Woman and Masturbation - Why the big Secret ?

Emma - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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We all become aware from a fairly young age that boys masturbate as its almost expected or amused that they will.
But that's not the same for girls.

Why do you think that even in today's society where we are all quite open about sex, woman still really admit to masturbation ?

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Kel - posted on 04/14/2010

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I don't know. We all do it. I'm not ashamed to admit it. But, it's not exactly a topic I'd want to bring up at the next neighborhood book club meeting, either...lol

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Nicole - posted on 01/14/2014

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Someone wanted to masturbate while her husband watched her do it --I suggest she have her husband do it for her --though she may have to first show him how to do it properly for maximum satisfaction.

Nicole - posted on 01/14/2014

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Mona, tell the truth now! Do you and your daughter take turns doing it for each other?

Sarah - posted on 08/22/2013

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“really”? I think you mean “rarely”.

It is an issue, so I sometimes make a point in mentioning it. I am also raising my children to be open about it, my oldest daughter especially got me into some ‘interesting situations’, but well handled will lead to more openness and growth. Currently it is unbalanced, people can talk about screwing around, fornicating, adultery, cheating, various perversions, but not masturbation! Masturbation is good but the afore mentioned not – very unbalanced. I long for the day when everyone can say they masturbate and it’s not an issue.

That is why I sometimes seek out to comment on it – check my other posts.

Rosa - posted on 05/17/2012

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I dont know why women do not admit it. I am like Emma. I admit it readily when people ask. Most of my girlfriends are embarrassed and refuse to talk about it. I just tell people it is natural everyone masturbates or lies about it and if you do not you are missing out.
Now I dont just walk up to people and say hey I was taking care of myself earlier but if the topic comes up I will admit it. I would say it has something to do with purity but that does not make sense to me either. When I was younger I told some of my friends I would masturbate to avoid having sex with guys and getting pregnant and they were surprised I would say such a thing.
Maybe people are not yet ready to admit women have the same desires as men and satisfy them the same way.

Kitty - posted on 05/16/2012

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wow!... no shame in it ya i got cought doing it by my dad when I was small and he said to me...'' do you know what that will to you when you get older?'' he seemed to think it wasnt such a good idea....

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

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i masterbate most days and sometimes twice a day. esp if i get to be alone in the house. even nipped of for a quickie when prepping tea for the boys lol

Mona - posted on 05/15/2012

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its not masturbation with toddlers, its a rubbing stimulation very different..... no shame in masturbation my daughter knows i do it and she does it as well no need to hide

Jen - posted on 02/28/2012

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Women are given confusing dual signals in life. In which we are shown from an early age that showing off our body sexuality attracts men, but if we have too much sex we are labeled as whores, and sluts. I mean a guy bangs as many girls as he wants, girls laugh, boys cheer him. Girls do it and they get an easy reputation linked with a lack of respect. I think this goes even into masturbation.

Ashley - posted on 11/15/2010

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I don't know why woman don't admit it either. I've told my husband that I do it, and one of my fantasies was for him to watch. But when the time came for me to do it in front of him, he didn't seem that interested. Part of it was my fault. I couldn't relax enough to even enjoy it, he was watching his sports and not really even paying attention to me anyways. I truthfully, don't think there is anything wrong with woman masturbating. We have to release our sexual tension too, not just men. We might be different genders, but we were all created with the same nerve endings. LOL

Kelly - posted on 09/27/2010

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I don't know what the big secret is either. Never have really understood it, but I am not at all ashamed to admit that I do it every chance I get! Lol! ;)

Emma - posted on 04/15/2010

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Yes i doubt i would announce at book club that that's what i was doing before coming hear lol, As everything there is a time and a place to discuss things.
I just seams strange as we woman are famous for talking about everything with our female friends that there would still be such a taboo.
I have always been quite mater of fact about it but most of my friends have always been guys and the couple of times ive been asked directly about it my responses has always been well we all know you do it so what would make you think i don't.... My male friends have more often than not especially in our younger years been shocked to hear a woman admit it, as there girlfriends and wife's say they never have.

Lady - posted on 04/14/2010

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It probably goes back to the day when women weren't supposed to enjoy sex , only lie back and think of England - or where ever, which wasn't really all that long ago - my mum wasn't told about womens side of pleasure and though she was dying the first time she had an orgasm. I'm sure eventually it will change but just needs some more time.

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