Katie - posted on 09/30/2010 ( 67 moms have responded )
So, I feel somewhat ashamed admitting this, but my baby's father is married. He's 10 years older than me (32), a former coworker, and he was dishonest to me about getting a divorce from his wife. Turns out I was just the mistress - just a piece of ass for him. I truly fell head over heels for him and believed him, and accidentally got pregnant. Now I'm due in 4 weeks.
After I got pregnant and refused to have an abortion or give the baby up, his wife found out and flipped out. He suddenly decided that he HAD to save his marriage, and in order to do so, could have nothing more to do with me, or our son. He sent me horrible emails saying that he'd never be there, I was stupid and selfish for keeping the baby, and that I deserved what I got - aka ending up alone, a single working mother. I haven't seen him since April, and I haven't been in contact with him since then either (he's sent me a few horrible abusive emails, but we haven't had any other contact, and I ignored them). This was when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I emailed him when I found out we were having a boy and he responded by saying the following: "I think you should know that I'm not and haven't been reading your twitter page, or anything else. Email is the only method by which you and I are communicating, and we both agreed to restrict that to things related to my legal responsibility in this situation. I don't care about gender or names or anything that doesn't change my responsibility."
Now I'm 36 weeks along and still am not over the emotional pain of being abandoned during pregnancy, lied to, etc. I feel so much emotional outrage on behalf of our son, because his father is willfully choosing to deny him a Dad by saying he'll never be there. I'm angry at his wife (although it's probably not right of me to be so) because she's staying with him and condoning his being a deadbeat dad and not being there for his baby. And I'm furious at him - that he cares so little about his child, or me, the woman who's carrying him. He hasn't checked in once to see how I or the child am doing. It just truly blows my mind that someone can truly care so little about and forsake their own flesh and blood. I'm planning on filing for child support (he and the wife are insisting on a paternity test, but I don't care, I know 100 percent he's the Dad, he's the only guy I was involved with) - but I still can't get over the fact that he doesn't even want to see or know his son.
Anyone else in a similar situation? It's truly heartbreaking :(