Newly Single- single mom

Reena - posted on 03/04/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies,

I have a beautiful 3 yr old son, who I never met his father. I had met 2 men since then that I thought were the ones, one I married and left, and just recently after a yr broke up with the second one. I feel very sad and lonely. Scared I will be alone to raise this child forever. Anyone feel the same? Need help and support!

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Sky - posted on 02/21/2014

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hello, i feel for you my son now five dosent know his dad, and i did not date for four yrs and there was prince charming ,i wasn looking yet he was thee one my son clled him dad and we wre engaged toward the end this stands out in my mind forever ,one night huge fight ny son tg heard nothing the next day i hadto prtend i was happy my son says to my ex fiance your my hero my heart lturally crushed his so called hero hit mommy last night i felt like scraming it, i stade two weeks later i find {he had ms?} he having affair with a nurse and it was just andremains a nightmare, I bounce back from anything this one left me emotinally paralized. so i do hear you ....i will pray your heart heals

Sky - posted on 02/21/2014

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hello, i feel for you my son now five dosent know his dad, and i did not date for four yrs and there was prince charming ,i wasn looking yet he was thee one my son clled him dad and we wre engaged toward the end this stands out in my mind forever ,one night huge fight ny son tg heard nothing the next day i hadto prtend i was happy my son says to my ex fiance your my hero my heart lturally crushed his so called hero hit mommy last night i felt like scraming it, i stade two weeks later i find {he had ms?} he having affair with a nurse and it was just andremains a nightmare, I bounce back from anything this one left me emotinally paralized. so i do hear you ....i will pray your heart heals

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Have you had any time alone? You can actually be on your own for a while- and learn that you do not need to be afraid. You're child's only five. I'm sure you'll meet someone again but it's almost healthy sometimes to be alone for a little bit- to learn that you actually can do it. To learn to have faith in yourself as a parent.
Good luck.

Carren Ann - posted on 11/03/2013

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im married for 4yrs after a year giving birth to my 2nd child we separate. its been almost 7yrs i been raising my kids.and maybe i am dead now if i was have the suport of my family

Gwen - posted on 03/17/2013

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I don't feel the same, my sons dads are in the picture so I am NOT in the, same boat but I AM a serious relationship hopper, which it sounds like you are too. It may be in your best interest to be single, alone and lonely for awhile (seriously) the first month is hell, the second month you'll go on some dates and the third month you'll be HAPPY AND INDEPENDENT. That feels so good that the one month of misery and the month of oddness are totally worth it to endure. Good luck!

Joanne - posted on 09/01/2012

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Hi Reena, I know how hard it is being a single mum, I have been for 5yrs, it gets easier! It is hard emotional and fiancia,l lm now working part time, my son and I are happy as he was so young when I left (at 18mths) he doesnt know life with his dad. I have had several relationships since only 2 my son has met only when its serious ~ im single now! it gets better you will find someone!

Christina - posted on 06/20/2011

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Hi Reena! Hang in there and keep the faith. I know this may be hard to hear right now, but you'll find the right guy for you. I know you are needing some support, so here's a bit from me. Wishing you all the best from one single mom to another!!!! :~)

Rachel - posted on 05/17/2011

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Hi Reena...

Sorry you're feeling sad (although its been 2 months since you posted this), lonely and scared. I just joined this group today. Not a lot of activity here. But, its worth a try. My girl doesn't remember her dad (hasn't seen him since she was 10 months old). I've had only one relationship since Savannah's dad... Its been on and off and very trying. That's made it hard on my girl. I have a lot of guilt about getting back with this man, since it seems my state of well being declines as a result of my own inability to deal with the relationship. So, I understand the worry, all too much. I worry that I don't have what it takes to give this beautiful child of mine the emotional stability she so deserves. Plus, we just moved to a brand new area, far away from friends and family. Beautiful area, but isolated. Even if I was at the absolute peek of emotional strength, without a father or father figure on board, its still very challenging to give her all that is needed to create a total sense of security and self-confidence. You need supportive women around you. That's what has pulled me through every time. Keep reaching out and feel free to contact me here. All the best to you, Sistah!

Hugs,

Rachel

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