Erica - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
I live in Los Angeles California and I just filed child support against my son's father. He had the nerve to put on facebook that he is in a relationship with his his 10 year old daughters mother. I have no desire to be with and could care less that they are a couple other than the fact I feel that he is sandbagging me with what he can contribute. If he is with her he is not paying rent or the child support order he has with her kid. He has consistantly asked me not to file but the $100 dollars an month he has given me since he was born is not cutting it! He would always tell me how broke he was and I was doing better than him so I felt bad. Now I am doing bad and since he lives in NY I have no way to verify his situation. I just filed the paper and am kinda getting nervous that his first baby's mama will tell him to try to get joint custody. My question is since I have never lived in NY and he has never lived in CA would he be able to get joint custody? I want sole custody with him having visitation but not in NY! My son is 4 years old and whenever I have have left Logan there he comes back saying he hates me and wants to live in NY and other awful things. I tried to talk to my ex and tell him I don't talk about him negatively in front of our child and could he do the same but he told me "he can say what he wants to say". The time before that my son's dad got jailed and they where like can you come back and get him? When I told them I didn't have the money his mother brought him back. I don't want my baby out there being passed from family member to family member in order for him to be taken care of while he is out there. He has come back with with cuts on his face and a rash in his butt that no one could tell me anything about. When I went with him and stayed and it was fine. I told my ex he could no longer go without me. So he visits here. Do you think the court will make me let him go to NY by himself? I just don't want to send him alone anymore and can't afford to take him. They treat him like a vacation kid and let him do, eat and sleep whenever he wants. He comes back nuts and it take me months to get back to normal. I don't want to keep him form his dad but he is not stable in NY so I don't want to send him to that either. Any advise would help? I don't know what to do?