Chloe - posted on 09/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am a single mom of a very sweet but high maintenance 7 year old girl. Her father and I were not married but together for six years. He was a horrible person to me, and we split four years ago, thank goodness. We have shared custody, and have since we split and he's very involved in her life.
Finally, I met an amazing guy a year ago. He had one daughter, 13, and son who is 8. Divorced for five years. He lives with his mother, sister and her husband and has always claimed that he did pay some rent but really he has very little the bills to pay there except maybe food. Plus, his mom can watch his kids sometimes. Seems like a good deal. Except, his daughter has a room that she can't even decorate because it's a computer room. And he shares the coach bed in the living room with his son. He said he couldn't move out, which is probably true because he has his kids in Tae Kwon Do and afterschool care and it costs a ton of money. Plus, he coaches his son's soccer team each fall, so he's very involved with the kids. I accepted everything, I was good to him. I liked his kids, my daughter loved him and his kids. But he wasn't very giving in terms of thoughtfulness and didn't really seem to put a whole lot of effort into our love affair so to speak. Last week, I confronted him because my daughter and I made a gorgeous banner for his son's soccer team. My
boyfriend basically ignored it. Confronting him caused him to blow up, scream all these things that he didn't like about me and us and he left. He went home, deleted me off facebook and all 211 pictures and memories we shared. And has refused to have anything to do with me except to say "you deserve better, I'm no good for you." blah blah blah. It's destroyed me. I'm so sad, and I was so good to him. I haven't told my daughter and I'm dreading it. She said he was her family. Now what to do.