Katie - posted on 09/21/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
I had my son and never told his dad. He wasn't a bad guy really but he wasn't somebody that I felt comfortable leaving my son alone with. He never wanted kids and in fact his ex and him got divorced because she wanted kids and he didn't. So I made the decision not to let him know because if he didn't want to be involved that would hurt my son just as much as not telling his dad at all. So most the time I feel pretty okay with my decision cause I know I did what I thought was best for us. However there are some days that I wonder if I should let him know so that when my son is older and wants to meet him he isn't completely surprised. I know most men would think this is awful, but he even said when I asked if he had kids "None that I know of and I wouldn't want to know if I did." So can anyone give me any ideas on how to tell my son as he gets older?? I am not with anybody but my Dad is very involved in my son's life and is a great male role model for him. I couldn't have done it with out my Mom and Dad and the rest of my family.