Kristen - posted on 10/30/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
Me and my 3 y/o daughters dad broke while i was pregnant. He went back to his ex-wife and after my daughter was born she got pregnant. He now has gotten remarried and has 2 little boys. He saw her about 3 times before she turned one, then didnt see her again till she was 2 and a half. Me and his wife started talking to ease the tension between everyone, well She has went over there a few times since then, but only twice has he been home. He works on oil rigs. Well a few weeks ago his parents asked if she could come over for the weekend for her ocusins birthday party and i said yes and let her stay the entire weekend. Well Tues before she went over she had gotten a 24hr bug, she got better by friday and i let her go over there still, well Sunday he texted me that i had some nerve allowing her to go over there around his other kids, bc she was sick. I explained to him she was not sick and that she had been earlier in the week and he accused me of sending her over there sick on purpose to get his kids sick. He also said that she told his parents that she was sick all week, i told him that she is 3 and doesnt even know what a week means!
Well she always asks me to go over there to see him and that she misses him, but whenever i ask about her coming over there while he is home, they tell me he just got there and wants to spend a few days with the his boys first because he hasnt seen them in a few weeks (and he hasnt seen her in months!) and asks if we can do it in a few days, well come the day we are supposed to meet for him to get her, he willt ext and say one of the boys have the sniffles or they woke up coughing and asks to postpone it AGAIN!!! So then i have to break the news to her that she isnt going over there and she cries alot. Well on rare occasions she does go over there and she wants to stay the night they wont let her. She has only stayed one night over there before. Does anyone else deal with this? What do you tell your kids when they ask about going over there or say how much they miss him and cry? I dont know what to do!! Please give me some advice.