How do you make your kids get along better?

Sarina - posted on 01/27/2010

Like I have said before... I have my children sit on the floor and look at each other for a set amount of time, then when time is up they have to write down 10 things they like about each other. (if they are to little to write they can say it) If that don't work I make them hang onto hands for 20 minutes and add a minute each time one of them squeezes pinchs or digs the other one.

Anne-marie - posted on 01/03/2010

I think it's healthy for them all to bicker and fight! I did it with my brothers and sisters and my kids (14yrs, 8 and 7) are at it morning noon and night. I'd rather them fight with each other than start boxing with their friends at school. Hopefully they'll grow up and have a fab relationship. Either that or when the do grow up and move out make sure you don't invite them to dinner at the same time :)

Kelley - posted on 12/21/2009

I wish I knew how to more effectively have them work together, you know if one gets in trouble then all do, or now both will be stuck with each others company, and that means no-friends over (that usually ends up back firing, and I end up paying)



They're so worried about stuff being fair or getting back at each other.....Who ever said everything was suppost to be fair.....That's just a rotten bunch of bunk. (But I remember the feeling, maybe it's just an important part of growing into adulthood, we all have to come to terms with finding happiness in who we are / not what we have).....hmmmm, maybe that's a little piece of the puzzle to help me figure this out. :)

Kelley - posted on 12/21/2009

Quoting Emily:

I am a home schooling mom. So our children (7,7 & 5) are together ALL the time. They even do most of their extracurricular things together. It seems that when there are extremes: when we are too busy or if we have too much unstructured time- those are the WORST times. The fights break our like wildfires. It helps me to have as much structure at home as possible. Which is very hard sometimes.
Bless you & press on,
Emily

Homeschooling too what does your structure success days look like???

I'll bet if all the other mom think back over there kids fights they are the worst during down time, even I get out of focus when 'my hands are idle' too long.

Stephanie - posted on 12/02/2009

I don't think there is really any way to MAKE your kids get along... I try to come up with different activities for each to keep them seperate, or something we can all do together ( which is hard having two girls and two boys ranging from 9 to 14....) I make all my kids be at least respectful of each other even when they are mad...

Emily - posted on 11/21/2009

I am a home schooling mom. So our children (7,7 & 5) are together ALL the time. They even do most of their extracurricular things together. It seems that when there are extremes: when we are too busy or if we have too much unstructured time- those are the WORST times. The fights break our like wildfires. It helps me to have as much structure at home as possible. Which is very hard sometimes.
Bless you & press on,
Emily

Mary - posted on 08/28/2009

i wish i could help but i need an answer 4 this one to...when u find out let me know. just tonight 4 instance everything going along find until all of a sudden........i dont even know what initiates the outbursts