Nico - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 50 moms have responded )
When people first look at me, they don't think that I am a mom. I am a mom to a beautiful, imaginative six year old little girl. Her father and I were together for 10 years before we called it quits. Like a lot of irresponsible 20- something males he wanted nothing to do with her or me for that matter. We had the fanfare with his ego, family and friends. For almost two years, then on October 24, 2007 he died.
Now with giving the background on my situations, I hate how people assume that since I am a single mom and unconventional that I somehow managed to drive him away or I didn't even know who her father was but once I utter "he died" , I have been asked on several occasions " was he in a gang?"
My problem is that my little angel desperately wants a father ( she has become somewhat of a bully at school towards children with active male figures). She understands that her father isn't coming back and she feels that there is something wrong with her. I have tried explaining to her that its okay that you don't have a "daddy" but you have so many people that love you. now what?