My son and step son are both two and my son is getting threatened by my step son,

Claire - posted on 11/08/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son and step son are both two and my son is getting threatened by my step son they both know how to share but wont with each other keep pushing and pulling each other and being mean to each other, i dont know whether its because my partner spends that little bit of extra attention to charlie (my step son) then leo cos he sees more of leo or if its because leo (my son) does not see his dad that often (his dads fault not mine) or if its just terrible twos and that they are pushing boundries but i know leo feels jealous and dont want it to get out of hand in future what can i do??

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Rebecca - posted on 11/09/2009




Hi Claire well it sounds like my kids when they're were that little...and even now they still argue w/each other. Don't get me wrong they're really good kids but they're brother and sisters and they love to fight w/each other. And yours are only 2yrs. old I really don't think you have that much to worry about.

But if you are you could always have your husband spend time w/both of them together so they don't get jealous of one another. There is nothing wrong w/that. When I married my husband he knew i was a package deal w/my daughter and when our son was born he didn't treat my daughter any different..He's been raising her since she was 3 and like your son her father is not around his fault not mine. So my daughter knows my husband as "daddy" Im sure your husband wouldn't mind spending time w/both at the same time. I hope everything works out w/your son and step son:) Good Luck

Maggie - posted on 11/09/2009




Hi Claire - maybe you could try time outs combined with positive reinforcement; that age is still pretty young and they're still learning to share but sometimes, you can catch them getting along and say what a good sharer he is; You could try sticker charts -- put a sticker for each time they are nice to the other one -- they get along, put a sticker on a chart. Sometimes that works - it really depends on their personalities. Also - I would try to nip this in the bud now and not give them excuses - even though you're probably right about why they do what they do. Be clear to them what you expect - it will be one step forward, one step back, but if you lay the groundwork now, you'll have an easier time when they're teenagers (trust me - I have a tween and a teenager). Hope this helps and that other moms chime in. Good luck!

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