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Am I wrong?

Chelly - posted on 08/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Sometimes I feel like I am wrong, other's I feel like I am right. During Pregnancy my child's father and I were not really getting along. Long story short I told him I was not comfortable with him being at my doctor appointments, and him being in the room with me when I give birth.

He said ended up saying I hope you have a miscarriage. Since I have spoke to it about to his mother he so far has been nice. He has been a real jerk to be in past such as cussing and swearing at me.(Facebook) He made comments in the past about his ex that simply make me worried. He use to say he wants to strangle her. He has a child with her as well. He also was on the phone with a friend of his talking about putting diesel In her car.

If it wasn't for my daughter I would have nothing to do with him. I refuse to ask him for anything, but I feel bad...my own friends bought my child stuff... born at 36 weeks, and spent two weeks in the nicu due to being under weight. I have to ask. He so far hasn't got her anything. I don't want to have to ask.

She is just over two weeks... I am letting him see her, I am doing it for her, but I don't know how often I should let him. What you all think about everything.... he's also not on the BC.

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Brandy - posted on 08/10/2012

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I think the only thing you can do is allow him to see his child (unless you feel she is in harms way) a reasonable amount of time (every other day/weekend/odd days/evendays... what ever you guys agree upon) stick to a schedule and put as much distance as possible between the two of you!! It sounds like a volatile relationship ( I know a lot about those trust me) you don't want your child involved in an atmosphere like that ( I didn't) if you feel she is going to be completely safe in his care, its not really fare to deny her a bond with her father. (my daughters father is the most self center person I have ever met in my whole life, but watching her eyes light up when her daddy is coming to pick her up makes it sting a little less... PS my opinion on the "refuse" to ask him for anything... I used to be the same way but I would only back 3 diapers when he picked her up!! and as she get older I think ur ganna find that you could REALLY use some "help" I DID... just saying' I wish ya the best possible!!

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