how do spend/spoil yourself without feeling guilty

Wanona - posted on 09/20/2010

I myself have an eleven year old and am a single mom. I have always found that spending must always be fair to not leave any feelings of guilt in your head. Everytime I spend on me, I spend on him or put it into his saving account. He loves having a statement every month telling him how much we've saved up in the bank for him! ~If you looking into custodial accounts,~ check out vystar kids account!~ It is so cool! ~There own debit card and you can hold up their account when on punishment.~ A Loving Mother Of One 11 year old son.

Deborah - posted on 07/15/2010

I dont' spoil myself as much, maybe the odd new top or pair of trousers, but thats more a neccessity as I hate clothes shopping, I don't buy anything new unless I HAVE to...

I'm lucky to have a supportive mum who takes Laura every Saturday night for me. Although on paper it has no real effect as I drop her off at her grans at 6pm and she goes to bed at her usual time of 7, I then pick her up at about midday the next day, this one night a week does wonders for me and I notice the difference if, on the rare occassion, my mum isn't able to keep her. Just the fact that she's not in the house and I don't have to worry about her, I can sit up late and watch a movie, lie in the next morning etc...

Laura loves it too and keeps asking if its Saturday yet so she can sleep at grannys

Karla - posted on 07/14/2010

i agree with everyone as long as your priorities are straight then theirs no need to feel guilty everyone has to have a treat once in a while!

Wendy - posted on 06/12/2010

i dont my daughter can have everything and she prob does but i am happier spending my spare cash on her than me. if i spend it on me i feel so guilty its just not worth it. the only thing i do is go to cinema with a friend four times a year. other than that o dpont as a rule spend on me. x i should i know but i cant. x

Eileen - posted on 02/01/2010

If you're like me and there is NEVER enough money, I spoil myself by just giving myself a day off! My kids are old enough to watch TV in the living room while I go take a long hot bath and read a book. I make sure there is at least one day a week when we don't have to do anything we don't want to do. The kids really appreciate this too.

Luciana - posted on 01/17/2010

Candice, well said....so DITTO.
You deserve to be spoiled our jobs as mothers is demanding and hard. You should be able to treat youself. When we are happy, that can help make our families happy. Have fun, laugh, enjoy life.... You are still a good mommy if you do so. :) Maybe even better after that special day...lol

Terri - posted on 12/03/2009

I agree w/ the other responses. Plus you can not forget yourself as in the person you were before you had children as far away as she may be she still exist and needs to be welcomed as a part of your life.

Christella - posted on 11/30/2009

make sure your child has what she needs, and then after you can spend for yourself, it's always good to pamper yourself when needed.

Tammy - posted on 10/27/2009

So long as your bills are paid, and your childs needs are met; you should do something for yourself! You will be a much better mother, friend, employee, ect...if you take care of yourself; and believe me your child will notice and learn to do the same for himself as he grows up!

Candice - posted on 07/27/2009

if your child's needs are met, there is no need to feel guilty. you are a person too with needs and desires. as long as your priorities are straight, you should be allowed to treat yourself too. it will teach your child self worth as well as priorities.