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Helen - posted on 08/26/2010

its good for the baby to be away from you , my sons nan has him for the friday and saturday night every other weekend, its great because i can plan to go out and he loves it because he gets to spend time with his nan they have a great relestionship because of it, ur not abanonding baby ur giving him someone else to love him and the break will do you both good, set up a day that she will have him over night at leat once a month and stick to it even if you end up staying in on that night u need me time x

Meaghan - posted on 08/26/2010

"ask if they've been in your shoes" great line thank you i'll take that as my next motto :)

Rachael - posted on 08/26/2010

bringing back something is a good idea! and don't feel bad...all moms need a break especially if they're doing it on their own...such a difference in every small notion in everday life to not have someone helping, so if Grandma offers to watch her family so family can go have friend time, then ask her...maybe just try asking a different way. Anyone that makes you feel guilty,ask if they've been in your shoes!

Renee - posted on 08/25/2010

To get rid of the guilt just pay her for babysitting even if she don't want it. Tell her to put itin a piggy bank for your daughter. I always paid my mother for babysitting especially if it was for pleasure. Don't feel guilty because you will be single for a long time if you don't start getting out. You can be a good mother and still have a social life.

Julie - posted on 08/25/2010

I too am lucky.. My mom lives in another state but MY grandmother lives in the same city. She takes care of my kids for 10-12 hours a day while I am at work.. I feel guilty for asking her to take extra time to watch my kids. She almost always is happy to do it if I need to go to the store ect... I still feel bad though and when I went back to work I called 4 times a day to check on them.. My Aunt usually watches them for me when ever I want to go out and do something special and My Aunt finally put her foot down and told me to enjoy my self and not call to check on the kids.. She said she has all thier Emergency info andshe knows my cell number they will be fine. Go and have fun!! Whoooo what a relief.. My family and friends are god sends to me.. I have several Friends that are also single moms so when we need a break we watch each others kids.

Joey - posted on 08/25/2010

i feel totally the same way, i work full time and i am a single mom on my days off i take care of brother's daughter because of issues with their sitter, sometimes i want a day off or a day to my self with friends or a guy who may want to hang out with me. But my mom dont really undestans she was in the same boat i am in and she never went out and now she feels she can,but my mom and my brothers watches my daughter when i at work so i feel like guilty because they will always have her.

Lesley - posted on 08/25/2010

Hi Meaghan

Im a single mum to one and knw what u mean by the guilt thing ur no different from any other single mum out there dosent matter how much we love our children everyone needs me time! x

Rita - posted on 08/24/2010

As a grandma I always enjoy having my grandbabies any time I can and mom's need to have their own space once in a while too. Just know that you are blessed to have a mom that loves to spend time with your daughter, knowing she is in safe haven. :-)

Brenda - posted on 08/24/2010

it gets easier to let some one take your child. start by maybe just an hour or two just to take a bath without interuption, then maybe shopping, then dinner, and so forth... i felt like crap too the first few times, but i know that if i didnt get a little time to myself, id litterally go crazy...

Meaghan - posted on 08/24/2010

thank you everyone i went out last night with a girlfriend and i saw "eat pray love" it was great everyone i felt super happy and it was just nice to get out for two hours :)

Hannah - posted on 08/24/2010

I have a deal with my mom, She won't offer to watch my son unless she is truly okay with doing so and I will only ask her to watch him if I really need it. That way neither us feels guilty or taken advantage of. Also she has no problem saying, "I am not up to it, or I have other plans already" and there is no offense taken on either side.

She also watches my son 1 night a month. Usually a Saturday night. and trust me, it makes a WORLD of difference in my sanity! And she likes the grandma time.

Kimberly - posted on 08/24/2010

Believe me, if you go out with adults, you'll feel 100 times better when you return. Sure you'll be thinking about your baby while you're gone, but just remember that she's in good hands, and if you have a cell phone, your mother can always call you if your baby needs you. Don't feel like you're abandoning her, you're simply taking some time out to recharge your batteries.

Amanda - posted on 08/23/2010

go for it! don;t feel guilty! i have two kids and my mom told me she;ll take them once a week so i can get out of the house. some weeks i go some i don;t, i just go out relax. its always like an hour before bed so she plays with them, puts them to bed and then just sits and relaxes her self. i come back a few hours later refreshed and with more energy and happier. some people in my family do the same thing. mommy needs time. it can make you much more relaxed!

Tashia - posted on 08/22/2010

yeah take her up on the offer especially if she is offering. Once a month isnt bad and yeah just bring her a lil something to say thanks! I agree, we do need a break every once a while!

Meaghan - posted on 08/22/2010

thank you :)

Vanessa - posted on 08/22/2010

Take your mum up on the offer - and maybe bring her back a little something to show you appreciate her and her help.
I used to bring my mum back something/ANYTHING from the restaurant or cafe to show that I cared. Normally a piece of cake or a few after dinner mints or something fairly lame - but she got the message.
Mums are wonderful - don't feel guilty at all Meaghan!