MOST HELPFUL POSTS
Karen - posted on 01/02/2013
First, the partner (your man or a SO wearing a strap on or even using a dildo) musrt proceed SLOWLY. For me, that means taking at least 5 minutes of very gentle very deliberate short in-and-out movement. Second, a state of mind is required, I have to purposely focus on relaxing but more importantly when I feel the first pressure on my anus I immediately start short grunting-like movements as if I'm trying to have a BM when I'm constipated. I know it is gross to some to mix having a BM with sex but lets be frank ... bearing down as when trying to pass a stool actually causes the sphincter muscle to relax and that means LOOSENESS. If you don't bear down, your back door will be tight and that will hurt. The down side for me is I sometimes let out a small fart or two when my husband is about half way inside my anus but he expects it and knows it is natural. He has been doing my ass occasionally for the past 15 years and I now find it extremely enjoyable. Another downside is the next day. I fart all day and his semen and sperm come glopping out onto my panties so the day after can be a mite messy, especially if your man leaves a large load of wiggling things inside you.
Meredith - posted on 07/29/2012
At one time in my life if would have ask about anal I would have said hell no, But now.. I can honestly say it feel good to me now. A few years ago I had sex with a girl friend of mine, while our husbands were gone a deep sea fishing trip. We played around as usual but while she was licking my clit she put a finger in my ass. She was very good at what she did. It didnt hurt exactly just felt diffrent. She didn't ram her finger in me it was slow and gentle and just enough I could feel the intensity. I had an orgasm while she licked me and fingered my ass. Afterwars I ask her about it. and she said whe would help me do anal if I wanted to. For months after that when I rubbed myself I would put a finger in my ass also. It became apart of my sexual fun. My husband never knew about my thought on anal. Later when her and I were together again she used 2 fingers and eventually after sometime had passed she fucked me with a dildo in my ass. I don't think I would have liked it if a man tried anal with me at first, so I'm glad I learned to love it the way I did. Now I love getting fucked in my ass. I want say it feels better than my pussy but it feels diffrent and I enjoy it alot..
Sorry if this was too graphic.
Laura - posted on 06/27/2011
My husband and I do anal quite a bit when were are intimate I never thought I would do anal or even like as much as I do. I always thought about trying it but never felt confident enough to bring it up in any relationship I had, But when I met my husband he opened mny eyes to a whole new world and he didnt make me feel uncomfortable he made me feel sexy. i did anal for the first time about 4 months after our daughter was born, one night we were in bed fooling around and he asked me if it would be ok if he went in the other way as he put it and I said are you talking about my butt and he said yes so i said ok but go slow I had never done it and he did go slow he went slow and it was amazing I think the neighbors even heard us...lol
Jamie - posted on 03/04/2013
Don't know that it's my favorite, but I have to say my most intense orgasms have been from anal. I became a huge fan of it while I was pregnant for some reason. At that moment, it just worked for me and I asked for it a lot! These days, I fantasize about it sometimes, but don't want it enough to ask for it.
Men like to stick their dicks in holes. I really don't think that from a dick's point of view there IS a wrong hole. I definitely cannot believe that all men who like anal are gay. My husband says it's just tighter and drier.
- Lots of lube has already been said, but can't be said enough. Spit is NOT very good lube btw.
- Use a condom for penises and for toys too. Personally, even if it's been wrapped, I'd still wash it off before I put it in my mouth again. ew.
- If the poo issue is huge for you, do an enema before anal.
The one thing that really made a difference for me in enjoying anal was to vibrate my clit at the same time and a partner who went slow when he needed to go slow. If you can go slow at the very beginning, it gets really good.
Trasie - posted on 11/24/2013
My husband and I tried anal after our first child was born...go figure childbirth made me horny as hell and waiting 6 weeks was NOT an option for me. Hubby was eager to proceed and in the beginning it hurt a bit (of course, neither of us knew wth we were doing) but then I got really into it. We had anal a few more times but suddenly about 6y ago, he decided NO MORE. He says he doesn't enjoy it and I'm left to using a dildo...not the same but what can I do?
I used to do it with past lovers and also my husband. But these days we don't bother, doggie style is enough for us. I noticed the only time poop gets on the penus is when I was slightly or very constipated, makes since really. And it only hurts until your sphincter is used to being stretched, but can start hurting again if you go too long in between anal encounters. It can be done slowly and with lots of lub (spit works well) and he can only advance after your body adjusts, that helps a lot with the intial pain when first begining anal sex. It is a nice alternative to sex with men that have a penus that is way too long and causes pain with vaginal sex. Your vaginal wall is only about 6 inches long, so when he really gets into it and starts going at it hard and fast, that can cause pain if he is longer than your vaginal wall. Anal sex can be pleasurable after your sphincter is used to it, but you have to keep doing it or that process will have to happen all over again every time. Although the process usually goes faster the longer you have done anal sex.
Myst - posted on 06/04/2010
i use to love it but now i dont do it as much cause i dont want the stomach ache the next day. it bothered me bout the whole poo on the penis thing then i figured if he wants to go there then he should know what comes from there to
Ashley - posted on 06/03/2010
Oh Kati...it takes like over ten times for it to stop hurting. :P It does hurt. It took me a while to be able to relax, and only one position works, haha.
About the poop thing...everytime afterwards, I look to make sure there isn't any...so far it's been ok! Haha! Although he still has to wash.
Rosie - posted on 06/03/2010
i had told myself my ass would be a virgin till the day i died, but my husband LOVES it. so, i relented after 7 years of him whining. never again. it hurt, like BAD, it wasn't sexually gratifying, and it grosses me out. the thought of poop on his weiner makes me want to gag. and have i mention it HURT!! lol! but hey at least i know for sure that i don't like it!
Ashley - posted on 06/03/2010
Haha, I thought that too at first Lyndsay...but I brought it up to my husband. He's the first I've done it with. I have severe pelvic pain (23 weeks pregnant), and it doesn't hurt when we do anal. Also, sometimes during sex it feels like my ovaries (usually my left) are going to burst, so I have to stop vaginal. :P
I was actually afraid at first since I was like, "oh man, I hope he doesn't get poop on his penis", haha!!!
Lyndsay - posted on 06/03/2010
No thanks, not for me. I have a few friends who tell me its actually great for them, but I just can't see that. Personally I think that if a man wants to fuck a person in the butt, they're gay... because that is the WRONG hole. I also don't think that taking a crap is sexually gratifying in any way, so I don't imagine anal sex would be either.
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