son wants to get his nails done like a women

Erica - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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my son will find my nail buffer and he acts like he is buffing his nails like he has seen me doing. i have my toe nails painted and he keeps asking to have his done like that too. how do i get him to stop wanting to act like a girl?

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Well there is nothing wrong with his behaviour. He is doing what all toddlers are wont to do and that is mimic his Mommy's behaviour.
My son is obsessed with brushing and trying to put his hair in to pony tail holders.
As someone who has worked in child care for 10 years, I have seen every thing from boys with painted finger/toe nails (or both), wearing barrettes , wearing pink and fighting over the dresses in the house center dress up bin.
Were we worried about them being too feminine? Nope. This is perfectly normal behaviour for a toddler.
They see us doing it and want to try it too. And really nail polish is trivial, it can be taken off, you can even put on neutral colours (or just clear) if you are really worried about what others think.

Really I would rather paint their nails and toes then have them use what they can find. I have seen children (boys and girls) in the day care centers with things like permanent marker on their nails or faces because they wanted to copy Mommy and got a hold of a marker.

They will eventually lose interest and out grow it.

-Nicole

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Lannay Jenine - posted on 05/09/2013

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I hear all this talk about growing out of it... Like it is such a big bad thing for a male to do! When my son was thirteen, I found a bottle of nail polish in his room while cleaning... I also noticed that he had a little color left on his toes from not removing it completely... I thought "How Cool Is That?" ...he has nice feet and wears his "Flops" just about everywhere... Why not ?.. I just told him I had noticed a little color left on his toes, and if he wanted his toes painted...to just do it and don't worry what anyone thinks.
...as long as he likes it. He is sixteen now...still painting his toes mainly dark colors like blue and maroon...he has a silver ring on his second toe, pierced ears, and a girlfriend!
He is a perfectly normal sixteen year old boy who isn't afraid to be himself...
I love seeing his toes painted...I think it looks great and am proud to be his mom.

Lanae S.

Kelly - posted on 08/16/2010

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my son is the same he loves having his fingers and toenails painted. I let him have it on it doesnt bother me. my son loves playing with cars and all matter of 'boys' toys but he also enjoys playing with his sisters dolls and make up, hairbrushes, he just loves joining in with his big sister. xx

Leslie - posted on 08/04/2010

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I think it's normal too. Especially if he spends a lot of time with you. My brother when he was that age up until 3 or 4 alway had me & my mom painting his nails & he's a perfectly normal 16 year old boy.

Victoria - posted on 08/04/2010

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It's no big deal, he'll grow out of it! My now 7yr old son used to want his nails painted and he's "all boy" now! My almost 2yr old son wants his nails painted when I paint his sister's nails, and we just pick out a "boy color" No worries, it's normal! :)

April - posted on 08/04/2010

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Mine watches me in the mornings getting ready for work and imitates the way I add blush to my cheeks and applies my lipstick. I just smile and tell him that these are for girls only and he is a boy.

Carolyn - posted on 07/29/2010

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The reason I even considered painting his toes is b/c when I wouldn't, he would get a crayon and color them!

Carolyn - posted on 07/29/2010

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My son wanted his nails painted the other day too. I got a clear blue polish that can barely be seen and painted only his big toes. It satisfied him and the grandparents never noticed.

Ashley - posted on 07/28/2010

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yeah dont worry about it,my son is always look at my wedding ring & earrings admiring them & saying "daddy give to you",he'll try and pout on my bra or hair things because he wants to be like mommy & doesn't understand yet.He loves chapstick because i wear it all the time & wants me to put some on him,but i bought him some toy story chapstick at the dollar store,it has the characters on it & is for boys :-)He'll pick up an xbox controller or any remote because he wants to be like his daddy & he will try to walk around in anyones shoes.He just wants to be like his mama,he'll grow out of it too soon so enjoy it while you can.

Tiffiny - posted on 07/27/2010

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my son used to want his nails painted everytime i painted mine so what i did was put a clear coat on him and he was happy he was the only one who knew about it unless he told people (which usually he did) but he was sooooo happy b/c he was just like mommy . they will grow out of it... daddy may get mad but oh well

Renee - posted on 07/26/2010

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my son was the same an now he is 10 an very manly an on the odd ossacion has painted them like mum an sisters i have seen boys at school with there done as well dontworry about it

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DON'T stop him!.......Let him "act like a girl".....he doesn't realize the difference b/w boys and girls and who cares if he wants to paint his toes? I'm a nail technician and I paint my lil' girls toes all the time....I used to paint my stepson's when he was younger.....he always asked for a "MANicure". lmao.



Make it fun and let him explore....that's how children learn.

Julie - posted on 07/21/2010

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I think it's completely normal; he's just imitating things he sees you do. And I'm sure coloring toes looks likes fun! My son loves to wear my stilleto heels, and he wants to wear my jewelry. I let him play with what's safe, but not out of the house. As he's getting older, though, he's starting to trend more towards wanting to imitate Daddy instead of Mommy.

Let your son explore safely, make sure he has quality time with some good male role models, and he'll figure it out. He doesn't really have any idea of gender roles yet, but it won't take long.

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