What are your nights like?

Alisha - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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My daughter goes to bed around 7:30, but is still waking up at least once, usually twice. Sometimes happy, sometimes crying. She usually wakes around 12 or 1, then again at 3 or 4.

I just feel like she should be going all night by this point. . . am I alone up at night with a 6 month old?

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Rebekah - posted on 04/11/2009

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My son has been sleeping through the night since 4 months (and that was awesome when he did).  Now the only reasons why he wakes up in the night is (1) not feeling good, (2) teething pain, (3) stuffy nose, or (4) something woke him up.  So usually I go in and check on him if none of those are bothering him, I recover him, kiss him on his head and tell him "nite nite" and walk out.  He might cry for a second, but usually puts himself back out.  If he doesn't I'll go in and rock him back to sleep.

Jenna - posted on 04/09/2009

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My daughter goes to bed at 8pm and she has recently been going through some odd periods, She now wakes up at around 1 but falls to sleep on her own after about ten minutes and as she USED to sleep untill 7:30 recently she has been waking up at 6 >.< I think she is teething though, and i have also read that children around 6 months will go through a "sleep regression" and will continue normaly after about 3-6 weeks....thats alot of early mornings that is all i know lol.

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Leigh-Anne - posted on 04/14/2009

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Sounds exactly like my son. Goes to bed at 8 gets up at  between 11-12 sometimes to eat sometimes just water... then back up at around 4 for some more water and then usually is up at 7 or 8am for breakfast.  He also sometimes wake up happy and sometimes crying. Im glad its not just my baby it seems like everyone else has babies that sleep all night lol

Andrea - posted on 04/14/2009

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I just checked this site again, so I am sorry for being so late in response. I breastfed my daughter for 3 months- not as long as I would have liked, but I got extremely ill and had to take meds that she couldn't have so we switched to formula at that point. We discontinued her "night bottle" at around 4.5 months along with our pediatricians instruction based on our daughters weight gain being good. I make sure she has 5 good (btwn. 4-6 oz.) bottles a day with 2-3 "meals" of gerber baby food. She eats about a container worth (cummulative) of a variety of meat,veggies and fruit at a meal. She takes a bottle between 3-4 hours during the day and her last bottle is right before bed. We have a very consistent bedtime routine- bath, bottle, story, BED! and try to have her in bed no later than 8 every night. If she seems overly tired, put to bed earlier- at the signs of being tired (rubbing eyes, yawning) and there is not much fuss if any. Sometimes babies can become overtired and thus sleep LESS and not MORE as one would assume. "Sleep begets sleep" is our mantra, so see how many naps baby is taking- perhaps she needs to nap more or have more structured naps to avoid being overtired at bedtime. All babies wake naturally- so start putting to bed sleepy but awake so she can learn to calm herself back to sleep. Also- mine takes a paci and when I finally stopped going in there- she learned how to grab it and put it in her mouth all by herself! (She knew how- but didn't do it b/c I was always running in there). Remember- babies are very social at this age and LOVE their mommies- you can't blame them for wanting to visit with you at night for a hug or cuddle. I just try to create an environment where my daughter can be confident in her abilities to calm and soothe herself and everyone in the house is happier. Most important- watch your baby! If she is happy and bright eyed the next day and well behaved even after you have to let her cry- she is not hurting and you are doing the right thing- the crying WILL go down- you just have to get her used to the idea of calming herself b/c until now- you fulfilled that role for her. If baby is sick, teething, etc.- I go to her immediatly to comfort and check on her- it hasn't caused any problems once she is not ill and I have not had to let her "cry it out" since the first time. :) Good luck!

Elisa - posted on 04/13/2009

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Quoting Alisha:



Thanks ladies.  Things are a bit better. . . she only woke once last night.  My ped said I didn't need to feed her anymore at night at this point and I tried not to, but she cries for 2 hours. . . the past few nights I've just fed her and she's back asleep within 20 minutes.  I'll miss the sleepless nights some day I bet. 






And I agree "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is the best book out there.






Glad to hear things are better. I used to feed my bub when he woke and he would go straight down i did this for a few months and now he doesn't wake til after 6. He would want a feed at 2 then 3 etc.. slowly it got later and later. So hopefully your little one in a few months will not be needing the feed so early.

Melissa - posted on 04/13/2009

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My son just turned 7 months and i am up with him usually once a night. i end up going in, putting the pacifier in, flipping him over and he goes right back to sleep. If he is growing or something then I may have to feed him also. But usually only once a night.

Sara - posted on 04/13/2009

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let her stay up later before bedtime. try closer to nine. that always works for me. I have 3 kids and I feel TOO seasoned at this lol

Delia - posted on 04/13/2009

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My 6 month old son and my 20 month old daughter share a room so I thought it would be hard to get them to sleep at the same time. But it hasnt been too bad at all. My son slept in a bassinett in my room until he was about 3 months old and he was sleeping through the night by the time he was about 2 months old. Now that both of my children are in the same room I put them to sleep at 8:30 and they both sleep through the night, they wake up between 8:00 and 10:00 a.m. But of course like any child their ages they have their days where they dont want to sleep at all.

Rebekah - posted on 04/13/2009

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Quoting Joy:



my son goes to bed at 7pm and i go and wake him at 7am. i am sure he does wake thru the night but he is a pro at self settling back to sleep i dont even use the monitor anymore. if something is wrong he will scream the house down i am sure. the trick is to teach ur baby to self settle without the help of mummy, daddy, rocking, bottle or pacifier. it is also the same for his day sleeps. i put him down awake in his cot and he goes to sleep.





My son self-settles and I still rock to sleep and use a pacifier.  I scatter pacifiers all over the crib and if he wakes up in the night, he'll grab one and go back to sleep.  It doesn't have to be without mom/dad/rocking/pacifer, etc.  Coaching your child to sleep is how you do it, whether that's cry it out, pacifier, rocking, patting, standing over the crib, coming in every 5 mintues to calm them down, whatever - they learn through conditioning.

Kathy - posted on 04/13/2009

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I am thrilled to say tonight for the first time, my daughter slept for 11 hours :-).

Joy - posted on 04/13/2009

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my son goes to bed at 7pm and i go and wake him at 7am. i am sure he does wake thru the night but he is a pro at self settling back to sleep i dont even use the monitor anymore. if something is wrong he will scream the house down i am sure. the trick is to teach ur baby to self settle without the help of mummy, daddy, rocking, bottle or pacifier. it is also the same for his day sleeps. i put him down awake in his cot and he goes to sleep.

Rebecca - posted on 04/12/2009

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Society has contidioned us to believe there is something to "fix" if our child is not sleeping through the night.  Babies have short sleep cycles and small bellies.  If your baby is waking to eat, that means you aren't feeding your baby foods that are too hard for them to digest.  You sound like you have a healthy baby

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You're not the only one! My girl used to sleep from 8pm through to 7am, with a "dreamfeed" around 11pm or so.



Now she usually wakes up at least once or twice during the night and is up for the day by 6am. I'm going to try cutting her naps shorter and see if that helps.

Casey - posted on 04/12/2009

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If my baby sleep all night long I jump up and check to see if he's still breathing Its shocking when he does sleep all night!

Alicia - posted on 04/11/2009

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Hello...I too was in the boat only a little while ago. The thing that worked the best to get my little one to sleep through was to cut back on how much I fed him at night. I am nursing still, and started only nusing him on one side, and then after only a week or so, he stopped waking him. And now if he does wake up, I know that he isn't hungry, and he just falls back asleep. A lot of the time he wakes up, and by the time I get to his room, he's already asleep.



Now my little guy goes to bed at 7PM, and sleeps till 7:30AM

Rebekah - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Andrea:

My daughter is 7 months and is in bed no later than 8:00 pm. We let her go to bed anywhere in the range of 7-8- just wait for her to yawn or rub her eyes and bedtime is no fuss at all. She sleeps about 11 hours straight- but we had to let her cry at night for 1.5 weeks to go from 7 hours to 11 hours. Everyone in the household is happier! When she cries- listen very carefully- does she wait to hear footsteps? Is it a "I need you" cry or an "I want you" cry. IF you feel uncertain on the difference- go check on her- but DO NOT pick her up (just pat back and shhhh for a sec.) unless she needs changed or is teething. The first few nights you do this will be the worst- they are wondering why you are not responding the way they want you to and are used to you doing. After the 3rd night- it drops dramatically but can fluxuate for up to a couple weeks- some babies only take 1 night- some take 2 weeks. Mine took longer b/c I gave in the 3rd night adn went back to old habits- then they were 2 times as hard to re-break. Things change- so don't be too strict with yourself or her. In my experience though- this really WORKED for actual change in our families sleeping habits. I recommend the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weissbluth- it has become our sleep bible so to speak.


I did this as well, only I used the book "Good Night, Sleep Tight" by the sleep lady.  All the books are very similar, I've read them all and tossed out some things and then found what worked best for me.  Good luck! :)

Mary - posted on 04/11/2009

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That sounds exactly like my daughter. What do you do when she wakes up? I am at a lost for what to do.

Kathy - posted on 04/11/2009

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Question for the mom that had her baby sleeping 11 hours. Were you breastfeeding at the time? Also how many solid food meals were you feeding? And how long did you let them cry before you did pick them up? Thanks so much!

Alisha - posted on 04/11/2009

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Thanks ladies.  Things are a bit better. . . she only woke once last night.  My ped said I didn't need to feed her anymore at night at this point and I tried not to, but she cries for 2 hours. . . the past few nights I've just fed her and she's back asleep within 20 minutes.  I'll miss the sleepless nights some day I bet. 



And I agree "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is the best book out there.

Andrea - posted on 04/11/2009

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My daughter is 7 months and is in bed no later than 8:00 pm. We let her go to bed anywhere in the range of 7-8- just wait for her to yawn or rub her eyes and bedtime is no fuss at all. She sleeps about 11 hours straight- but we had to let her cry at night for 1.5 weeks to go from 7 hours to 11 hours. Everyone in the household is happier! When she cries- listen very carefully- does she wait to hear footsteps? Is it a "I need you" cry or an "I want you" cry. IF you feel uncertain on the difference- go check on her- but DO NOT pick her up (just pat back and shhhh for a sec.) unless she needs changed or is teething. The first few nights you do this will be the worst- they are wondering why you are not responding the way they want you to and are used to you doing. After the 3rd night- it drops dramatically but can fluxuate for up to a couple weeks- some babies only take 1 night- some take 2 weeks. Mine took longer b/c I gave in the 3rd night adn went back to old habits- then they were 2 times as hard to re-break. Things change- so don't be too strict with yourself or her. In my experience though- this really WORKED for actual change in our families sleeping habits. I recommend the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weissbluth- it has become our sleep bible so to speak.

Kathy - posted on 04/11/2009

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Nope you are not alone. My daughter tends to go to bed around 8 or 9. Then she gets up usually around midnight or one o clock. Then she wakes up again around 5 or 6. And finally wakes up for good at 7 or 8am. The most she has slept at one time is 7 hours. It was amazing. But average she sleeps 5 hours straight.

Mandy - posted on 04/09/2009

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I'm so lucky....My son goes to be around 8 or 9. He normally doesn't wake up til 6 am. It just depends on his mood and how many naps he has during the day

Casey - posted on 04/09/2009

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not at all they say you should let them cry thats the only way they will sleep all night I couldn't do that with my 2 year old my hubby had cronic mono that never went away and he needed his sleep and my 2 year old still gets up at least 1 time at night.

Tammy - posted on 04/09/2009

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yes we are the same, our little boy who is 7 months goes to bed at about 8pm but wakes up once or twice, i know he is teething so i think that is why. x

Julie - posted on 04/09/2009

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My 6 month old son goes to bed at 7:30 too, and sleeps until 6:30/7 the next morning. It is normal for babies to wake up during the night. You wake up during the night and go back to sleep several times, and so does your baby. If you hear your daughter wake up, and she's not upset, you don't need to go in there, just let her fall back asleep. My son usually wakes up around 3 am, talks to himself for about 15 minutes, and goes back to sleep without me ever having to get out of bed. Sometimes he'll start crying, and sound really upset, but by the time I make it to my bedroom door, he's already gone back to sleep. So it's okay to let her cry for a couple of minutes, too. Sometimes I do have to go in and rub his back or give him a hug, but he'll usually go right back to sleep after that.

Erin - posted on 04/09/2009

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My son was sleeping thru he night, 8hrs at 2-4 months, now he is 6 months and wakes up at numerous times thru out the night.  He goes to bed at 8:30 after his bottle, wakes up at 1:30-2 screaming for a bottle and then wakes at 5:30 for his binkie.  He usually gets up at 7:30-8a.  I am wondering what happened to him sleeping thru the night.  I have read every sleep book and can't figure it out.  My ped says to let him cry it out and that it will take a week.  Not sure if I can take a week of him screaming:(

Desra - posted on 04/09/2009

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sorry one other thing do u have a bumbo seat? the best thing they ever invented. she loves it and i just sit her in it and you dont have to worry about them falling out and i put the play center in front of her and she just loves it. 40$ for a piece of hard plastic thing but,,, the best thing that i've found yet. she's almost to big for it already, my chubbstir weighs 22lbs already... they say it helps to teach them to sit up earlier to.

Desra - posted on 04/09/2009

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okay and yes i still believe that brynlie thinks that it's 7, cause she's up at 6am every morning now. i hate to say but maybe it is the time change, that is why she gets up at 6 now. could be. she did used to sleep all night but ya know that is babies for ya, unpredictible...so nice talking w/ya. good to talk w/someone who experiences the same things you do.

Desra - posted on 04/09/2009

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i'm thinking the same thing. but you know i also have a 4 yr. old and i rocked her to sleep every night, it got to the point i would lay her down after she fell asleep and she would wake right back up. so i'm surely not gonna make the same mistake that is why i always lay her down, let her do her thing and put herself to sleep. but the waking up thing has got me puzzled to. it is also hard the next day to continue and go about your day when u are kind of sleepy from the night before. i have to get up and take my 4 yr. to pre-k by 8, she does sleep great throughout the day though how about yours????

Debbie - posted on 04/09/2009

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My daughter also goes to bed at 7.30 or 8 and also wakes up once but sometimes twice. I have often wondered if I am doing something wrong but it seems to be a common problem!!

Desra - posted on 04/09/2009

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well seems like things were on track very good. i alway put my 7month old to bed at 8 sharp!!!! but past 3/4 nights she's been waking up and taking forever to go back to sleep, i feed her and just put her back to bed and let her do her own thing and get herself back to sleep. but the monitor is on so i hear everything, ya know.

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