Stopped sleeping through night....

Hazel - posted on 06/21/2010

Thats funny, i am having this problem with my sept 2008 baby now!!! He used to be so good at bed time. At 19.45 i used to say "bedtime!!!, say night night and give kisses" and he used to do it then go up stairs i put him in his cot with juice and dummy and that was it. Although he's never slept through, bed time has never been an issue but sleeping through has. Anyway. I start part-time job begining of may in which he now goes to nursery 2 days a week. since then we have had problems. I tend to take him to nursery on the way to work and his dad picks him up on the way home.When i take him he screams and continues to do so until 20 mins after i leave ( i also work in a nursery so i know its ok!!) Obviously i am bad mummy and daddy is the good one before he collects him and my gosh dont i know it. When i get home from work, he wont go anywhere near me, he screams and hits and kicks me like i am a stranger or i am trying to hurt him, it breaks my heart and i spend most of the evening in tears cos he's upset!!! Now,He will not go to bed without screaming and if he is sleeping before he goes to bed (if he falls asleep on his daddy watching tv etc)he will wake up the min i put him in his bed and he wakes up during the night ( not that he didnt before) screaming for his daddy!!! I am not good enough!!! Now, i have started to tell him daddys at work. the only way i can get him to settle is sleeping on his bedroom floor next to him with my hand in his cot and go back to bed when hes sleeping. My soon also has all his teeth bar the 4 back ones so don think he's teething!!! so... good luck and let me know when it changes x

Angie - posted on 06/19/2010

We had this happen when my husband went out of town for the weekend. He woke up screaming, got out of his crib and came and found me. I had a friend over to help (I was almost due with my 2nd) and there was nothing that she could do. Finally I gave in and let him sleep on the couch with me. Same thing happened the next night. We let it slide a few more nights until we just couldnt take it anymore. We took turns sitting in his room until about 4am! I didnt know that a child could scream that loud for that long. One night he fell asleep standing up in the corner of his crib. We lowered the crib, same thing. We changed him over to the toddler bed, it took a few more nights, but then he started sleeping in his own bed again. It was about 2 weeks total. With an infant in the house now, we have backslid a bit, He started crawling into bed with us. If I wake up I put him back in his own bed if not he gets to sleep with us.

Good luck and be consistant, I know it is hard, but you and your husband have to be on the same page and be strong on this one, whatever you decide.

April - posted on 06/18/2010

I maybe the mean mom but I let my daughter cry it out. I normally will give her 10 minutes or till she is standing in her crib. My daughter started waking up a little during the night and it ended up she was hungry so I give her a late night snack and that has helped us.

Emily - posted on 06/18/2010

My son went through this also, but he started this after his dad left for his second deployment ( his first was before our son). At first i was letting him slep with me because i felt bad, but finally I had to stop. As hard as it was I just put a gate in his door way and let him cry it out. As long as you know that they are safe it is ok. He actually only cried for about 5 mins or so and then gave up and went back to bed, we havn't had a problem since. It's hard to do, but if you know that health wise he is ok, and he is safe you may have to, for your sanity and for a little sleep!