 month old is ready yet, he has shown no interest in the potty and only likes pushing rubber ducks down the toilet, he's recently starting saying "poo" and "wet" when he's filled his nappy so I think he's starting to get the idea of knowing when he's done it, so maybe next month we'll try to sit him on the potty but at the moment he screams whenever we try! He'll let us know when he's ready. Good luck!

Piya - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son is 20 months and refuses to sit on the pot. He just starts wailing everytime we make him sit on the pot. Also, even if he is doing it he just stops the minute we put him on the potty! HELP!!!

Rayann - posted on 05/17/2010

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Every child is different. With that being said, my son was 3 1/2 when started having an interest in potty training. We put pull-ups on him starting at 2 1/2, he did not take it seriously!! Literally the day he turned 31/2 he started really watching his father and within a week he had it!!! He was fully completely potty trained. He has never wet the bed, and he only had one accident; it was at park on a school yard playground, and I couldn't get in the school fast enough. So, just don't pressure yourself!!! I can't remember the brand of pull-ups, but they were the ones you can adjust on the sides. Good Luck!!

Nicole - posted on 05/17/2010

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when i was potty training my oldest son, in order to prevent accidents throughout the night, we cut out a drink before bed. the last drink he got was around 6:00. then he had an hour till bedtime to pass that and nothing till the morning. as soon as i did that, the very first night, no accidents. he has been taking himself to the bathroom now by himself since he was about 2 and a half. he was quick to train though i think because i waited till he was 2, we also had the open door policy and the potty. don't push it on them, but at the same time, give them every opportunity to go. letting them decorate the toilet, not just the potty can also help with letting them feel comfortable being on it. the stickers my son earned got to go on the toilet after he went if he wanted to put them there, then he was proud and felt more inclined to go on the big boys toilet more so than the little potty. we practically skipped that part.

Gail - posted on 05/14/2010

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lucky 4 me we are 7 in our fam so cee jay see what .
we r doing.He is on the toilet ever since he was 16months.only when he have a runny tummy then he'll make a booby.good
luck to u!

Annette - posted on 05/12/2010

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I started potty training my girl when she was 17 months. We just let her sit on the potty with her close on. Later she herself starting taking of her clothes and nappie and run for the potty. She is in the cresh and she saw the older children going to the potty. So she was interested in it. So far it is going well. We do not push her to use the potty. She also take of her own nappie then it is durty, or wet. Just go with the flow, and that your child wants to do.

Ismay - posted on 05/12/2010

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I have a 19 month old how is to almost to big for regular nappie's, so am trying to potty train early. I have found the best course so far is leaving him to run around naked with potty in the same room and playing pretend ( i need to do a wee i will use my potty) then sit on it ect. He found it funny and copped me. After a week i would leave him on his own with the potty and he continued to use it on his own. He also picks the potty up and flushes the poo wee in the toilet its like a game for him. Make it funny! but they have to under stand the feeling they get before they need to go in order to now when they need to go or it won't work. So does he tell you when he is going to poo ect... If that made any sense to you. good luck.

Dana - posted on 05/11/2010

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Well, I have a girl so I'm sure things work differently. I'm a first time mother as well....
My daughter just started pointing to her behind and saying "poo". At first it was when she passed gas or had already gone potty and needed her diaper changed. But now, we are making it to the potty before she goes.
My mom gave me a few ideas too:
-have your child try to go potty when they first wake up (just like when we first wake up)
-maybe set timers throughout the day to just try at the potty
-watch them when they are really quiet or go in corners (they sometimes could be going potty in their diaper)

Personally, I don't think "pull-ups" are a great idea, but I haven't tried them either, so I could be wrong. It seems to me, that it allows the child to continue to potty in their pants. Try using real undies and when he goes potty in them, he won't like the feeling and hopefully gets the idea faster (unless sleeping...)
good luck to you both!!! Just remember to be patient and he'll get it!!!!!

Iman - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have a 20 Month old Son also and we actually started potty training way back when he started sitting up by himself. We just sit him on the potty 3 times a day. we started getting Pee after one week and we have been 80 % successful since then. for the most part we go popo in the potty. then i sit him early in the morning after he wakes up and before going to bed and once or twice in between and he pees in those times . we do have the open door policy in our house so he sees everyone in the bathroom. so i would say if he has a time where he normally has a BM or if its after milk or a certain meal start from there and mornings and nights for pee. we are planning and hoping we are out of diapers before September (I really Hope) So far we are doing so well. Still we have accidents but we are learning :) Good Luck and be very patient :)

Annemaria - posted on 05/11/2010

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Thank you for the suggestions ladies I will try them. I hope it goes well. He loves to flush the toilet right now but a little scared to sit on it with his potty seat. Will keep trying.

Ruthie - posted on 05/10/2010

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Also, I wouldn't use training pants, I will just let him around naked or leave him in a diaper till I think he is ready for underwear, if he has an accident so be it! only time I might use pull ups is at night! (but thats just personal preferance!)

Ruthie - posted on 05/10/2010

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hey, I posted a question aswell. my son is 19 months, I too would like to potty train him now for soon. my goal is to have it done before his second birthday. but we will see if he's ready! I have had the potty seat sitting out in the bathroom for a few months now to get him used to it. and now when I go he sits on his potty (with his clothes on) when I try to put him on naked he gets up right away, I think because it's still cold here, so the seat it cold. so I'm waiting for warmer weather! but if you don't have a potty sea in your bathroom yet, get one and set it out! if your little boy likes winnie the pooh or mickey or diego, that might help if you put some stickers or something on there! dont expect miracles. just try to sit him on there at first, to get him used to it, I have heard it is better to have an *open door bathroom policy* so whenever anyone in the house uses the washroom you leave the door open for the little one to watch, but sit him on there in the morning first thing, after breakfast, after snack... and so on, if he seems to resist, don't push it! if he accepts it, go every hour if you can. persistance. if you go every hour and he still has accidents. don't get mad at him, ask him to help you clean it up, but take him more often.

Good luck!

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