any single mums out there? im 26+my son is 3months...
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You're son will know there's supposed to be a daddy when he sees other kids with a daddy. When I started dating again my son would call my boyfriend daddy - weird - don't bring boyfriends around your kids unless it's super serious - the kids get confused and attach too easily sometimes...
Just be strong and carry on
Sandra - posted on 08/04/2010
I'm 22 with a 2 yr old daughter i love.. Her sperm donar didn't/hasn't done nothing for me, and since i didn't go for child support i couldnt get assistance... Im pregnant wit my son due a day before my daughter's bday and I have so much confidence i'll make it again on my own without the daddy.. If i can handle one for 2 yrs, GIRL you got it made!!! Just be happy you have one for now, I have been in and out of relationships and I still paid my own bills and stuff, You just gotta think about ur son what he needs and wants and work ur ass off, its worth it!!
Catherine - posted on 08/14/2010
i am a single mum , i am 24 and my daughter is 3 and a half, her father has nothing to do with her has never met her and i get no maintenence or support from him. i have been single 5 years as her dad was a one night stand (we had been freinds for years )
Erica - posted on 08/11/2010
Hi Viki, I am a 24 year old single mom of two boys the ages of 3 & 2. Sometimes I feel bad for my boys that they do not have a father figure in their lives right now but I am hoping to find one some day. Other times I am very happy that the sperm donor is not in the picture because he does not care about them anymore, it is like he wants to forget about them (that is what I have found out through his family and they hate him for that because they still want to know my sons). It can be hard at times but with my family helping me out I manage to pull through.
Danielle - posted on 08/10/2010
I just turned 23 and my son will be 3 months the 22 of august 2010. His father broke up with me when I told him I would not give him an abortion. This was after he bought me a laptop so we could talk while he was serving in Iraq. Just goes to show you how easy it is for a man to walk away.
Cathy - posted on 08/10/2010
Hi Kelli. My ex also has 2 other kids. When he was living with me, he was often depressed about not seeing them. He didn't rallu visit even though i constantly begged him to. His kids are his life...according to him. Ha! What a load of doody. So he's with their mom now and he's only seen MY daughter twice. She's 4 months old now. The first time he saw her, she was 2 months old and he told me how depressed he was when he didn't come & see her. Do you see the pattern? I'm not even worried about it. Just want him gone. My daughter will be fine without a dad. She won't know any different. I'm just focused on giving her the best life
Louise - posted on 08/09/2010
I am a single Mum of three children! Their Dad left me when my youngest was a year old after 10 years of marriage. I am having to live with my parents until things get sorted which is not always easy but we are all doing ok. I know that we are better off without my ex in our lives everyday and just hope that one day I find someone who will want to make a difference to my kids lives. In the mean time surrounding yourself with caring friends and family makes all the difference. I now have to find a job and a home for my kids but am confident that this will all happen given time. Kids do have their moments but the younger they are when the split happens the better. Good luck with everything and just stay positive. So long as you and your son have a good life that is the most important thing.
Kelli - posted on 08/08/2010
I'm a 22 year old single mom to a 2 month old baby boy... his dad left me the week before my first doctor's appointment... he had been cheating on me while we lived together, slept with her in our bed and met his 2 other kids (from his exwife) all while I was at work... being pregnant was rough but I managed to meet a nice guy along the way who was excepting of the whole situation.... Jaydin's father (or as my dad calls him the SD) moved to south carolina with his 2 kids and his new girlfriend in Feb. so trying to find him for child support has not been easy!!!! I then found out he came back to Ohio to drop the kids off with their mother and he knew Jaydin was born and didn't bother to contact me or attempt to come see his son!!! Tell me about a jerk for a father! It sucks knowing my son will never know his 1/2 brother and 1/2 sister (and that hurts me more then anything) but the fact that he is already a dad and can't come see his other child... but on the up side my son makes me smile everyday and I wouldn't change it for anything! like someone else said atleast my son's dad did something right with his sperm (or something to that matter).... Just tell yourself everyday when you look at your son in the morning that today is a new day and I'm going to be the best mommy I can be to this little guy because he is my new world... everything else will seem so much smaller!!!
Amanda - posted on 08/08/2010
Hi Viki! My name's Amanda. I'm a 20 year old single mom of a 4 1/2 month old boy! I've been single since before I knew I was pregnant. I broke up with his dad last September and found out I was 19 weeks November 5th. That was hard. We weren't even on speaking terms when I found out. He has been involved, but a pain in my ass every step of the way. We have court for child support this month because he helped make him, so he's going to help support him! Honestly, I wouldn't care if he walked out of our lives for good. I can find better men for myself and my son. Welcome to the club! lol How are things going with your little one?
Krystal - posted on 08/08/2010
Hi my name is Krystal and im 27 and a single mom to a 1yr. old girl named Nikayla. I have been a single mom since i was 7 weeks pregnant. Her father bet me up when i was 7 weeks pregnant. I know its hard cause i was stupid and still was around him. And he was there when she was born but he might as well have not have been. He sit and watched tv and wouldn't talk to me ! So i know how u feel and yes it is the right thing not to be treated like that and ur little one doesn't need to see it. Her dad has been in jail since she was 4 months and he has missed everything and its his fault and she is doing great without him and will continue to do so. I have my mom and sister to help me which is great, Just get a support team and u and ur little one will be great its there loss.
Sarah - posted on 08/07/2010
Hi I am 39, divorced with a 6 year old daughter - looking to get to know mums in a similar situation. My ex has made life very difficult, despite the fact that it was he who suddenly walked out when Emily was almost 3. He left us for another woman who has an 11 year daughter whom my daughter does not get on wth all that well.
Crystal - posted on 08/07/2010
Hey hold your head up as you have seen there are a lot of us single mom's out there! We all have made it and it is all worth it, somedays you would like to pull out your hair, but remember this to shall pass....I have no family living around me a few close friends and I have been a hope house situation and on the hiding for the past two years with no help and I don't regret a moment hang tough....You are making a smart decision for your child to be in a healthy happy environment..!! Chin up you will pull through!
Katty - posted on 08/07/2010
im a single mum im now 30 and my will be 4 in 6 weeks time his dad took off when i told him about the baby i was 26 when i had my son i still live with my mum and she helps out a lot and is good to have her around if u ask my son he does not care that he does not have a dad he knows that his father is ever going to see him he knows other children have dads and is not borthered by it and if asked if he wishes to ever see his dad he says i dont have a dad i have a grandma ive never bad mouthed about his dad to him ive just said his dad is not ready to be a dad yet and may never want to ive never lied to my son or dumbed it down to him as i belive he has a right to know what happened and becuse of this he cope really well
Nicole - posted on 08/07/2010
hello im Nicole 28 and now a single mother of 6 with my oldest 12 daughter 10 son 9 son 8 son 7 daughter 5 son and yes its hard but were happy and thats all that matters to me i was youn when got preg 15 had her a year later had my 1st son both dads had no interest found someone when he was 3 mos old we ended up together for 4 years and in that 4years we had 3 kids together but ended up separating and by a mutual decision between us he kept our 3 and i my 2 i ended up finding someone else and we had a son together and have been well in july this year would have been 6 years but in june i had to respond to issues concerning our three children and my oldest when she was in his care visiting for summer with siblings and i ended up winning custody but had to stay here in houston so i had to leave my guy of 6 years to in support and defense of my children and now am doing it all by myself now for a lil over a year with all of them its tuff but we get through it it hurt me to leave my guy that is and was interested in his kid and also my other two and then my other 3 when it happened but now we have to stay here and trying to do the best for my kids thats all it matters to me so we all are one big happy family well mama and kids but one day i will be able to be together once again with the one i loved and had to leave or god will either bless me with someone else or just give me strength to raise all six by myself either way My KIDS COME FIRST and anyone else out there whos single mom be strong there will be better times i had to endure 3 of my preg by myself and its not fun but its doable HEY I LOOK AT IT ITS THEIR LOSS NOT OURS !!!!!!
Jessica - posted on 08/06/2010
Hey viki...im 29 years old and a single mom for 10 yrs off and on....and i like being a single mom....yea we struggle alittle but in the end its you that gets to teach the the right and wrongs of the world and make them the ppl that they are growing up....if dad is involved then he will want a say...but all in all u are the person that your son will go to at the end of the day....think positive all will work out in the end
Deborah - posted on 08/06/2010
I'm a 51 year old single mum of a 10 year old boy, been single since I was pregnant (at 39!). I'm very lucky I have a great kid and a decent job, but it's been very hard doing it all on my own. My family is 17,000 miles away, but I've had some great friends around. They've kept me sane! Good luck, sounds like you have a great attitude, and there's certainly a wide community of women out here!
Shavon - posted on 08/06/2010
Im a single mom to 3 girls 14,10 and 2 and it is a hard job but worth it in the long run. My girls respect me so much for providing a safe and nurturing enviroment all on my own, they learn that women do not have to depend on no man for anything.
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