Are we ok being single parents?
Laura - posted on 06/10/2009
It's a tough job, but it's also very rewarding. We work twice as hard and deal with things a lot of people will never understand. I'm going through a divorce... & I was made to believe that I needed him and that I wouldn't be able to do anything on my own. He made me dependent and scared to leave. He did nothing but make my life difficult and he was so irresponsible. So, I finally just said enough is enough. I don't regret a single thing, either. It's better to be on your own struggling than struggling with someone who's a complete ass and contributes to your struggling.
Robyn - posted on 06/10/2009
I am a single mother as well, my son just turned two and I struggle every day. It is just a matter of balancing the circus we call life...I wake up every morning and see my son for a couple of hours while I get the laundry and cleaning done and I head to work. When I get off work, I have an hour to pick up my son from "school", get showered and take him to his nana's so I can hit the road again to go to nursing school. When I get back from class, I put my sleepy little man to bed; I work on homework and study until my eyelids fall down. Every night before I go to bed, I make it a point to walk into my son's room and remind myself that he is the reason I am fighting so hard to get where I want to be. I feel that there is a reason for everything that happens, and that there is a reason that we are all single mothers at this point in our lives. We all have a plan written out for us, it is just that we don't know what it is at this given moment. After achieving everything we will achieve by the time we are older, we will be that much stronger as individuals. I believe that we will not only be alright, but thrive because we will have mastered being mother, father, teacher, provider, mentor, etc... One day, we will look back on our lives as single mothers and be proud of ourselves, we will look at our children and be pround that we raised them to be the young women and men that they will soon be. The one thing that I have learned throughout the last two years is that I cannot let myself start thinking about how things should be, I cannot let myself get down... if I start thinking under-the-weather about one thing, it snowballs, it builds and it is very hard to get out of. So, stay positive, you can do this. Think about your future and where you want to go with your life. Try and think about the big picture rather than individual ups and downs. You will get there, it just may take a little extra time, and like Ashley says, keep your head up, you can do this.
Ashley - posted on 06/10/2009
No because babies arent made on their own, but i come from a family of strong women so i know i'll be alright. Its alot of pressure and i know i'll get a taste of what my mother experienced as far as rasing my other siblings and trying to balance work and college (in about 3 months). --- i just hope we all keep our hands up:)
i say YES we are okay being single parents...ive been one for 6yrs due to my husbands death...ive learned to do it all...while it gets hard sometimes .i do manage...i even got my dr.liscence 1yr after he passed...i have been married twice  and in  i think im better off by myself...i have 3 girls 21..15..and 10..and weve all come a long way...stay positive ..you can do anything..
Melony - posted on 06/10/2009
I am also a single mom, my little girls dad has never seen her, he was also a violent man, so I left him while I was still pg with Meegan, and you know what we are thriving and happy and yes some days will be hard, but when you look at that little beautifull face staring up at you, what else so you want to live for. So i think as lomg as you have God in your lives that everything will be great!!! Good luck hun!!
Charlotte - posted on 06/09/2009
I am a single mother of 2 Ella age 5 and hayley age 2. Same as Elizabeth my husband was a violent controlling man and hasnt seen our children since we separated last year and isnt allowed to either. I am happy with that. The change in My children after he left was amazing and as far as i am concerned i have good money coming in and they are happy nothing else matters. As long as i can support them myself and keep them smiling i dont need a man around
Janae - posted on 06/09/2009
HI Shante, being a single parent is what we make the of it. I didnt think it would work out but after my divorce life was alot better.. I have built a close bond with my kids and they have their grandpa and uncles to confide in with their are guy issues.. It's hard because basically you have to put your life on hold but it's all worth it because when they graduate from school and achieve their goals, you know in your heart that you made it happen.. I have been a single parent of 3 for 6 years now and I made sure we never go to bed angry and if we argue, everyone needs to make up before the night is over. I always remind them, all we have is each other and nothing should ever come between us.. You can do it..
Elizabeth - posted on 06/08/2009
Hi Shante, ive often thought are my children getting all they need from just me?? my answer is yes they get all the love they need in their life, their dad was voilent and contoling, he neve helpped out with the childen, nor with bills, or wouldnt even let me out on a night out with out trying to spoil it before i went out,, he got so voilent i had to get a injection against him, the last time my childen seen their dad was back in nov last year when he kicked the front do in and tried to take them cos hed found out he the baby i was expcecting of his was a little girl and he wasnt happy about that, he really kicked up and the kids were getting upset and i couldnt handle the way he was being, my oldest was a bit of a hand full when dad was around due to the way he was, but now hes clamed down alot, and family life couldnt be better, i know my situation may be different but as long as the children are happy being a single parent is fine. how old are your children? do they see dad?
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