Single moms working full time and going back to school full time

Yvette - posted on 07/07/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Being a single mom, we want what's best for our family. We have to make decisions sometimes alone without anyone to help make them for us? Do you want to go back to school or maybe perhaps you never finished school and would like to go to school to make life better for you and your children? I would like to begin by saying I am a single mom of two lovely children. My daughter Teyiah is 11y/o and Xavier 9 y/o. They are my pride and joy. They keep me on my toes all of the time! I made the decision to go back to school to better my future for myself and family. I had to crawl before I could walk. I have a daughter who is hearing impaired and a son who is ADD and I am proud to say they are. It is what it is!!! Being a single mom can be a challenge. No one ask to be a single mom, in life we have unforseen circumstances that does not allow for both parents to be together. Do we blame one another or do you move on with your lives and strive for the very best! Well, I did! I moved on and in the process I returned back to school. I started from a community college receiving a two degree to a four year university. I went on to getting my Masters in Mental Health Counseling. Now, I'm back in school persuing my P.h.D. in Pscyhology! I've gotten this far through hard work and dedication. There was nothing easy about getting an education going to school full time and working full time as well!!! I had my struggles and break downs! At times, I felt like giving up, but again---my children motivates me every single day!!! My daughter constantly, asks me...."Mom did you do your homework?" My son...."Mom you look stressed out, why don't you take a short break?" You see... they keep me on my toes!! You---As a single mom, you've got to believe in your dreams, goals, and aspiration. You can do it!!! I would like to hear from some of your experiences going back to school and balance work and family at the same time!!!!!

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Ms. - posted 1 day ago

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Peace Karinna Ro,

Well to answer your question directly, yes. It IS really possible for you to rebuild your life after so much trauma and show your bright eyed daughter that there is another kind of life; a better life. No matter what, no matter what, focus on WHAT YOU WANT. When times get rough, keep your focus. When you feel like you can't take no more and ready to give up, keep your focus. Remember why you are doing it. Take it from someone who stayed in a shelter in the Bronx for a year and has came up since then.

With regard to some practical help for you, I would suggest, though you may have already done this, you look online for scholarships. Are you going for your Bachelor's degree? Do you have housing? Where are you from? From what I hear there are alot of scholarships for women, minority women, mothers, immigrants (or other natives of other lands), etc. Do a search and see whats out there and what you can qualify for. Call schools you are interested in and find out info about deadlines, costs, etc.

The main thing.....don't give up, sis. It may take some time. It won't happen over night. But it WILL happen.

Blessings,
Imani

Karinna - posted on 07/19/2014

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First congratulations for accomplishing your goal. I am a single mother of a girl almost 8 year old. I arrived to this country (legally one year ago), I read abut your success stories, but no one says how a single mother can work and who take care of her kids? that is my main problem, we are alone in Brooklyn, New York, no friends nor family, after schools programs go to 5.30 pm, so my question is, is it really possible for a single mom trying to rebuild her life after so much domestic violence to show her daughter there is "other kind of life" or are just cases like if tomorrow I will win the lottery? I went to a family center, and the answers were discouraging, the counselor told me "really, its hard, I have to pay myself to come to work to someone to take care of my 2 boys".... when I went to a self support office, to find out about scholarships and what and where could I start to improve my education, they told me to go to a community college because they are cheaper than private. But everyone, advise me ..."oh you are not on food stamps, you should, you qualify" I know I "qualify" and I say thank you but not, I don't want any gift, I just want an advise how can I open a path for my daughter and myself, so if anyone has any, any kind of advise I would appreciate it a lot. Thank you and once again congratulations to all this moms that accomplished what they were looking for. God Bless all.

Jaime - posted on 06/03/2014

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I know this is an old post but recently my soon to be ex husband just dropped a bomb shell that he is filing for divorce. I packed up my 3 kids 8,5, and 3 and moved 4 hours away back to my home town. (we were military) I work full time and attend college full time online. I have my kids usually all the time their dad comes maybe once a month. I was just looking at my homework ready to cry because there is so much to do i.e. homework, work, chores, kids that it gets so overwhelming that I just want to crawl in bed and sleep lol. I needed to read others stories to help motivate me and know I am not the only one going through this. Thank you for sharing!

Rosalie - posted on 12/27/2013

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I am a single mother of a soon to be 8 year old son. The fall semester was my first time back in a class room setting in 15 years. I work 40+ hours a week and my son son's father just dropped a bomb us that he isn't going to be taking my son any more. I have 14 credit hours scheduled this coming semester. I know that with our strength we can take on all but i'm wondering if this is something I can do.......some helpful words or insight would be helpful.....feeling over whelmed....

Barbara - posted on 09/20/2012

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Hello everyone! Im a single mother of 3 boys. I attend school full time and i just got a full time job. I have come along way just trying to make it. It is very hard because it feels like there isnt enough time to do the things i want to do like going out to eat, meeting with friends, or just seeing a movie on a friday night. My kids father is in prison for 25yrs so i really dont get much help. My mom helps but she can be a little harsh at times. I understand though. I make it through all of this because I believe in God and I have faith that there is something better for me. Stay positive and keep believing in something better nothing is impossible.

User - posted on 02/15/2012

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I'm a single Mother and work FT 8-5 and have classes 4 days a week from about 6-9:50pm. Each day is challenging because some days, my son cooperates and gets up and other days, he doesn't want to get out of bed and its a struggle to get him dressed and eat breakfast and get myself ready for work and school. I drop my son off at daycare every morning before 8am and pick him up after 5pm when I'm off. I only have just enough time to take him to my good friend who is kind to help for a few hours while I'm in class. I have a ways to go but I want to get my AA and become a Nurse.

Kea - posted on 09/28/2011

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Im going back to work & school fulltime, mother of 3. Im nervous and scared but i know it will be better for us in the end. Anyone out there with some positive comments

Yvette - posted on 08/08/2010

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I need some participation here if you would please. I need your feedback!

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