can court force a father to watch the child?

Ayse - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my sons father hasn't done anything so far for my son, i wathced him at all times, and paid for everything myself, the only thing he did helped with was going half on formula, diapers, wipes. but now we are seperated, and i need him to watch our son so i could work and provide for our son. but whenever we argue he uses our son to threatning me by saying "find someone else to watch Jayden" and i feel as if he using our son to get back at me. Can he not watch his son if he isn't doing anything to support him?

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Desi - posted on 01/25/2010

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Sorry girl, but he doesn't have to do anything. Nothing. You need to get him for child support and most likely depending on your income, the state will pay for daycare. Plus, do you really want to push your son on his dad if he really doesn't want to watch him for you? I mean, for all you know, his dad wouldn't be taking care of him the way you like. I'll tell ya, I feel a lot better about not asking my daughters dad not to watch her, all I tell him, is "I got it covered, Don't worry about it, I'm a big girl" Get child support filed. Trust me, I learned the hardway. Good luck!

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Jessica - posted on 02/07/2011

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Unfortunately yes he can. The only thing you can do is take him to court and try to get child support. However they can force him to pay some or all of the child provider fees.

Kai Schele - posted on 01/26/2010

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Also, I have been providing for my son FULLY since the day he was born his father hasnt helped at all, yes its hard but where there is a will there is a way.

Kai Schele - posted on 01/26/2010

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where do you live? laws are different all around but i say u need to find out if your date will pay for daycare while u work most times they have some type of program for that. But if he doesnt want to watch him dont force him because thats how bad things happen frustrated parents with kids who are around as much, baby crys or does something that gets on their nerves and baby gets hurt...and im sure u dont want that to happen, so you have to be careful who you let watch your kids dad or not.

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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get him for child support. you can also set up visitation. my mom had it set up so that if my brothers father missed three visits inn a row he lost his visitation right all together and wasn't aloud to see him at all.. maybe that would motivate him? but definetly get the child support, if nothing else it can help you afford daycare for while you work.

Mel - posted on 01/26/2010

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He doesnt need to do anything and sounds like he isnt doing anything to support his son. My daughters father is no different really. I dont force him or ask him to take her anymore, it was causing too much stress. My daughter has worked him out anyway...and she is only 3 :) I would keep being the fantastic mum you are and get people to watch him that actually care about your son and want to support him. Good luck!

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