Annie - posted on 03/30/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )
I know that alot of people are probably going to go mad at this one but its something that is really affecting me, and i'm having a hard time trying to figure it all out. i have 2 boys whom I love more than anything, but i have had a terrible relationship that ended violently 3yrs ago and has scared us all.
I tried to start dating and never hid the fact that i have the boys or the fact they have different fathers. then the person i was liking stated that one day someone who has kids, is divorced or has been married might date me, to which i asked do i not have the right to be accepted just for me before my kids are brought into the situation, the answer i got was that i'm not a person i'm a mother and noone without the above kids,divorced or married critiera will want me.
this mirrored what the ex said noone will want me as i have 2 kids and i'm not girlfriend material etc.
what i want to know is do i not get the chance to even be a person anymore? - i will not give up my kids i may have been dumped on by daddy but i wont do the same - i want the chance to date someone without getting them involved until i trust that person i dont want a new daddy from day 1 is this so bad of me?