What will you tell your daughter about masturbation ?

Emma - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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This 2009, The Oprah show welcomed Dr. Laura Berman, a well known therapist from Chicago. This show was focused on helping parents find positive ways to give their children a lesson on sex ed. The therapist didn’t hesitate to ask the audience if they have talked to their teens about self stimulation, including vibrators for young girls. Dr. Laura Berman says parents may be making a huge mistake by not having conversations with their teenagers about more contentious topics. Many viewers had mixed feelings towards the therapist’s parenting advice.

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Taylor - posted on 07/23/2012

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I never had to because i learned on my own lol. But my friends mom taught her how to masturbate.

Catalina - posted on 04/28/2012

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I would rather my daughter was doing it to herself than some Dirty little boy doing it to her! :-)

Lady - posted on 04/16/2010

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I've told my oldest daughter it her body she's free to touch it if she wants to. Aslong as it not in public. I can't really remember how the topic came up but we were just talking and she said she sometimmes touched herself in bed and I said that's fine it's her body. When the older children have seen the little one touch their privates as babies quite often do they might make a comment about it and laugh and say it's fine it's their body and it probably feel quite nice, when their older I teach them not to do it in public but I never tell them it's wrong. I had a quick look at the christian page on here once just out of morbid curiosity and they was a topic entitled "masterbation biblically or just socially wrong" it made me really sad and I nearly typed in NEITHER but I just couldn't be bothered!!

Emma - posted on 04/14/2010

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Call me out there but i think its a great idea to teach our daughters to Do it for themselves

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Holly - posted on 04/09/2014

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One of my aunts taught me when I was 13 and yes I have taught our daughters.

Chloe - posted on 02/10/2014

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My mom taught me and I'm so glad she did. It felt so normal after she told me all about masturbation, and even taught me how to do it. My own daughter is 13 now and I taught her years ago.

Nicole - posted on 01/14/2014

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It's fine (great, actually), provided, of course, you don't do it at the dinner table! --at least, not with guests present. LOL

Sarah - posted on 08/15/2013

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One thing I noticed when reading forums is how often girls don't work out how to 'do it for themselves'. I'm really grateful that at the begining of puberty my mother taught me to masturbate and that it is a good thing to do. So as my daughters get old enough, I in turn have taught them. I want the to have a good healthy attitude, having orgasms doesn't hurt them either.

Lora - posted on 07/30/2012

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There is nothing In the Bible that says masturbation is wrong,but alot of people find ways to say it's wrong,but it's not in any way :)

Daniell - posted on 05/17/2012

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On the other side of things.... I am a 29 year old mom of 2. I have been married for 8 years, and with my husband for the last 12. My mother never talked about anything with me, except the basics: penis, vagina, and intercourse. More of mechanics than anything. My older sister always informed me of what she learned from school, so according to my mom, when my mom tried I told her I already knew. By the way, my older sister wasn't ever experienced in sex, we both got boyfriends abou the same time and she lost her virginity about 6 months before I did, but we are 6 years apart. Now, I used to dry hump my stuffed animals or blankets when I was younger (7-9 years old??) and my sister caught me, and made fun of me and made me feel ashamed and threatened to tell my mother. So, I tried to hide it. Fast forward a few years and I was curious and had sex with my boyfriend (I was a few weeks shy of 16). I told me sister, who convinced me to tell my mom. When I did, she acted like I did drugs. She made me feel dirty because I was so young. I tried to tell her that sex wasn't a bad thing, but maybe I was just too young, but she wouldn't hear of it. To this day, I still have some negative feelings about sex with my husband. I occasionally feel guilty enjoying it, and initiating it, and admitting that I want to have it. The more I talk about it with my husband (who is great) the better I feel. But I still can't bring myself to masturbate with my hand. I try and it feels too weird. And it has a lot to do with how I was treated when I was younger. I have yet to use a vibrator because I am too ashamed to find out where to buy one. And my mom and sister don't masturbate either, my sister doesn't like to have sex with her husband, and as I have gotten older, I have found out my mother has way too many issues related to sex that she should of never been in the place of instructing/guiding me about it. so bottom line, please tell your kids it is okay to explore their body (in private of course) and to never feel ashamed about it. That is what I will tell my kids, when the subject comes up. I have started with my son, when I catch him with his hand in his pants, I politely tell him that activity is to be done in private, either bedroom or bathroom with doors closed.

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

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only a mum of boys here but over the years have discussed masterbation with my boys and said it is a good way of self pleasure, even with someone else involved

Lisa - posted on 04/22/2012

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My son i won't have to tell as he is 4 and i have caught him bare naked, humping the arm of the couch with his penis sticking straight up a few times lol. I used that as a perfect time to explain to my daughter that is a nice pleasurable thing to do. It's a good alternative to sex with not real risks as long as you wash your hands. Then i explained the rough mechanics of how a girl does it.

Emily - posted on 04/21/2012

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I had this conversation with my 9 year old recently and I told her that it perfectly normal and healthy. I don't want to grow up feeling dirty or ashamed about her body.

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/20/2012

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I think my 8 year old does cause I often find her with her hand between her legs when shes watching tv and I tell her to stop and do that in private.I think I dont want them to be prude or ashamed but I try to let them know they can talk to me about what ever they want and I will give them an honest answer.

Rosa - posted on 02/28/2012

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I do not have a daughter I have a son. When my niece was 11 or 12 one time we were hanging out and we were watching the show the slums of Beverly hills. In that show the main character uses her cousin vibrator to masturbate. So my niece asked me about that scene. I explained to her what the girl was doing and what masturbation was. She was quiet along time and asked me if girls really did that. I told her of course it is a normal thing to want to touch yourself and explained to her that many women owned vibrators to pleasured themselves. We talked about masturbation off and on for about an hour and half or so. I told her I did it and so does everyone I know but it is always done in private. It was a great discussion to have with her

Jen - posted on 02/28/2012

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My kids all masturbate, and i have told them it's a normal part of life to do and not to be ashamed of themselves.

Rachel - posted on 08/19/2011

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I already had that talk with my girl and she had tons of questions! And like Emma said, it's important to teach them how to "do it for themselves!" lol She knows it's healthy, normal and nothing to be ashamed about, and she knows when and where it is not appropriate. I'm grateful that her and I can talk about these things openly and that she can (and does!) ask me anything!

LaCi - posted on 04/16/2010

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Don't have a daughter. I don't think I'll really need to tell the boy... he can't keep his hands off his man bits as it is. lol

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