Marissa - posted on 01/23/2011 ( 30 moms have responded )
I'm Marissa, and i live in Louisiana. My little girl is almost 4 months old. Her biological dad left me when i was 4 months pregnant and even denied my daughter the whole pregnancy, including his ENTIRE family. They made me out to me a whore and tons of more horrible things. He confronted me a few days before I was due to have her. He even cried and begged me to forgive him for leaving me, even though I had a new boyfriend who cared about me and my child, even before she got here. The day she was born, he was there, he wasn't allowed in the room because I didn't feel that he deserved that privilege considering of all the names he called me and everything else he did while I was pregnant. He didn't sign the birth certificate and she didn't get his last name, I took early precautions. I didnt talk to him for about two weeks after I had her because he tried to make it out like he was the only good in her. Which was wrong, but it upset me. We started talking again and I let him see her whenever he asked. He bought her diapers one week and then two weeks later when he got paid again. After that, he started throwing him buying diapers TWICE in my face and harrassing me personally telling me my boyfriend was cheating on me and i was a dumb b**ch for being with him, I let that go and he got mad because I wouldn't break up with him and get back with him. So i stopped talking to him, he got mad, and started calling me a crazy bit** and f**k you i want nothing to do with you. So i blocked him from my phone. At this point he hadn't seen my daughter in almost a month and didn't even ask about her. I talked to him a few weeks ago from a friend's number when he started telling my friend he was going to beat him up. He said he wanted to be civil. I told him that wasn't a problem. He threatened me to take me to court because I told him i didnt want his alcoholic mom around her. The next day he texted me saying, "Tell Brylee I love her and happy 3 month bday" i said, "okay," Then he asked if i would go DROP HER OFF WITH HIM!!! I said no, havent heard from him in almost a month, I was reading in the paper today, and it said there was a civil lawsuit, him against me. I'm so worried that he will try to get joint custody. I would be fine with supervised visits, but he bought her diapers TWICE in the almost 4 months she's been alive. I BUY EVERYTHING! My family and friends provided me with everything I needed before she got here, and they still help now, even though I'm capable of it. He doesn't have a job, a vehicle, or a stable household, (he lives with two potheads) PLEASE SOMEONE HELP, I DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO TALK TO THAT KNOWS WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH. :(
By the way, sorry for the long and drawn out story.