sex question a tiny bit detailed

Random - posted on 03/31/2012

The internal orgasm that you're looking for occurs when you have repeated pressure or stroking applied to the g-spot. What you're looking for is the ribbed part of your vagina, just inside the labia minora. The right positions will help you achieve that with a partner.

Louise - posted on 05/07/2010

My advice is to go on top as you can position yourself in the right place for you. It is a lot easier for a woman to climax in this position as you can put added pressure on your clit as you bob up and down!

Krista - posted on 01/24/2010

Most women can't climax during intercourse, so there's definitely nothing wrong with you in that aspect. As long as in the grand scheme of things you're enjoying yourself, then that's all that matters.

Mel - posted on 01/23/2010

thanks , no I have definately been with a fair few guys lol think its just me

Diana - posted on 01/23/2010

Actually I've heard that some women just can't get off through pentrative sex, although I think the number is pretty low. I'm not sure what the reason would be. Anyhow, the show I was watching where they talked about it suggested to have your guy (or you could do it) rub your clit while you're having sex, as most of those women do get off with clitoral stimulation.



Then again, I guess it's possible that you just haven't had the right sex yet. =/ I dunno.

Cassie - posted on 10/03/2009

I had the same problem before I met my husband. But the first time my Husband and I did the dirty, he fingered my clit while having sex and it was AMAZING. I had my first orgasm with him. Just try stimulation of some sort while having sex, your finger, his finger, a vibrator. Or if your on top, instead of in and out, go forward and back and press your pelvic bone against his while you do this. This should stimulate your clitoris and help you orgasm.

Jodi - posted on 09/18/2009

Hey, Melissa, masturbating can help you work out what works for you, and then you just make sure you can communicate this to your partner, and he will be able to help you. I used to have a lot of trouble when I was your age too, but then I learned exactly what it was that brought me to orgasm, and was able to translate this into my experience with my current husband. I'll be totally honest, I NEVER orgasmed with my ex husband (unless I did it for myself) because he didn't give a shit beyond his own pleasure. You need to be HONEST with your partner. Don't fake it. Tell him you are having problems, tell him you want him to do it this way or that way. Help him :) Both of you will appreciate it!

Mel - posted on 09/13/2009

thanks Tarsha haha, sorry I havent been in contact lately I really am Ive been so busy with Brianna. HOpe you and baby are well. and I think you really need to be totally in the mood and the right mind set about everything to. thanks!

Tarsha - posted on 09/13/2009

99% of the time if u cant orgasm during sex it is due to a lack of clit stimulation, and generally all u really need to do is get ur partner to drop his hips more, or get closer to each other and (for lack of a better way of explaining it) slide against each other more. HAHAHA, I hope that makes sense

Mel - posted on 09/10/2009

sorry i have been busy guys, i didnt mean i hadnt had an orgasm i Just wondered abotu having an orgasm from sex but i guess you dod have to use clit stimulation to do so. thankyou!

Jocelyn - posted on 09/09/2009

the only way i can orgasm is thru direct clit stimulation. penetration helps, but i've never orgasmed (is that a word? lol) by that alone. i read a book called... "how to have an orgasm any time you want" (i think, something along that line) and it talks about how you have to be completely comfortable with yourself (ie giving yourself an orgasm) before anyone else can give you one. it was a really good book, and it had some good tips. like the first tip was masturbating with something you think of as "safe" (because penis's can be intimidating etc) so like, a stuffed animals paw, then your hand, then something phallic shaped, then you move on from there, masturbating with penetration, in front of someone, in public, with proper toys, with the help of someone else, etc etc. i didn't follow all of the steps, but it did help. there's also some info on good positions for clit stim. and stories from other women.
i will also say, based on experience that it is quite a mental thing.
my hubby and i are also very adventurous, so that helps a lot. by trying everything, i know exactly what i like and how i like it. and try everything twice, especially if you think you didn't like something. trying something new the first time can be nerve racking or uncomfortable, but the second time, you now know how it goes and you can focus more on the pleasure, instead of the technicalities

Heidi - posted on 09/09/2009

Oh Melissa I feel so sorry for you. Mind you I never had an orgasim till I met my husband. I guess any of my exes just didn't exicte me enough. Mow I am lucky to have 2 or 3 each time. You will know when you have one because its one of the best feelings ever. It has nothing to do with your cervix, your clit has to be eroused or rubbed for it to really work. All the advice the women have gave you should certainly work thats for sure! Give it a try and see what happens. Experiment and have doing it!

Esmeralda - posted on 09/05/2009

i would try more clitoral stimulation,be it by you or your partner or even a toy.

also try a lot of foreplay to build up the suspense and to be able to actually feel every sensation.

Charlie - posted on 09/01/2009

Don't worry it's more common than you think , About 10% of women have never had an orgasm -- either with a partner or during masturbation.
It is possible to learn to be orgasmic.
The first and most important lesson is to practice developing a balance of tension and relaxation during sexual activity.
The type of tension that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension (myotonia). Many women have the mistaken impression that they should relax and "just lie there" because they've heard that relaxation during sex is important. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm.
the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by incorporating a fair amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.
These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).
Contracting (or tensing) certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area.
the relaxation part of this equation? In the brain. During sex, a woman should be focused simply on feeling the sensations of the stimulation.

Have a hard time relaxing? Think of a Times Square billboard in which words stream into view from the left-hand side to the right edge, and then disappear off the screen. During sex, many women find it helpful to program their own Times Square news crawl with a repetitive mantra such as "I can take as long as I want" or "This really feels great" on their mental silent radio. It keeps the brain occupied -- but with a thought that will encourage sexual arousal rather than with a nervous, negative thought that might decrease arousal.
This technique takes practice, but it can work over time.
More often than not , the ability to orgasm is mainly a mental issue women in general need to let go and enjoy sex they need to feel deserving of an orgasm and it cant hurt to even be a little more selfish in bed , Men certainly do !

Brandi - posted on 09/01/2009

You've NEVER had an orgasm?!?! :(



That is one of the saddest things I have ever heard...



Perhaps trying with toys and lube. While he is inside, take a vibrator of some sort and rub your clit with it. Play with your nipples or have him suck on them, talk dirty, do some rough play or choking if you're into that... that gets me going. Also, if you're into anal, I am sure to cum with my Hubby in my butt and a vibe in my coochie.



Experiment and remember that sex is for FUN on one of the most ultimate levels. Good luck finding your Big O! :)

Nyoka - posted on 09/01/2009

i dont think that its becuz ur cervix is to ohigh up.. an orgasim is caused by penetraion and sensation due to nerve endings (isnt it) lol im not an expert

have you tried helping your self out while having sex..