Beth - posted on 04/15/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am in contact with some of my ex's family on facebook. Almost 3 years ago my ex father in law got in contact with me asking for contact between him and his wife and my girls (three of their grandchildren). Wrote back saying how they were etc. and that I didn't mind the contact.
Since then just over 2 years ago my ex husband said that he wanted to have contact again - which he managed to do for a few months but didn't continue with the contact. (Mainly because I suspect it wasn't happening as fast as he wanted and he lost interest.)
I asked his family if any of them wanted contact with my girls. Message came back that I was sending out mixed messages to them - saying that they could have contact, but I was discouraging my ex at the same time and they didn't know what was happening. Explained to them that it wasn't a family thing, I didn't have any issues with them, it was just my ex husband because of his behaviour etc..
I am still 'friends' with some of his family on Facebook. Do I give them a last chance to have contact with my girls (especially now that my girls are growing up quickly) or do I leave them to make the effort. They haven't seen my girls for about 6.5 years now and some of them have been friends with me on facebook for just over 2 years now. They rarely ask after the girls.