Jade - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 61 moms have responded )
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Jessica - posted on 05/08/2011
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my daughter is 8 her dad has not seen her in over a year and my son is 10 months and has only seen him 4 times since we was born now they both live out of state a good thing for me
Princess - posted on 10/05/2009
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You know i have a 7 year old whose dad just was no good and he didnt care about his son and a 5 yr old daughter who her dad has not seen her in person since she's been born so you know what forget both of them cause they are definately missing out on some beautiful,wise and amazing children.Any fool can make a baby but it takes a real man to take care of one.So its the dead beat dads fault on everything.We Women and kidsDeserve so much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Angela - posted on 10/02/2009
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Well, my little girl's father left me when I was 2 months pregnant with her. He didn't want to be a father, and wanted me to abort her. I told him no, so he left me. It was so tough having to go through it alone, the joys of everything. He is now in Mexico (go figure) he had to go all the way to Mexico to find a girlfriend (boy can I pick them!) Anyways, on with the story. He has not had anything to do with the pregnancy, or anything to do with her at all! I have sent him emails, pictures, and no replies. I now have the support of my family. But I am now raising my daughter (now 3 months) all by myself, and there is no greater feeling in the world when she looks up at me with such love and admiration, and a love you don't have to share with anyone else!! Chin up sweetie, no worries, your child loves you no matter what!
Kelly - posted on 10/02/2009
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mitch your an amazing man
Mitch - posted on 10/02/2009
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My first son Jason was not my biological son but his biological father did not want to be a part of his life, I stepped in and raised him and he is now 23 and knows me as dad and he is definetly my son. Although the gain I have with watching him grow into a man is something I am proud of I feel that inside of his heart there is a little pain spot that I can not take away. It is a great lose to his biological father and I trully believe the choices people make in life that deprive others will come back to them. I do not wish any ill will towards him,only pity. because my son is a fine young man now.
Kelly - posted on 10/02/2009
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couldnt of said it better myself gemma
Danielle - posted on 10/02/2009
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I was in California enjoying being me for once and when he came out to see me he proposed so of course I felt I should come back to NH. We almost instantly got pregnant and that may have been the last I really saw of him. We're still supposedly engaged but when living with him and his parents his mom grew to hate me so i got kicked out while pregnant and he hadn't felt the need to tell them, "it wasn't the right time" Anyway, he wasn't there through the whole pregnancy and now since she's been born he has only seen us for about an hour or two a week and we're supposed still engaged. He's just "busy"...all the time...Whatever, men are jst too immature to step up--girl you can do it, you have your little man to keep you busy and love you unconditionally. Be strong!
April - posted on 10/02/2009
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i was only 17 when i had my little boy and his dad left before his 1st birthday but at s uff then try rubbin it in your facedo this kinda stleast he still comes to see him i guess i just wish he would wwant to see him more then over the weekend so he can get in his new girls pans why do you think guy
Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2009
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I met and married my husband - moved from the USA to England to be with him and his kids from his first marriage. had a son in 2006 and had a miscarriage last year. this January he told me he no longer loved me and simply wanted a divorce, didn't want to try to work anything out. (I doubt it would have worked out anyway...he had changed a lot due to his own issues and now has the belief that he shouldn't always have to put his children first...but at least I can tell my son I tried all I could, his father can't say that) he made this choice knowing that I would move our son back to the USA to be closer to my family. Its been months and they talk on webcam but thats about it. he's currently in Tazmania visiting his new girlfriend. I do not much care - my my very bright now 3yr old (last week) cried because daddy was going on a trip and not coming to see him...young, not stupid for sure! he gives some money which is good - my goal is to reach the point of not needing it at all so it can be saved for my son's future and for trips to see the wonderful family we had to leave in England. he made his choice and all I can hope is that he realises what he is missing out on...other then his family and my son's half brother and sister, I miss nothing about being with him.
Jill - posted on 10/01/2009
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We all have about the same senario's you just have to realize that you are stronger than you think and you have to everything you can to take care of your child. Hope everything gets better!
Erin - posted on 10/01/2009
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Go on welfare provide their names! and trust mme u will have everything handed to u !! if fathers still refuse they get warnings (liscence taken away, consolidate their earnings, assests still dont learn JAIL)
Tawny - posted on 10/01/2009
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my son's father left me... he still lives in our house technically but he never helps and he is always out partying... so we're moving. if he doesn't want to be a father to danny, then he doesn't have to be, but i'm not sticking around for it!
Nancy - posted on 10/01/2009
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I totally agree...I couldn't have said it better. Keep the faith..
Nancy - posted on 10/01/2009
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No, it is not bad. My daughter fathers name is not on the birth certificate, he chose not to have her in his life so I made more difficult for him just in case one day he comes around and decides he wants to be a daddy.
Shalane - posted on 10/01/2009
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I agree, It is very hard and frustrating. I am 25 & 8 month old Laela is my only child. When I was 6 months pregnant Matt moved out. We were always fighting over his ex calling and texting. Needless to say, he totaled my car leaving me carless, hasnt seen our daughter at all, never got a penny from him, never called to ask if she is alive, and he just recently moved back to town. He is with his ex and her 2 boys. They got back together 1 week after we split. I no longer believe in love. Just take it one day at a time. Do not fight in front of the child!! Not good for the baby.
Monica - posted on 10/01/2009
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yes, I was devastated too and to make it worse he was dating someone right away so I suspect that he was already seeing this women. I tried to get him to come back but he wouldn't and to make it worse he was so cruel, he would call me just to gloat about how happy he was, and cuss me out etc... then he started harassing me at work. The last straw was when his girlfriend started to harass me too. I had enough so I hired a lawyer and got the whole family court process going, I was not going to allow him to continue to make my life hell. When he got the papers he was so furious that he slit the brake line on my motorcycle the unfortunate thing was I think he was just trying to make me mad and thought I would notice immediately but instead I didn't notice at all I rode my bike like normal and the brakes failed I was seriously hurt because to save my life I had to wreck on purpose in a ditch. Needless to say my lawyer got a restraining order for me and now he can not see his baby. It has been six months since he left me and four months since he has seen her. But even when we were together he didn't provide for her so I don't see a difference the only person that suffers in the end is our child. I was heartbroken especially when he tried to kill me but I realize now that with him out of our lives Jenna and me have been flourishing. We no longer have to deal with the drama that came with his toxic presence in our lives and for once I finally have peace. It has been tough but in the end I finally realized that our lives are richer and fuller without him there. He was holding me back and he was keeping me in a constant state of despair which was starting to affect the way I raise my beautiful daughter. I know how you feel and it will be tough but things happen for a reason.
Stana - posted on 10/01/2009
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Ok. Here's a different prospective on this story. I am divorced, however, I felt the need to post something positive here. However tough and sometimes painful it may be to raise your child(ren) on your own, the bond that you have the opportunity to build with your child(ren) is the best reward life has to offer. I have a son and a daughter. My son's father is less than active in his life, so I taught him what I knew about cars, tools, guy things, etc., then filled in the gaps by recruiting my brother, father and neighbor's husband to help out. He has grown into a complete, well rounded, tractor loving, welder and is as "boy" as they get. We women can raise our child(ren) alone and be very successful at it. Good luck!!! Just remember, the reward will last forever. signed...one proud single mother.
Amanda - posted on 10/01/2009
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ya my baby daddy left me when i was almost four months pregnant we were engaged before i got pregnant he came over all the time and then one weekend he didnt show up no call or anything i ended up finding out that he was with some other girl that weekend a few months after he married that girl and denied that my baby was his once i had my baby girl he came for her birth and couldnt deny her at that point she was the spitting image of him he came around often for the first week and after that he never came again he says ill come this weekend but calls up saying he cant make it after all its so hard to know that my baby girl isnt going to have her real dad in her life
Aida - posted on 10/01/2009
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WOW, it's sad to see so many single mommy's struggling but at the same time comforting to know that I am not alone. I am a single mom of 3, a 12 year old and 10 month old twins. I was with my twin's baby daddy for 4 years, and he left me when I was almost 6 mos pregnant to be with his 2nd baby momma, yes you heard me, he went back to his second baby mama whom they have a 6 year old with, to make matters worse, she got pregnant instantly, so he has a 5th child now with 2nd baby momma, to further complicate things, our babies are only months apart and he and I were trying to reconcile and rebuild things, but in the end it was not worth it because now he was having a new baby with this pain the ass woman who with her other 2 kids was a hotmess, what does that mean for me and my babies? well it mean that I had to share a man with two homes, because she and I BOTH have 2 kids from him, share his money, his time with the children and eventually he would be sleeping with the both of us and I deserve a lot better than that and so do my children. He doesn't see our Twin's, we are constantly fighting, arguing, I try with all my heart not to hate him because he did give me one of the most amazing things in my life but I can't thank him for anything else. He was not present at their birth, I didn't want him there, especially the way he treated me afterward, and I gave the twins MY last name, because he would say nasty things to me about them, so all 3 of my children have my last name. My eldest son I raised without his father's help at all, financially or otherwise. I am currently battling the twin's father in court now for support, and he thinks I'm a money hungry bitch, but if that was the case, I would have made sure that I got knocked up by someone who earns more than I do, he doesn't, he earns FAR less. To me it's not about the money, it's the principle, like I've said, time is FREE, they needed their daddy but it's not the end of the world. How many children are being raised in single family homes and are doing JUST fine, my eldest son is brilliant and lacks for nothing. Sometimes having the Daddy not present could be a good thing, do you really want a creep asshole influencing your children? I don't want my twin son to grow up and be a manipulative, lying, cheating asshole like his dad, and I sure's hell don't want my twin daughter falling in love with a man like her father, so it's best that he go and screw up the other kids he has, because believe you me, children are susceptible to all this and learn from their parents. Just hang in there, it's tough, It's tough for me too, but I just go forward and my children are what supply the momentum. If you think you are in a horrible position, remember there are people out there that are worse off than you. Keep focused, and remember any man can be a father only a REAL MAN can be daddy.
Sibongile - posted on 10/01/2009
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i'm also there my baby daddy left the second he found out i was not getting an abortion and he sent messages that he hopes i have a miscarriage and has never since his son who is now 7months and he lives 30minutes away,i do sometimes see him with this other woman i work with and who went and told my whole department that he is dating my babby daddy..almost broke her to pieces but realised that if a woman can be with a man like that so proudlly she is just as stupid adn they deserve each other,
its not easy but knowing you are not alone and that there are other single parents doing fine is comforting and reasuring.
Sarah - posted on 10/01/2009
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My ex husband walked out on my daughters 3rd birthday - he is still in her life but when it suits him - doesnt help me financially and buys clothes for his partners daughter and puts ours in the other girls hand-me-downs whenever she stays there!
Ashley - posted on 09/30/2009
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yup! him and his mother (who hated my guts cause i was takin her baby boy from her) had me moved back in with my parents! he said it would be just a few months cause he needed a break and that he would send me money and things to help... but now i rarely hear from him and he has nothing to do with me! except to ask me if MY little girl is gonna have his sorry ass families last name!
Shannon - posted on 09/30/2009
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You jus have to be strong. i left my bd because he needed to be left. He said hed get help and get it together but he hasnt. its hard but you can do it
Kayla - posted on 09/30/2009
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So i suppose that you cant get any state funding then, or can you? And i know what you mean by a supportive bf and that helps alot.
Brittany - posted on 09/30/2009
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yea but he was a piece of crap anyways. im doing it by myself. ii have a really good supportive bf though that treats abby like his own he was there through it all even birth. you can do it dont worry!
Kayla - posted on 09/30/2009
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My baby's dad said he didnt want anything to do with her the moment that he found out about her. But is it bad that i dont even want to put his name on the birth certificate cuz i think that hes such a jack ass?
Nancy - posted on 09/30/2009
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I am a single mom of a 12 yr old. Her father left when I was pregnant with her and never returned. In my eyes it is fine with me, yeah she should know her father but the one thing I have learned is you cant change anyone. He is missing out on knowing a great girl and I am the one enjoying every moment I can with her, it is challenging but it is worth it. After 12 yrs I have found a great man who treats my girl like gold. I am the main supporter no child support, yes it is tough very tough, but we can do it all of us...The time now is too focus on your child.
Annie - posted on 09/30/2009
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hi all im a single mum to a lil 2 an 1\2 yr old boy stanley.... me and his dad werent really together he didnt wanna see him till he was 7mths old and then it was only when it sutied him, he has 5 other kids to 4 diffrent mums...i`ve organised mediation for us both to see if that will help things..... but i DOUBT it lol.....
Jessica - posted on 09/29/2009
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I left my babies daddy, but it was for the best. We may have lived together and been in a relationship, but even when he was home, it was like he wasnt. He never paid any attention to our daughter and was just something we manouvered ourselves around.
He only had her every couple of weekends after we split, until he met a new girl and knocked her up... Very rarely calls and has moved interstate so I have 100% custody of our daughter...
Dont worry hun, you will, one day, meet a decent man, who will be willing to be the father your child needs.
I am now pregnant to my partner of 2yrs with my 2nd child... he is the most fantastic daddy to my little girl. She absolutely adores him, and the feeling is mutual!
Sacha - posted on 09/29/2009
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Quoting Juliana:
he was never here to begin with ... we were together for 5 years and then i found out i was pregnant right after I moved.
I am the main supporter and I had to pay for his plane ticket for him to come see our son! I am soo fed up!
same with me cept he stayed until she was 2 weeks old "woohoo", aso had to pay for his last plane ticket...never again
Heather - posted on 09/29/2009
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yup when i was 2 months pregnant and he was not nice about leaving either. but he walked away and i let him was the best thing i could have done my daughter is 6 and beautiful and all mine no sharing on the weekend or holidays and no explaining why daddy said he would be there and then him not coming it makes it tons easier. i figure if you dont wanna be a dad then walk out and stay out kids are not yo yos to bounce around they need stability
Alice - posted on 09/29/2009
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hAVE RAISED TWO KIDS ON MY OWN, IT'S HARD, BUT WORTH IT WHEN YOU SEE THOSE SMILES, OR GET HUGS, JUST BECAUSE.
Denise - posted on 09/29/2009
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Yep and yes for some women, it hurts alot! My daughter is 16mths old, and has only seen her dad twice...I get financial support, but she doesn't get no quality time with him! Right now...you MUST stay strong for your baby...you are all your child has....protect your baby, love your baby, make sure that your baby knows that you are there and will NEVER walk away! With God's help, you 2 will be just fine!
Rachel - posted on 09/29/2009
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I have a 2 year old son, me and his father were together for almost 3 years, then he cheated and they are still together. He never sees his son or gives me money to help out with expenses. I tried to be friends with him for our son, but you can only take so much when you don't get the respect you deserve for doing it alone.
Michelle - posted on 09/29/2009
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I have a 1 1/2 year old and a 11 month old..and their dad left them and he doesnt care about them at all, doesnt call or nothing...
Tori - posted on 09/28/2009
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he was a cheater so i broke it off now he doesnt do anyting to see chloe but i think its for the best... ive been seeing someone (criag) since i was 3 months pregnant he is wonderful and treats her like she is his own! it will be a year in feb!
Nina - posted on 09/28/2009
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I have two sons one is 8yrs old and the other is 4months. They have the same father but he is not really in the picture. He stops by now and then with a gift for our 8year old but the baby doesn't even know who he is. The last time he spent time with the baby was when he was born. We were together until our oldest was 3yrs and have been off and on since then. He is a drug addict and stupid me always tried to give him a try when he was clean, but I have given up on that since he constantly lets our oldest down and has never seen our youngest except once! His loss after all I got the best part of him here with me and he'll never even know them
Jasmine - posted on 09/28/2009
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I haven't seen my son's father since I was 5 months pregnant.Hes a lot older then me.He now lives cali.I found out he was married,adopted her 2 grown daughters and has 3 little girls hes never seen nor takes care of.He doesn't pay child support or anything.He says none of them are his kids.
Jessie - posted on 09/28/2009
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i have a 3 year old lil girl, shes the love of my life. her dad left me when i was 5 weeks pregnant. i was a freshman in high school. he came to the hospital when she was born & hasnt seen her sence. kids dont need dads they just need strong moms..
Melissa - posted on 09/28/2009
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I was with my firsts daddy for 3 years, he stayed with me through the pregnancy and the first 18 months or so of her life. As the days went by the more alcohol he consumed until he finally hit me and hit my daughter in the head with a telephone. I sent him packing, got a restraining order, and her did a little time in jail and rehab and now he is playing games. She is 3 years old and doesn't understand why daddy sees her for 2 weekends in a row and then he is gone for a month or so. Right now he has been out of state for 2 months and called 5 times, yet he wants to have here 2-3 weekends a month and every Wednesday. On top of I don't see a dime in support. As for my second child that is due to arrive any day know, the father told me to get an abortion, after he gave me moonshine and took advantage of me. It wasn't my fault entirely that I got pregnant the 2nd time around, but I will be having a healthy baby boy any time soon. So baby daddy's can take it a shove it up where the sun don't shine....
Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009
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I just want to say I praise all of you. You are all amazing woman. My youngest kids' father just up & left state, he never calls and never sees them obviously.... But I do think its for the better because he is just an abusive drunk, so its better without him, just frustrating and really hard to explain to my 5 year old daughter when she asks why she never sees her daddy anymore.
Lauren And Ava - posted on 09/28/2009
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Yes, my baby's daddy left me when i was 4 months pregnant and my daughter is now 4 year im a single mom and you know what... Im happier and my daughter is better off now because im glad it happen now and not later when she is older. If and when the time comes and she wants to find her sperm donar thats her choice but right now she couldnt be happier!!! Your a strong mother dont let anyone bring you down, be strong for your child... THEY NEED YOU!!!!!
Joanna - posted on 09/28/2009
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Yes. My daughter's dad only saw her once right after she was born and then he moved back to Houston and I never heard from him again until he got papers in the mail about child support and then you can bet he called because he was upset. I knew he was good for nothing when I met him but I cannot complain because he gave me my daughter who I would not trade for the world and I love her more than anything. She is 5 now and is starting to ask questions about why she does not have a dad and how she wants a dad really bad and I have no idea what to say and it is really sad to hear her say that. Oh and I never did get child support!!!!!!!
Elizabeth - posted on 09/28/2009
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i have two boys 5 and 3, and a little girl just 5 months old, the boys know their dad but dont understand y hes the way he is, he doesnt want anything to do with our little girl cos he has a baby girl just 7weeks younger then our and his gf told him its her and her baby or my kids, so he picked her,we were togther 6 eyars and he did come and go i loved him and fall for every word that come from his month. it ended up me getting a injection against him cos he tried to take the oldest one, my boys ask y hes the way he is, i dread the day my angel asks y daddy didnt want her, he even made out shes not his went on about a dna test i said yes arrange a doctors app, he then said no hes not intrested even if she is hes. he knows shes hes, i dont get a penny off of him for any of them, but at least i can tell them that it was muum y there whole life that loved and cared for them hes gone but i never will be gone ill always be here. sometimes it is hard but well worth it. my oldest has just strarted scholl and loves it, they r very happy children and i know thats down to me. u can do it on your own. x x
France-Ass - posted on 09/28/2009
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I have two kids, a 2 year old and a 7 month old. My oldest son's father has been in his life since he was born. A challenge because sometimes I swear he's stupid but he sees him and pays his dues. But on the other hand I was 2 months preggo with my youngest when his dad just decided to leave me and my oldest practically homeless. Then I find out when Im about 4 months preggo he got another girl pregnant! (He has 3 kids, 3 different moms) He had no intrest in the pregnancy of mine. He just wanted to come around when he felt like getting some, tell me stuff like yeah i wanna be with you then sleep with me and no word for a month. Finally when my son was born he decided he wanted to see him just once. I said okay. I had a protection order on him so I didnt let him see him much. Actually until he took me to court I didnt let him see him, he didnt want to he only wnted him to take him to his moms. He threw a hissy fit on wanting to see him so we came to an agreement, didnt even go through it a MONTH before he decided to stop calling and stuff. My son is 7 months, its been 4 months since he's seen his dad and it wasnt even for month for his life. His little bitch thats stuck up his ass decided she didnt want him to pay attention to any of his kids i guess. Now all he can do is say I use my son to get to him, HAVENT tried calling him. Then he says he wants me to find someone to adopt him out so he doesnt have to pay child support. I just said fuck that, you play you pay!!! But my oldests sons family has been very supporting and have taken my youngest under their wing and has made him a part of their family, which i am so thankful for.. Its really hard getting rid of one easily, but not the other.
But to be honest I really dont care. I mean yeah itd be nice to have someone else help so I can do more like clean or go out because I am a single mom of two and we live on our own. But even when I do go out or they stay at their grandmas i sit there and say DANGIT I MISS MY BABYS!!!!
So screw baby daddys..... All they are, are sperm donors. Except for the men who step up and handle their shit!!!
Amy - posted on 09/27/2009
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My bbydaddy hasn't been in the picture since I found out I was pregnant 7 months ago. He cheated n me so I left him but I still let him know. At this point I highly doubt if I even call him before I deliver the baby. He'll get a call a couple days later more than likely
Megan - posted on 09/27/2009
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honestly, the father doesnt deserve your attention. and never did in the first place. if he wants to be in your childs life then fine. but if not dont let it bring ya down. thats the number one thing ive had a hard time learning. but its possible.
Jamee - posted on 09/27/2009
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i have a 21 month old. i was 17 when i had my son, and his dad is never around, he just doesn't want anyhting to do with my son. it's tough it has it's ups and downs but somehow i make it work
Elizabeth - posted on 09/27/2009
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I was with my babys father for 5 years and then he decided he didnt want a kid and told me peace out! i went through my whole pregnancy alone and once i had her he came to see her but that was it. i never asked him for money or anything. as far as im concerned he can go to hell. i dont want anything from him and i say its his loss not mine or my babys because we are doing just great without him.
Renee - posted on 09/27/2009
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2 kids 2 dads....both are not involved. I dont receive child support either.......the system is messed up and I wish there was something that I could do.
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