baby daddy is a deadbeat!!

Pilasi - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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hello im 22 and so is my son dad, he ddoesnt work or give me money or see our son, but im tryin haqrd to be br friends but its hard, i only ask for money when i really need it but when i do he makes me feel bad bout askin or says i went spend it on the bby, so we end up fighting. i just dont knw what too do anymore i get so mad coz he wont help with r son.. i do want me to kn ow our son but it seems llike he doesnt care, should i just walk away or try in make it work??????? im so lost noiw i really dont knwo what6 to do anymore???

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Jamie - posted on 04/01/2010

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haha i wish my sons father would just go away, i dont want nor do i need his money. he pretends he cares, and wants to see his son but yet he still hasnt. he needs to have supervised visits and he doesnt rly like that idea and thinks he deserves much more. Anyway, what im trying to say is sometimes kids are better off without their "fathers" or even mothers...they can be replaced! when they old enough they can decide if they want to know their biological parents or not.

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Pilasi - posted on 04/06/2010

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awe i knwo that feeling too, i was with this guy like that, its hard when they in, hwo long he got?? yeah my ex has 2 kids to when every we had his girl i was takin care of her i didnt mind tho but still if his not takin care of her now is he going take care of your baby?? i wish you the best tho:)

Pilasi - posted on 04/06/2010

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yeah i know, i been thinkin bout it too but its just i dont want too, but i may have too, i love my son so love in want eveytim for him, his dad doesnt care bout him he says it but you know sayin it and showin it not the same thats for sure

Katrina - posted on 04/05/2010

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i feel for you i'm six months pregnant an my baby daddy is currently in jail he can't keep a job when he out an he don't help wit his other two girls if we had them i was taking care of them....i understand your frustration very much it hard when they don't want to help out or guilt trip you.....be strong an stick up for yourself when you guys get in an argument you are supporting you twos son an he needs to respect you for that and support you emotionally and he should be trying to support you financially

Rita - posted on 04/05/2010

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iv been raiseing my daughter 5 to 6 years know alone her real daddy is a dead beat he just want to DNA test for her but i know it his daughter for sure & he dont believe me that he has a beautiful daughter well i tried everythning but im raiseing her on my own 5 to 6 years know ,,he just dont believe ,,,well atleast i shared something to you girls ,,,,i just want ruben kumangapik SUPPORT

Amanda - posted on 04/03/2010

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I think you need to tell him either he needs to start helping by paying or take him for child support. Taking him for child support is different then filing for custody. I took my sons father to court because he wouldn't pay. I needed to buy diapers and was sick of my parents buying them. You need help when it comes to the money part. Have you every thought about going on Financial assistance. I am thinking about doing it, until I go back to work. Sometimes you just need a helping hand. No shame in it.

Tristaca - posted on 04/03/2010

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I WOULDN'T SWEAT HIM FOR MONEY OR SEEING HIS SON IT'S HIS LOSS FOR ALL THE PRECIOUS TIMES HE IS MISSING IN HIS LIFE. AS FAR AS MONEY GOES, THINK ABOUT IT HUN IF YOU DON'T HAVE A JOB HOW HE GONNA GIVE YOU ANY MONEY? CONTINUE TO BE A SINGLE BLACK MOTHER AND HOLD DOWN YOUR FORT. IT'S HIS LOST. IT'S SOMEONE OUT HERE THAT WILL TREAT YOUR SON AS IF HE IS YOURS IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT A FATHER FIGURE; JUST WAIT ON GOD. UNTIL THEN HE WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH THAT SPOT.

Pilasi - posted on 04/03/2010

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yea so true but like i feel bad coz his famliy wants to know my son but they wont come see him, they think i have to bring my son to them i dont have to money too get there they live 3 hours away, like i work part time n i just get by, i dont get why they cant see that??

Pilasi - posted on 04/03/2010

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yeah i dont think he will, his got a gf now well so i hear but he lies n says he wants us to try but then doesnt, i wana be over him its so hard tho:(

Pilasi - posted on 04/03/2010

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wow thats crazy, but i know how that feels, yeah his ever here doesmnt call or anythin
so i do think its time to move on

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You can always go to court and make him pay child support. You should never feel bad for asking him for money, you shouldn't have to do it all on your own. Even if he doesn't want to be there he should get to drop all his responsibilities just because he doesn't want to pay. It doesn't work like that.

Melody - posted on 04/01/2010

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If your baby daddy makes you feel bad about asking him to help with his kid then move on. If he has made the choice not to be in his childs life that is his choice and his life. You and your son will be better off without him in the picture. Who knows when your baby daddy sees you walking away it may inspire him to get off his butt and get involved in his son's life.

Melissa - posted on 03/31/2010

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sweetheart, i'd reccomend walking away. my baby-daddy actually gave a different dna sample (saliva test) so that he's NOT the dad of our baby, which works fine with me, i don't him or his life-style around my gorgeous bubba.

whatever choice you make, you've got to make sure that it's on your terms (even go to free-legal and get advice) because at the end of the day, if it doesn't work for you, it certainly won't work for your child :)

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