Rebekh - posted on 11/28/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have 3 children all by the same man, We were going to get married until I found out he was cheating. He acted as if it weren't an issue so the relationship went south, Physical abuse, stalking, and harassment began. I ended the relationship, finished my education, and was promoted at my job. "father" lives 1/2 down the street and this year he's only seen our kids 3/11 months about to start 3/12 months. He's left our children at daycare on days he was suppose to pick them up. We currently have no child custody agreement. I want to get an agreement because I don't think it's fair for him not not pick up our children when he doesn't feel like it. I will be moving out of state between JAn and Feb due to a job promotion.
1. Should I wait to pursue the custody agreement after I move?
2. what are the possibilities of me being granted full daycare at his expense during the summer since he's hardly involved?
I think the situation is unfair because he's 13 years older than me and I know I made the decisions and have to deal with the consequences. I get tired of the stuff he's always doing. He's always telling people and his family lies about me and is so critical and rude to me. I've been raising our children on my own with very, very little help from him if any. Then he has the nerve to tell me I'm doing a bad job.
Also, can I request in the custody agreement that he is not allowed to talk negatively in front of or to my children about me? Because he keeps saying he can't wait until their older so he can tell them what type of person I am. I don't slander his name or talk badly about him to people. I still treat him with respect even though I don't think he deserves it. HELP!