Lisa - posted on 07/24/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son's father just took me back to court this week and was able to get his child support lowered. I know he will stop seeing our son now. UGH! It all started in 2008. He has had me in court 6 times since then. My sons father saw him maybe 12 times in 7 years on the average of 3 hours each time. Well in 2008 he took me back to court to have support lowered. Well they raised it $500. He was angry. So he decided he wanted to see our son. In April of 2009 he took me to family court for visitation. He said he wanted him every other weekend from Friday to Sunday and holidays. I said no because our son doesnt know you with mediator help I agreed to once a week pick up from school and every other Saturday from 9 to 6. We would do this until June. If he didnt miss any visits he could start taking our son over night. Well he is married now and has 2 daughters with wife. Our son has never met them because the wife doesnt want our son in their life. The same day we went to child support court and he thought the judge would lower the support because he has visitation now. The judge asked me when the last time he saw our son I told him July of last year. The judge gave him 5% time with him. Well June came and went last year and no overnight visit because the wife wouldnt let him. The judge ordered us back last september for review and to see if visits had happened. I said yes but no overnight stays. Well ex's wife went to Mexico in September with kids. Our son had an overnight visit in September, 2 overnights in Oct, one in December. Christmas he was no show and no phone call. It January we went back to mediation for us to change overnight to just saturday to sunday every other weekend. He did that until Mothers day weekend this year. The wife is still in Mexico. Our son doesnt want to go with him overnight anymore since Mothers Day weekend. He just wants to go for a few hours. He wont get out of my car when i take him to drop off. His dad tells him we will go somewhere fun like Disneyland or anywhere you want and our son wont go. I son is ADHD. Since Mothers day weekend he may have spent 48 hours since then. I know as soon as the wife comes back their wont be any more overnight visits even though my son isnt going overnight right now. But what infuriates me is as soon as the wife comes back the option wont be there and my child support is based on him having him 10% of the time. I guess I just have to wait out the 6 months to take him back to court. I consider myself lucky because many woman have ex's that are deadbeats. I use to have a deadbeat the first year of our sons life until I got DCSS involved. They dont mess around her in California. They take Drivers license, negative rating credit report and bench warrants.