May - posted on 03/16/2017 ( 3 moms have responded )
I apologize for this thread to be long:
I'm a 21 year old, never married, single mom. My son and I are currently living with my mom. My son's father wants to take full custody of my son. He is currently in the military and I am a CNA aspiring to become a RN. We dated back in 2012 but ended two years later in 2014, 6 months after my son was born. I am currently in a relationship with someone for almost 3 years now. My current boyfriend has been around my son ever since he was 10 months old. My son doesn't call him daddy because I taught him to use my boyfriend's real name, but he is like a father to him. My son would get so excited to see him whenever I video chat my partner. Recently, my ex calls me telling me that he wants have my 3y/o live with him. My son has been living with me and my mom ever since he was born. My ex's claim was "I never got to spend time with him and I want to raise him how i want him to be raised." (My ex left for the military when my child was about 5 to 7 months old) He then asks me if I am putting him in daycare, and I answer that yes, I am, for when I'm working. His response was, "uh-huh, ok. See you in July. You'll see." (This is the time he will be getting back from his deployment) Why is he asking if I am putting him into daycare? We already have a court order for the custody/visitations(est. 2015), but he wants to change it. We currently have joint legal custody with residential custody given to me, with parenting time for the father. It also states that if there are major issues with the child, we should both be well informed. The last thing it states is that if we can't agree on issues regarding my son after consultation, then the residential parent will have final authority. What does this mean? My ex also was put into a psych ward back in 2011, he had cheated on me with some girl he had met online before and during the month I had just given birth to my son, and the day I was going back home from the hospital after my son was born with my ex and my mom, he pulls me aside asking if i want to put my son up for adoption because he didn't like the way my mom was treating me that day. Please help me. I don't want to lose my son. He means everything to me. I'm very scared why he wants to take my son away. Am I wrong in this situation?