Jessica - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I thought my ex was my sons father and after a dna test i found out its not the case. he is on the birth certificate and he has my ex's last name. SO, i explained to the only other man in my life what was going on. i did tell him when i got pregnant and all he said was he could give me the money for an abortion. i explained that i was with my ex and believed it to be his. I am not a slut just a one night mix up and i was single. He has decided to tell me to change my sons last name to mine for NOW! and that he is not ready to be a father, he s moving out of state and trying to get his life together. so i explained that i want to go to child support and get the dna test done and settle it threw them since he is moving away. He told me cant we just skp all that, and how much do i have to send you a month. Meaning how much do i have to give you so i dont have to tell my family or see him RIGHT NOW. I am not sure what to do. i did fill out the child support papers and send them in but there is so much going on with this i am not sure how to deal with it all. i have to take my ex's name off the birth certificate, which i need lawyer for. i also have a three year old daughter and she does not understand why her brother does't go to daddy's anymore. I am not sure what to tell her either! I am not sure wether to try and talk to him or to just leave him alone. Do i let him know when he starts to walk or says more words? i am lost with this situation.