Teenage Girls

SherrieLeShellg - posted on 07/24/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

I have two girls and two boys. One girl is grown and one boy is also grown. The two youngest, 8 yr old boy and soon to be 15 yr old girl are the handful. I am now 45 years old and I am tired. Raising children is not like it use to be. There is so much more you have to worry about and more discussion you must have to ensure your child's safety.

On June 29th, a young girl Sasha Rodriquez, loss her life to a drug overdose. She attended a Rave here in the Los Angeles area on a Saturday night and by Tuesday, June 29th, she was pronounced dead. She was a member of my youngest daughter's drill team therefore, a friend of my daughter's and Sasha's mother is a friend of mine. I was so heartbroken because I have been known to go to bat for children, especially the one's I personally know. I tend to get too involved with them and truth be told if I could afford a huge piece of property where I could build a huge house, I would have a lot of children that people discard.

Anyway, the reason I am writing is last week my daughter asked me is she could go over her friends house and together they would walk to school. Something told me there was something other than walking to school going on but I decided I would trust her to do the right thing. Before giving her money I told her she had better be at school. She knew I was going to pick her up early from school because she had dance and drill practice starting at 5 pm but she didn't get out of school until 6 pm. I go to the school and what do you know she was not there. The attendance office called her class but she was not there and had not been the entire day. Needless to say I was beyond piss off at her. I left her school to go pick up my youngest son from his school. My intention at the time was just to go home and wait for her to call me but I could not shake the feeling that she was at the school waiting. When I pulled up she was waiting for me and I immediately got upset again. The entire time I was driving home, I was telling her off but she continued to lie to me about where she was. I told her she could either tell me the truth or I was going to her school to find out if she was really at school like she said. The later that evening or the next morning she decided to tell me the truth about where she was and I just simply told her she was on punishment for the next 500 years. LOL

She is only allowed to participate in drill team because she made a commitment to it and the other members are depending on the other to be active members.

I'm at a loss here she is also having problems in school as far as her grades are concerned. She is very smart has an IQ of about 117 but she is lazy. She says she doesn't understand the work she does but will not get help...tutoring. I don't understand.

Anyone have any suggestions?