So, how technical is everyone here?

Samantha - posted on 07/20/2010

Im in the same sitution too. My daughter(13 months) sperm donar, was a very good friend of mone from back when I was 11. He was a few years older. I started crushing on him when I was 13, and he started crushing on me when I was 16, but he was 21. when I turned 18 we started dating, and I had my own apartment and a full time job, I was completely independant(yes, as soon as I turned 18, I was on my own) SD(sperm donar) started playing these games of "I wanna be with you, but I just wanna be friends; I love you, but just as a friend" Ets, and thats about the time I found out I was pregnant. I asked him flat out if he wanted to be with me and his exact words were "I do, just not right now" (AKA he was screwing another girl, he confirmed after I had her)
a few weeks prior, my friends introduced me to a guy who I felt an intant bond with, and even after I told him I was pregnant, he still wanted to be with me. He went to the first dr appt/unltrasound with me, and even cried when they played her little heart beat, he was at every appointment with me, he formed to every little whim and craving, and when she came early, he was at the hospital with me every day.
Now she is 13 months, he brags about her to all of his customers and friends, and has his room at the shop covered in her pictures, she loves him soo soo much, he is her daddy, the one and only, and she is a huge daddys girl. Heck, half the time, she goes for him more than me!
And, even though we both dont beleive in marriage(no offence) he wants to marry me, just so he can adopt her and have that one more little thing to validate him as her one and only father.

Tiffany - posted on 03/10/2010

That sounds like the situation I am in. I was with my son's biological dad when I found out i was pregnant. He said that the baby wasnt his, and left when i was 3 months pregnant. I have known the man I am with now, since high school. We never dated or talked for that matter, but one night my mom and I ran into him and his mom...we have been together ever since I was 5 months pregnant! Although we broke up for a period of time right before my son was born, he ended up coming back! My son's biological has never seen him, except in passing, never acknowledged him or anything. My bf and I have talked about him adopting my son, and we decided that when the baby gets older we will tell him everything and give him the choice as to weather he wants him to adopt him. My son knows that daddy lives with us and daddy is awesome and daddy loves him! That is the important thing in my mind!

Mandi - posted on 03/25/2009

My hubby came in my life wihen my oldest one was like 18 months. He  is the most wonderful man. BUT DON"T TELL HIM> LOL . No he is , he took on my daughter as his daughter. we have one child together and they are awsome. Our oldest one found out right befor x-mas that my hubby was not her daddy. I thought she was going to have a fit. But she is ok. She asked my hubby to Adopt her. So we are going on with it. .

      So my point if he loves her and she loves him go for it. if you are in ohio i will give you my guys number that is doing it for us.

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2009

That is awesome!! Like the saying goes, "Any man can father a child, but it takes a real man to be a dad." That sounds A LOT like my situation.