Beth - posted on 07/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I've been having a sort out of some of my stuff and found that I had some of the ex's family's addresses (some of his siblings and an old address of his parents). Part of me says I should keep them, so that if my girls' wish to try to trace his family at a later time, they've got some extra information to work on, or destroy the paper the addresses are on. I know it's likely that some of the addresses have changed for some of the family members, but at least it would be a starting point.
Currently his family won't have any direct contact with my girls as my ex doesn't have any contact. His Dad (ex FIL) said that he wouldn't consider having any contact with my girls until my ex saw the girls at least once a month. That's unlikely to happen as the ex decided to stop the last lot of contact that he had with them, just over 2 years ago, because it wasn't going at the speed that he wanted. In the last 2 years only had a bit of contact with my ex myself - asking last year if he could meet up with the girls, said no as they hadn't heard off him for about 8 months, so he had to start writing letters again - pen and paper not electronically (which he wasn't too please about). Then again 2 weeks ago, when he barely asked about girls and basically if I'd attempted to contact him - deliberately/accidently - answer no.