Amanda - posted on 07/28/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I will give you a quick overview of whats been going on. My husband left me 3 days before Christmas 2011. We have been seperated since then. We have twin daughters together who are 3 1/2 years old. He has not wanted to come back (we were married for 7 years, together for a total of 14 years). So its been 7 months, and to tell you the truth I miss what we used to have and I miss who he used to be, but on the other hand I didn't deserve to be treated like he treated me. So I have been happier without him to a point. But there are times I start to think back to what we had and I miss that, I miss him. He basically said he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want me back, that he is happier with out me.
Lately when he sees the kids he has been taking them down the street to have playdates with another single mom and her kids. I dont have a problem with that, the kids love playing together. But I started to notice that it was all the time. Tonight when he dropped the kids off with me after spending the day with them he said she had spent the day with all of them as well, though her kids were with their father this weekend. I asked if they were together and was told they are seeing where things go.
After being mostly happy and deciding that because of the way he treated me and that I deserved better that I didn't want him back, Im not sure why it even bothers me to know he is trying to be with someone else. Why should I care? But for some reason I do care that he wears cologne on the playdates, that she is tall and blonde, skinny. Why should I care that he seems to be happier since she has come into the picture? All I ever tried to do was love him and make him happy, and in the end I guess I didn't!!!
Sorry for rambling, but any advice on how to get past this or get over it would be appreciated. I do miss having someone there for me, someone to love who also loves me back. I haven't "dated" in so long I dont know where to start, especially with 2 kids.