Swinging / threesomes

Emma - posted on 05/03/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Im an open minded type but there are a few thing that im just not prepared to conciser
Doing.
Swinging and Threesomes are on that list of things,
What are your thoughts ?
Would you ever do this ?

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Rita - posted on 10/01/2012

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I have been married for 35 yrs, Im 64 I have been with the same man all that time. Yes 64, but I have a great sex life. But with the changeing times I have been thinking about other men, more so two mn as a threesome. Hubby and someone else. Am I bad? Maybe but i will say it gets me very wet, And my hubby is getting all the luck.

Steve - posted on 08/16/2012

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My wife (of 37 years) and I started only occasionally swinging in the late 70's & 80's. We were extremely careful about the cleanliness of the men and women we came in contact with. I have to say that the fist time I watched another man penetrate my wife was the high light of my life. I still get an erection thinking about it. When I want to masterbate I aways think of the times I've seen her spreadout over some guys big dick. Size was always an issue with her. We haven't done anything in a very long time because she isn't in to it any more, but I sure wish she was. For being in her mid-50's, she still looks really good.

Kathy - posted on 08/29/2011

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Unfortunately there is not right or wrong answer to this question. My husband and I have been swingers for many years and have enjoyed it a lot. We've had a number of threesomes as well, both with FFM MMF sometimes things are fine the next day and other times things do get a little ugly, not between me and my husband but for the other couples involved.
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that it's just sex and if you can't separate your love and sex then you shouldn't play out side of your marriage.
So the advice i would give to any wife or significant other is first think about how you view sex in general.
Sex can be great fun when you think of it as recreational

Winter - posted on 05/27/2011

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I agree. But she isn't a good good friend. More of a casual aquaintaince. But I don't want to have sex with a total stranger if we were to do a threesome. I mean I am a mother of two after all :)

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I did both in my early 20's with my then husband, now ex husband. I have since remarried. I agreed to a threesome with my ex to try and make him happy, our marrage was failing with his irrasponsibility. I was tired of always being against him and wanted to join him for once. We both said that hopefully this would help spice up our marrage. It was the begining of the end. We made quick light hearted agreements of only with the other involved would we do a threesome. We did this threesome with voyars watching. (3 men) This happened to be the family we had to go live with since my husband lied to me that he paid the rent when I was keeping my step-sister's kids as a favor to her since she wasn't feeling well for some reason. She had cancer and died a few years later, but we didn't know that at this time. Since he spent the last two months rent on gaming merchandise hidding them in his back packs that I never checked, also he ate out every chance he got without me and told me he wasn't hungry when he came home. So we got evicted, he lied to me about that since I was rarely home at this time, I knew something was wrong with my sister and started sleeping at her house to help her even more. Her husband was cheating on her when his job would have him travel, and he wasn't there for her as a husband. So I took over the husband roll for her, and helped take care of her and the kids. Before I knew it we had been evicted and our stuff sold off. My ex thought if you didn't pay rent then it basicly turned into free storage of all things. He came from a privlaged life and was uneducated about the weirdest common knowledge things. We were high school sweet hearts. I liked the threesome but the chick was all about my hubby and didn't really want me on her at all, so that seemed kind of weird but I blew it off. They approached us with swinging and we agreed to try it, I decided I didn't like it and refused to do it again. They got insulted and started putting me down whenever they got the chance. My ex never defended me. We stupidly decided in our young gulible age that having a kid together could help us become closer and become the family that we wanted to be. I got pregnant and found him screwing that chick on the couch when I was sleeping in the next room at 6 months pregnant. I think threesomes and even swinging can be done without danger to the relationship. But you have to be able to distance yourself from it and continue your relationship with your spouce. The wonderful man I married to now has done the same as me, but he never had any issues with himself or his partner about not being faithful when there wasn't anyone watching. He says my ex was just too cocky and couldn't handle it. I wouldn't ever do any of that again, it was awful, my husband doesn't care if we do things like that or not. I joined the army after not being able to provide for that little girl I was pregnant with, my ex moved off and couldn't keep a job to save his life. He was going to be a floor manager at Wal-Mart in Dallas Tx but he stole 16 game boys from them and got arrested instead. Since I couldn't get support from him and couldn't make enough money to move to a better job market area, I joined the army and moved to Germany. That's were I eventually met my hubby who was attached to my unit and the rest is a beautiful history of love. I don't think I will ever get over the hurt from my ex with those expeirences and will never do it again. Sorry not all that applies to the topic, but to me it all ties in, and can't say part of it without the other.

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Katrina - posted 5 hours ago

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I want to know how to talk to your kids about threesomes. My oldest two are fine with me & my husband doing this but our youngest is not. We want our friend to stay at our house. Ive always been open with our kids. They know im bi. We have friends that are guy ( girl couple) the youngest has friends that they say they are guy too. Not sure how to get her to understand any of this. Any ideas?

Clair - posted on 04/01/2014

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I am a married mom, 50. My husband likes to see me with select men, a circle we have developed. We are very discrete and play in hotels or their homes. It is both exciting and fun and more so once you get to know the gentleman.

Michigan Momma - posted on 05/25/2012

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My husband and i have been looking for a woman to join us, just once... and no luck, afraid to bring a friend into it.We even joined a swingers website.... so I am shocked to see so many women ok with this. What the heck are we doing wrong? We are a good looking couple, in good shape.... hmmmm

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2012

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I'm currently pregnant but me and my boyfriend were talking about how fun that would be. The only hard part is finding someone willing to have a 3some with a pregnant woman!

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/20/2012

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I think I would love to try threesome and foursome but my husband is too jealous.

Veena - posted on 12/04/2011

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I have an open mind to it and would love to let two studs have their way with me. i'm thinking of ways I can make that happen.

Sam - posted on 05/27/2011

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Winter I would caution you to be very careful bringing a friend into the mix, in my first experience when my ex and I involved one of our friends (a guy, my ex and him never did anything together sexually) after that night it was kind of weird between us all, it can cause jealously issues or even just be uncomfortable after. Good friends are hard to come by so keep that in mind when making this decision, you wouldn't want to ruin a friendship all for just one night!

Winter - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have been wondering should i have a threesome with my husband and best friend? Its been on the table for awhile but i am scared to take the leap in fears that it could ruin my marriage but then again there is the possiablity it can enhance our marriage and sex life. I just don't know what to do.

Sam - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have had 2 threesomes, the first was with my ex and another guy one of our friends at the time, well we were all drunk and I thought it was awesome until the next day when we were sober and my ex all of a sudden said that I cheated on him because he was super jealous and now sober. The second time totally awesome this sounds really bad but It was with 2 guys that I had just met online, so I think that is why it was so fun too because there really were no strings attached at all. I am married now and I would consider doing it again but with another girl this time, the only thing is I would want her more for me than for my hubby, he could watch lol and be with me of course!

Ashley - posted on 11/16/2010

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I have had a threesome before, and it was great until the man I was with decided he wanted to be with my best friend more then me. I'm bi-sexual, and so is my friend. Him and I were together for a while before we thought about adding someone else to it. He already knew that her and I have been together before so he didn't see any harm in it. It was fun while it lasted. I kinda wish my husband would be open enough to try it.

Lyndsay - posted on 05/08/2010

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In a relationship, I feel that sex should be exclusively between me and my partner. I'm far too jealous to share my man with anyone, and same goes for him with me. If I was single, I would be totally into it.

C. - posted on 05/06/2010

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I could never do either.. I'm the same, Nikki.. The other woman would get a beat-down from yours truly. And there's no way I want to sleep with anyone else. My husband does the job and he does it very well :)

Nikki - posted on 05/06/2010

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I couldn't do either, no way I would wan't to see my husband with another woman, I would probably claw her eyes out. I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else either.

LaCi - posted on 05/04/2010

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I told my boyfriend if we ever go to amsterdam we can get a hooker. lol

Sunny - posted on 05/03/2010

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Yes. Not swinging but threesome yes.
I have had a few with friends and its all really just a bit of fun.
There are rules though.
I would never sleep with another man.
Never a stranger.
No one i could see my guy falling for.
We have never had any problems, its always just been a bit of fun after a night out sort of thing and its never changed my relationships with either my partner or my girlfriends.
To be honest its quite a lot of fun but i can see how its not for everyone, im every comfortable with my sexuality and was always the girl that other girls would go to if they wanted to try a girlie kiss lol
It's only happened a couple of times but they were fun times that we can all have a laugh about now. :)

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