any other single mom's out there ?

Verouschka - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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it's to hard, stressfull, u have to be a mom & dad all the time,i need tips of how i have to raise my child in better ways

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Rebecca - posted on 07/01/2009

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It is very hard doing everything by yourself. I too am a single mum but am lucky enough to have help from the father. The thing that gets me through is my mums group without them i dont know how i would have survived. You need as much support as you can get. Try and find a local group of mums to connect with. And make time for yourself, a happy and rested mummy equals a happy family. Just remember there is always help out there and you are doing an amazing job already!



Hope this helps in some way. All the best.

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Paulette - posted on 07/02/2009

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I too am a single mom, and find it stressful to deal 24/7 with the demands of a two and three yr old. I have found support groups in the community and in my church. I also work out of the home with other children and the antics of all these children keep me laughing and laughter is the best medicine. I also have two children who are grown, so they come to me for advice and support.

Charlotte - posted on 07/02/2009

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I am a single mother of 3(1 with emotional disorders). The best thing you can do(in my perspective) is just try as hard as you can, always put your kids first(you'll have your day) and keep yourself and your kids safe. You may be all they have. Depending on their age, talk to them every night, about anything, their day, things that are bothering them, just always stay involved. Try to keep them involved in something their interested in. The Y has lots of programs they can get involved in and if you have a membership, everything is way cheap. I just make sure I spend as much time with them as possible and listen. Let them know you are always there for them. Thats just my take. Best of luck!

Beverly - posted on 07/02/2009

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I am also a single mom. my son's father has another family and tried to pay me to have an abortion. needless to say I refused and hear I am. his is the hardest thing you may ever have to do. If you have any close family then now is the time to rely on them, and if ou don't, well, maybe that is where things like circle of moms and face book can come in handy. I feel you though. this is not an easy road we have taken. Just believe in yourself, girl, you can do it.

Melony - posted on 07/02/2009

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I too am a single mom, my little girl is going on 17months, her dad has never even seen her and doesnt want to either, but that said, I think what the other girls have said is spot on, if you feel that you need help, you haveto ask hun! I too have a support group of which some of them are happily married with kids too, but no matter they are there when i need them and that is all that count. Hang in there hun, your gonna be just fine!!

Kelli - posted on 07/01/2009

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It is very hard. I have been a single mom for 13 years. My oldest was 6 and youngest 3 weeks old when me & their father split up. It is so hard being Mom & Dad. One thing to try and remember is to always follow through. I have made mistakes and trying to correct them, by saying one thing and then doing another or just giving in because you are tired of being the bad guy. I have started talking with a counsler and one thing that has helped me is by writting in a journal. (you don't have to buy one...I use just notebook paper) It has really helped me with things get stressful. Hang in there and just take it one day at a time.

Vicki - posted on 07/01/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

It is very hard doing everything by yourself. I too am a single mum but am lucky enough to have help from the father. The thing that gets me through is my mums group without them i dont know how i would have survived. You need as much support as you can get. Try and find a local group of mums to connect with. And make time for yourself, a happy and rested mummy equals a happy family. Just remember there is always help out there and you are doing an amazing job already!

Hope this helps in some way. All the best.



I second this advice!! Ask for help. If you are worn out, tired, not able to take care of yourself... you are not able to take care of a child. There are always groups available, check it out locally.

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